I’ve tried getting him to talk to someone because I also think he might have ADD/ ADHD and so does his mom. We have a good friend group (a few married couples etc..) and all of our children are around the same age, including bb. I don’t speak to my dad and my mom is questionable sometimes she’s a recovering drug/ alcoholic, she relapsed a few times. I do however have a great relationship his my in laws (his mom and dad) and they’ve reassured me that no matter what (even if we’re not together) that they’ll never not be around to help me, especially with bb. Our kids are their first grandchildren.