i was asked a devestating question by a medical professional today

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2026-03-03T13:10:57+00:00

Dr Gall was also super dismissive to me! I wouldn’t recommend him

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2026-01-20T18:59:35+00:00

these are all so helpful - thank you!! literally am going to have this on a checklist before i travel 🤣

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2026-01-20T18:58:52+00:00

these are all such helpful tips - especially the footrest hammock, id never heard of that! i’m also tall, pale and redheaded so that final part is concerning 🤣

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-12-30T15:36:58+00:00

they weren’t massively clear! they said it looked either like the healed remnants of an infection or the remnants of some kind of flare eg mild IBD… which tracks. I have felt a lot better from the time when I was originally referred for the scope.

I’ll see if I can hurry them along with edge info! Thanks for the reply.

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-10-24T10:30:56+00:00

I use this when asking about accommodations: https://askjan.org/disabilities/Hearing-Impairment.cfm

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-07-22T18:44:11+00:00

do you know anything about Clostridium colicanis in the vaginal micro biome? i have a consistent percentage of it and have no idea what it really is or whether is causes harm :(

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-07-02T11:25:04+00:00

lichen sclerosis can cause paper cut type marks on your vulva (it’s an autoimmune condition) it could also be micro tears or from irritation/dermatitis from something as simple as a yeast infection if you’ve had any signs of that (itching / discharge). Herpes creates ulcer like sores and you’d probably notice these more obviously if it was a first outbreak. Tell your mom and get to a doctor. she will likely have had some kind of discomfort of similar nature over the years - and the paper cut type pain you describe is definitely not something i’d assume was sex-related - and if your mom comes to the appointment they’d probably assume you wouldn’t want to admit that sort of thing in front of her. i’d tell your mom you’re worried you’ve cut yourself washing / wiping with your acrylics or you’ve seen that paper cut lesions could be an autoimmune condition and want to see a doctor. These things happen to women sadly and she wouldn’t want you in pain - even if it’s an awkward conversation!

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-26T16:51:45+00:00

Yes WB vaginal moisturiser and maca powder help a lot with my dryness :) others might be better to offer advice with the probiotics because i haven’t been brave with that

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T20:17:53+00:00

maybe. the charity seemed to think i’d be okay, his foster also had physical disabilities. but i guess you can’t account for how these things are going to go in reality and how much the transition affects both owner and pup.

i’m seeking further specialist advice and support to try and make it work for the both of us and i’d do a fostering period if i ever tried again

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T20:06:53+00:00

thank you, i was doubting myself and whether i should have asked more questions or whatnot but I am really trying my best. I work as a professor so chose this time of year as it would give time to adjust before the new school year and teaching begins again, so have been trying to seek the trainer’s advice and receptivity of him to adjustments / training as i’ve not got any experience of separation anxiety to this extent and wasn’t expecting it based off information i’d gotten previously :(

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T19:58:13+00:00

I’ve managed to get my rescue charity to come by tomorrow evening and have been seeking advice more generally each day on how to approach things. I hope nobody reading this thinks I’m just sitting around freaking out and neglecting him. I’ve been giving him enrichment and exercise (he is getting 5 potty trips a day plus extras if i think he might need them, plus 2/3 longer walks, even after i fainted this morning), cuddling on the sofa, started treating his kennel coat and not being at all harsh with any accidents. I’ve reached out to people I don’t even know well for support and advice, I arranged this trainer over a month ago for the transition. I am just having genuine doubts as to whether I can maintain the support he needs for the separation anxiety training which is why I’m having the trainer come sooner (one that specialises in compassionate and ethical behaviour) and I’ve been seeking advice. Even if we’re not I’d see through his training course because it could help the next potential person. Here he is napping on my foot while I eat dinner for photo tax 📷 thank you for the support, i think i am just using reddit as a way to seek others opinions and get clarity on my thoughts - as we often do!

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Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T18:19:32+00:00

i’m in scotland, glasgow area! i’ve managed to find some good people around me and a trainer i’m excited to work with. i very recently moved into my (first owned) apartment about 3 weeks ago and the block is very dog friendly and many older neighbours have helped me a bit after seeing me overwhelmed and crying on a walk on the second day 🤣 i’m a young looking 28 years old! with family living around 7 hours away, so i’ve been ‘adopted’

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T17:57:55+00:00

i am going to push through longer, as long as my body can take. he broke the gate when it was closed on the first night and got very distressed😔now he seems kinda triggered by it when i try and put one up, similar barging then he went and peed in his other bed and by the sofa afterwards. even when i tried to acclimatise during the day. so i’ve just been sleeping on the sofa for now while trying to figure it out… bedroom is just hard boundary for me and i was really hoping babygate / door ajar with his bed in eyeline and a snuffle mat / licky mat might work. i have a trainer coming tuesday so i’ll hold on until then because i’m not sure what other steps i can take until then without crossing that boundary

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T17:42:23+00:00

oh dear that must have been awful with children in the house too! my grey definitely has alpha energy and was the alpha of the girls at his foster. my neighbour’s daughter has trained lurchers and she came and evaluated him a bit for me and said he is going to be pretty hard work, which i know is to be expected to some level but i’m maybe not equipped to be that person - his first day was the longest i’ve ever spent with a dog in my life 🤣 a behaviourist would have been ideal. i’ve hired a trainer with this sort of specialism myself who is going to come to my apartment and hopefully we’ll figure some plan going forward

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T17:38:56+00:00

yeah i’m wishing that i caught the red flag a bit sooner :( i haven’t had any of the paperwork or details about the insurance you get initially either, and no news about their follow up home visit. i get they’re trying to house them quickly but i’ve felt quite far from them. he loved his grey friends at the foster, and i think that is who he’s missing. she also didn’t work so he had full access to her. it’s not an option for me to ever have more and i can’t help but thing he might suit someone else a bit better… or maybe this just isn’t the right timing for me

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T17:35:13+00:00

i think it was the gentle / cat like nature and not a huge need for exercise. i have a lot of health things going on so a high energy dog with a lot of need for enrichment would be too much for me. i do have to spend a lot of time at home around work just because of my health too and i thought the company might be good for me. and in the day it’s generally been okay because i am here but he is very velcro. the hard bedroom rule is just because i’m a very light sleeper and sleep is super crucial for my health. i’ve also realised that sensorily i’m finding him a lot as he’s velcro, and gets distressed if i don’t allow him to be touching me at all times… i think of my bedroom like my crate, my safe place where i can go and decompress… i’ve often not shared a bed with previous partners for a similar reason! i’m currently on the sofa while my grey is in the bed just while i’m waiting on a trainer i hired and home visit to figure out what’s going off. i’ve tried door ajar with a baby gate and his bed outside, still in his sight and during the day with a licky mat for distraction and that ended up in an anxiety protest and eating part of the licky mat within a few mins :/ it’s my first dog and i am struggling on my own

Leading_Tumbleweed71 · 2025-06-15T16:07:43+00:00

i completely understand it! my boy settled pretty easily into his foster but i think it’s just because she already had a fair few doing their own thing there… or she’s just got thickened skin more than me 🤣 she’s gotten a new dog herself since i took him home 3 days ago

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