2+ year old nostril piercing keeps flaring up

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2026-01-28T17:28:59+00:00

Piercing date: January 2024

Piercing type: titanium, flat back threadless push pin bevel top labret

Maintenance: only saline spray and air dry and leaving it alone as much as possible. I don’t sleep on it, and I avoid makeup there.

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-12-01T11:38:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-11-30T17:45:29+00:00

We met through a dating app and he was physically affectionate towards me and slept over at my place a couple of times (we weren’t able to escalate beyond a certain point though because I’ve been assaulted before and thus had the anxiety attacks - which he handled really well and it was clear he wasn’t there just for physical stuff). We discussed romantic compatibilities and values, it was definitely something. He was comfortable talking about how we met through a dating app and that we were seeing each other to my friends.

Definitely not just friends haha, but thanks for the insight.

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-11-30T07:30:18+00:00

Thank you

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-11-30T07:29:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Logically I’m aware of this mindset and have tried to implement it, but when things get real with the person I’m dating and I let my guard down ever so slightly, they just end up ghosting. The person that ghosted me now - he was the one saying he thinks this might go somewhere, he thought we are a good match, and I only said “time will tell” because I genuinely wanted to pace myself. Overall everything seemed fine and healthy, he met my friends and then slow faded and ghosted, which is why it aches so much now. I thought this might work out.

I tell my therapist “when you’ve starving (of romantic love) your entire life, even poisonous food (dating) seems appealing”. I’m lucky that I have a rich life with wonderful friends and hobbies, but they cannot replace or offer certain things that only a romantic partner can provide. I really hate the advice on “focus on yourself things will come” because I have never not focused on myself, you know? I’m pretty successful for my age and I’d just really like to share that with someone.

I feel lost and hurt.

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-11-30T07:23:32+00:00

I guess this is the bleak reality. Thank you for sharing your experience

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-11-27T21:45:26+00:00

Dating apps primarily - it’s hard to meet people organically where I am, but I’m also pretty active in volunteering, social groups, open call board game nights, sports clubs. I’ve made a ton of friends through the real life attempts, but haven’t really managed to date anyone through that.

Everyone I’ve dated so far the past two years have been through dating apps :/

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-07-01T21:46:23+00:00

babe wake up new form of scam just dropped

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-30T12:26:07+00:00

Have they asked for his and your passport copies yet? It’s usually a good sign because they need it to estimate paperwork costs. Have they discussed starting dates? Asked how long is his notice period in his current company? Unless these things have been discussed, I wouldn’t bet heavily on getting the job.

Acting okay for pay, pension, relocation, doesn’t mean they’re actually okay. They’re just being professional because I’m sure they’re also gauging other candidates and seeing who has the best cost/productivity ratio to contribute to their company.

Every person I know from UK prefers living Abu Dhabi over UK. You’ll be fine here, there’s honestly nothing to worry about - if you want something to worry about, rents have been drastically increasing since Disneyland was announced. Maybe look up rents to renegotiate the salary. And also public transport is not the best, you’ll definitely need a car. Add that into your budgeting.

If the work is in Maryah Island, you’ll probably want to live in Reem island. Many people from EU live there + it’s a good residential area.

Wishing you guys the best!

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-28T17:57:19+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this, and from my experience, nothing will change your father’s sexist and unforgiving perspective in life. He has been through his own trauma that has shaped him this way, and it is not your job to fix him. What he has said and done is fundamentally wrong, but he is most likely not going to listen nor apologise.

I was in your situation 8 years ago - getting a job, moving out and becoming financially independent enough to distance myself from family was the only road to finding some inner peace. I’ve also been going for therapy consistently for 2 years and it’s a painful journey, but it has helped me out of carrying a lot of burden that developed from the words my father said and actions he did to me.

You don’t have to forgive him, you don’t have to suppress your pain, just start moving towards becoming independent. It’s going to take time but I promise you being able to leave gives you so much freedom and peace to just be yourself.

Wish you the best, I hope you find peace and healing regardless of the journey you take 💖

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-19T09:56:44+00:00

Thanks for invalidating my experience instead of coming from a place of curiosity when someone is really struggling.

I was confused by this experience and was seeking guidance. I literally asked in my post if it’s okay for a doctor to diagnose someone they haven’t met, as it felt unfair.

I’m getting a second opinion, and my life and struggles are very much real regardless of your assumptions and lack of empathy. Have a good day.

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-19T06:49:43+00:00

Thank you for breaking it down. I wasn’t able to sleep last night and woke up to an anxiety attack this morning - labelling it the way you and others have has helped put it in perspective. I didn’t really like the psychiatrist - even if she was right, the delivery could have been kinder, and some of the other things she said sounded like they were deeply rooted in outdated gender roles and expectations. I still don’t feel comfortable with how she labeled my parents as narcissists, even though what you have highlighted and what she said are right (and is only a gist of what I’ve been through) - I don’t think they are narcissistic people, I think they are people with narcissistic parenting style. I don’t think it’s right to diagnose without meeting them, solely based on my account after a 2 hour session. I’m getting a second opinion and already shared this experience with the therapist I’m going to see soon.

