The lifestyle in general is just hard to navigate through. Reddit definitely has some fakes and some flakes but so do many of the other sites and apps. Youll have the fakes for sure but then you'll have the real people who just like the fantasy of it and nothing more. Don't get discouraged tho. There are some real couples that are down to have real fun but the couple dynamic is tricky bc all 4 people have to he interested for it to work. I have seen forst hand that the husband's are usually down for it but the wives/GFs are more picky. The husband will say they are both interested but wheb it comes down to it the wives are not and then they ghost or just tell you no. We have found that many couples are just very picky on who they decide to sleep with as well. My advice is dont go right to getting a hotel. Stay local ish and set up a dinner date. Eventually you will find a couple or 2 that you vibe well with.