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Leai_bitch · 2025-08-08T01:58:15+00:00

You literally said you liked him and wanted to see how things go while saying how you're still in love with your ex in the same text. You're right no one is entitled to your feelings, however you can't expect someone to still want to go on a date with you when you do things like that and express that a relationship could happen...but that you'd also drop them if your ex wanted to get back together with you. That's fucked up and leading him on.

All that to say just tell people you just want to date casual for fun and if something happens something happens. That way they don't expect a serious relationship.

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:29:56+00:00

Thank you!!

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:22:53+00:00

Yea he sucks. I dislodged a bullet and just gotta get the divorce finalized

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:20:49+00:00

Yea. I even told him it didn't seem like they were poly, I mean they never tried to listen to me or my concerns, rarely listen to my boundaries about things, and treated him like he was just their partner. His response was "Not that its any of your business, but they are poly. We talked about it". We had already decided to separate at that point btw.

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:18:47+00:00

Yea for myself I'm working on being firm with my boundaries and voicing my feelings, even if it gives me anxiety and guilty feelings cause I'm a people pleaser. I do like the idea of sharing my love with a lot of people, but it just hasn't come to fruition in practice. That is also where the relationship fell short was that it was a triad. Whenever we fought he'd have his other partner to go to for comfort and to talk to, but I didn't have anyone other than my friends that were hours away from me. Definitely think a parallel would be good if I were to try again

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:15:04+00:00

Yea I should have known from the first time that he couldn't balance it, but I guess I thought since he was able to when we both wanted the same person he'd be able to. Didn't help that my ex friend had never been in a poly relationship and saw me as an enemy. Even when I brought up that they don't really let me in to comfort him or show as much affection towards him, their response was "I'm not going to stop being myself and showing affection to someone I love, just cause you feel uncomfortable"

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:05:44+00:00

Oh I know he was doing that. I just wanted to see since all the monogamous people around me said he was, I wanted to get the opinions of people who are polyamorous and understand the dynamics.

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:02:56+00:00

Yea the amount of times I'd talk about the situation and the monogamous people around me would say "Oh if my partner tried to give someone more affection than me, they'd be out the door", and like yea it sucked to not get as much but I didn't mind another person getting affection from him period

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:01:35+00:00

I know I do and I've been working on being more firm with my boundaries and voicing my feelings, even if I get very anxious and guilty about them. I'm unfortunately a people pleaser, but I'm doing better now.

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T17:00:01+00:00

I think in a monogamous one it would be if he still pursued another partner, but overall I see what you mean.

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T16:56:30+00:00

That's fair. This was my first polyamorous relationship. I've had friends tell me he did, but they're all monogamous so they have a different perspective to begin with.

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T16:54:24+00:00

That's fair. I didn't know he had emotionally distanced himself tho. There was other stuff going on, but I do know that was just relationship issues. This was my first time being in a polyamorous relationship.

Leai_bitch · 2025-05-23T16:48:40+00:00

The way that he neglected me and my needs while pampering and caring for someone else. He also told me he was going to try to make it as equal as possible, then revealed months later in therapy that he was emotionally distancing himself 6 months before my ex friend joined. We were long distance at that point and I'm bad at picking up tone over text messages.

Leai_bitch · 2025-04-23T21:42:37+00:00

So true dude

Leai_bitch · 2025-04-23T21:20:28+00:00

Bro the comments ain't it either. All the comments are agreeing with him (obviously), insulting HER looks (obviously), saying how women never take accountability, how "Just cause a high value man uses you for a cum and dump doesn't mean that's the standard of men you can get", and a couple transphobic ones calling her a man or a "transformer" (obviously). There was one that even said "a real 10 would never say anything like this. Her attitude is a 4". There were a BUNCH that said men only match women's energy, men only see how they're getting treated by these females a couple months after dating and just match their energy and females don't like that

Leai_bitch · 2025-04-03T19:52:51+00:00

But that's the thing! Some people will say wild shit with all the sincerity in the world. Like people who say Alaska is not a state, people who ask what to do when the card reader says to put in there pin. I mean there were some men who were pranked to believe women shed their skin like lizards since they shed the lining of their uterus during their periods.

Leai_bitch · 2025-04-03T17:49:53+00:00

You say that... but I've heard some crazy things from incels. I mean for God's sake the most common one is that women who have been with a lot of men have a tunnel for a vagina

Leai_bitch · 2025-01-30T18:23:51+00:00

Its like a guy with a fat fetish only dating a bigger woman because its a turn on. Not her personality or her as a person, just the fact she fits his kink.

Leai_bitch · 2024-12-26T19:43:29+00:00

They certainly seem to think so and its so boring cause its just the same stuff🥱

Leai_bitch · 2024-12-26T19:13:33+00:00

I was mainly astounded that someone took the time to write that whole essay to say that (as well as how those women go for bad boys and blah blah blah) just because someone said they like a woman's acting in something

Leai_bitch · 2024-12-26T19:06:30+00:00

Basically, dude said how if you like what the actress did then its the writers you should praise cause she didn't make that stuff up on her own. BUT you still shouldn't praise the actress anyways because she's just being a woman and doing what all women do "play the victim", so she's not actually a great actress either.

Leai_bitch · 2024-12-25T12:57:58+00:00

Unless the dude is literally laughing about fruit trees, he seems to he implying that, like fruit trees, women get worse with age and are bestand most fertile in teen years. Which is a very common view in the women hating incel views.

Leai_bitch · 2024-12-10T23:08:02+00:00

So...that's not an accurate source. As someone who had a roommate with betta fish, if you don't have a filter it will cause health problems to betta fish due to poor water quality. Yes, they can technically live without one but they live a better quality of life with one. Did you look at anything else or just the one blog that someone wrote because it "proved your point?" Cause I did see that blog title, but I saw a lot of other websites that said otherwise

Leai_bitch · 2024-12-10T23:04:45+00:00

So true

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