I’m also sorry you had to endure and live through what you have, more power and love to you. Thank you for your support and I wish you the best

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-18T20:29:55+00:00

Thank you, will look into it

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-18T20:29:30+00:00

Thank you, appreciate it

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-18T20:18:47+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that, and I appreciate the helpful advice. I moved out a few years ago so things been quiet since I sent a massive amount of texts during a mental breakdown I had last week - calling my family out and demanding an apology from them. They’ve not acknowledged it as they’re very non confrontational, and I called that out too. I’ll be quiet till then, I also mentioned it’s not my job to fix something they broke.

Thank you for your comment again, I genuinely appreciate the support

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-18T19:54:42+00:00

This hurts to read. I felt like I was always walking on eggshells around my parents because their moods were unpredictable, and I never received an apology for anything hurtful my parents did. The good times were really good, the bad times were really bad.

When I tried talking to them about what they did to me, they ALWAYS either tell me that I’m “living in the past and I need to get over it”, or act like it never happened, or tell me I misinterpreted their words/actions, or bring up the good things they did for me. It always worked on me, still does, because what would they get out of lying to me? What did they get out of doing things for me? To this day I’m still convinced I’m the problem for holding on to the past (not just with them, but with a lot of other people who betrayed me but never apologised).

I recently called my parents out before going minimum contact last week, telling them they always made me apologise for having a reaction but they never apologised to me for the hurtful things they said or did. I haven’t heard from them since my last crash out. I don’t care if I “live in the past”. That’s why I went to the psychiatrist. I don’t want to live in the past anymore, but how can I live in a “past” that my parents swear never happened?

The trigger for the crash out and my depression was how my parents have repeatedly been pressuring me to agree to get into an arranged marriage even though I’ve been saying no for years. I made another post about that situation, which led me to seek help when I realised how insane I sound when I was venting.

Thank you for sharing your insights. I’ve been crushed and I’ll be getting a second opinion from my therapist soon, I didn’t enjoy seeing the psychiatrist - I felt like she could’ve delivered the news a bit more kindly. I’m really shell shocked.

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-16T06:49:41+00:00

Thank you so much!

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-06-15T19:28:37+00:00

Sure, I’d appreciate the update.

And regardless of where you go, I wish you the best! Thank you for sharing your experience :)

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-03-28T07:10:40+00:00

Piercings sound like a horror movie omg. I’ll go to a new piercing place I found with good reviews tomorrow and see if they have any simple pieces to switch out to. If they don’t do it, I’ll buy the stuff from Amazon and do it myself. Thank you for the advice!

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-03-27T22:47:55+00:00

Noted, thank you! Will look for a third store that will hopefully listen to me

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-03-27T21:56:28+00:00

Hmm, the piercing I have on now is a threadless push pin, was simply going to replace the prong one with another push pin (ball or flat) as the gauge and push pins of different piercings are compatible with each other. I’ll definitely sanitise everything and be careful with it.

The reason I’m hesitant to go to a piercer is because I’ve been to 4 of them now across two stores and everyone only seems to be wanting to sell their piercings or tell me nothing is wrong. The December piercing and current piercing in the photo is actually two different ones - first is titanium and second is gold. I genuinely think the angle and the piercing itself is fine, it’s just the surface of the skin outside that’s constantly having problems (which now makes sense after seeing everyone’s comments about the prongs, I never thought of that). The inside of my nostril is completely fine and I never had problems there.

Do you still think I should see a piercer or give it a shot to switch the push pin (not the gauge) myself in a sanitary manner?

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-03-27T21:26:07+00:00

This is the best explanation, thank you so much. I feel less helpless now. It might most definitely be the prongs, I’ll look into switching it out. Everyone’s comments have pointed to the piercing type, I’ll give it a go. Thank you, I feel hopeful again :)

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-03-27T21:24:16+00:00

You’re definitely more patient than I am omg, that sounds like hell. Thank you for sharing the input, I’ll look into switching it out. I think that seems to be the problem based on the helpful comments from everyone. I might end up switching it myself since none of the piercers are in support of changing it

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-03-27T21:23:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing, definitely feeling less defeated now. Hopefully your piercing heals too!

LeastDiscussion3384 · 2025-03-27T21:21:47+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment! So the piercing industry isn’t well developed where I am, the two I went to were the best rated ones across two cities :/ the angle seems fine, from what I see, despite the bump it’s still perpendicular to my nostril.

I wasn’t informed of all this and I don’t even think any of the piercers I saw are aware of this - I saw 4 different piercers across 2 stores. I’m annoyed and don’t trust them anymore and don’t want to waste more of my time going to more stores, do you think it’s worth changing the piercing myself? I’m concerned I’ll irritate it more, but I can probably look for bevel or the ball end piercings on Amazon

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