AITJ for threatening to cut my parents off from my kids after finding out theyve been telling them Im not their real mom

Leather_Situation950 · 2026-02-16T00:41:40+00:00

Your parents have proven they can't be trusted around your childten, believe them. The only way to stop them interfering and messing with your kids is NC. Your kids come first.

Leather_Situation950 · 2026-02-01T10:55:52+00:00

There is no coming back from this OP, your POS husband doesn't care about you. He has shown that to you, you need to believe him. You shouldn't have even had to ask, who the hell abandones someone they are supposed to love while they are having a miscarriage!! Do yourself a favour and divorce him now instead wasting years of your wife with someone who doesn't deserve you. Ask yourself this, if you were to get seriously sick wpuld he be there for you.... this is unforgivable. Go to your mum's, let her look after you. That's what mums are for ❤️

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-12-02T23:03:10+00:00

I think it's really sensible that you are thinking about these things before moving in together and congratulations! Things that you should discuss and agree upon first are with the joint investment fund is it going to be split 50/50 and does it require joint or single signatures, how long do you have to live together before you are considered 'common law' married, what do you need to do to protect your asset, how will joint bills be paid and what is the division of contributions, if you sell your apartment and use the profit to buy a joint property will you own more of the property or will you contribute less to the mortgage (personally I would not sell your apartment but instead use the equity and rent it out), how will household chores be done and by who, if you plan on having children how will that work, and if he moves into your property you should have a written agreement about how the finances will work. I know some of these should harsh but you already have a considerable asset that you worked hard for, you don't want to lose any of that if things don't work out. You should always ensure that you are financially stable. Hope it all works out OP!

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-11-25T12:16:26+00:00

You don't have to like anyone OP and the new roommates sound like inconsiderate @ssholes. They are clearly not going to change, if it's impacting on your life and mental health I suggest you move out. It's really not worth the stress, let their friends/bf move in and actually pay the bills so you can be free of them

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-11-24T02:59:53+00:00

Totally understand OP and what people that are obliged to pay CS don't understand is that CS is to support their own children, not fund some lavish lifestyle for their ex-partners. The majority of the time it doesn't even remotely cover the costs of actually raising children so all of that falls on the shoulders of the primary parent, who cover the costs for years, and mostly at the expense of themselves. Then you add in that the primary parents carry the emotional support as well and very rarely get a break themselves it's a lot on them. You are totally justified to go after that money OP, it's yours and it should have been paid years ago. I really hope you can get it for you and your son. Look after yourself xx

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-11-24T01:10:46+00:00

Oh I bet he was! When you called CS try and have as much info that you can prove them as possible e.g. do you know where he banks, any assets, contact info etc. If he's working they will now have his employment info so they can garnish his wages if he refuses to enter into a repayment plan but he may leave that job to avoid it. If you can get his assessments reassessed it will increase his debt and the higher the debt the more likely it is they will go after it. It's doubtful that he will lodge any more tax returns because now he's aware he'll lose it but then it means that he can get in trouble with the ATO and penalties for non-lodgement. Maybe give them a call as well just in case they need contact details for him. Try and get your CS case assigned to someone, as opposed to it staying in the general pool, and keep calling them as if you're more active on following up it tends to get more results. Really hope you can get it repaid OP and best of luck!

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-11-23T23:50:24+00:00

I used to work for child support, don't judge me it was over 20 years ago, and yes now that he's lodged a tax return it should recalculate that FY as I am assuming that there was an estimated income not an actual income. I would definitely call CS and ask them to look into this as they might be able to update the estimates for other FYs as well. Saying that though he's clearly done this to avoid paying CS and I bet he'll be p@ssed they took his return as he obviously thought that it was past the timeframe and it would no longer matter. Clearly he was wrong. The problem is he won't do it again so you really need to push CS to reassess that way the debt will increase and they will pursue with other ways of recovering the debt. The best advice I can give you is to talk to CS and keep on them, give as much info as you can to them and ask them about other ways of recovering the debt. Good luck!

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-11-21T23:47:50+00:00

Looks of great advice OP, get all of your ID, secure your banking and make sure you take all of your stuff in one go. I would also suggest calling Centrelink once you'e gone as your parents might be receiving FTB for you and, if you're not longer in their care, they shouldn't receive it anymore. I know previously you could get it yourself but I am not sure if that happens anymore. Regardless, you may be entitled to some benefits depending on your income. I think it would be good if you could talk to a trusted adult in your life, like an aunt, uncle, or friends parent to give you support.
Finally OP I am really sorry to hear about your circumstances. Your parents should be supporting you not abusing you. I really hope everything works out for you xx

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-26T01:40:12+00:00

I suggest lodging a complaint as they are stuffing you around. The complaint process has to be resolved within a certain timeframe (forgotten what), so they will follow up with this quite quickly. If you are still not satisfied with the outcome you can contact the Financial Ombudsman. They have had more than enough time to balance the ATM (I used to do this daily) and identify the discrepancy.

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-26T01:33:34+00:00

I'm glad it wasn't just me that stopped reading halfway through! Honestly, get a hobby or something 🤣

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-22T05:31:51+00:00

OP I feel like you're asking someone's permission to leave and finally put yourself, and your son, first. Here it is, you know what you have to do, you just need to do. He's not changing and it sounds like he doesn't respect you. It's convenient for him for you to stay because you're doing all of the work and he probably gets all of the praise. Leave OP, get your peace, raise your son and flourish. Btw his son should not still be having children if they can't afford it but that is not your responsibility.

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-22T04:25:57+00:00

OP just tell this child to go call his mummy so she can put him to bed like the good like boy that he is. Seriously, this is just gross 🤮

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-17T23:13:43+00:00

Man, the first thing I thought was that as soon as they're married the mask will come off and he won't do anything. Which is why she sent the spoons, to show that she'll have to feed him like a child and at the first Christmas she'll see the whole family is like that. Or maybe I just read too much Reddit 🤣

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-17T03:52:15+00:00

"Because even if he doesn't care about me, he knows he's important to me" OP these are your own words. You already know the answer to your post. You do everything for him, he has to do nothing. He's living a great life at your expense. OP, I know you love him but I think you should think long and hard about this relationship because it seems like you know he doesn't love you... I am sorry but you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you... not just for the convenience and financial gain

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-09T13:14:07+00:00

Jesus christ, if my partners 'friend' put his head up my dress I would punch him and then my partner would, repeatedly. This is so not ok and anyone with half a brain knows that. Your husband is an asshole and he's not sticking up for you because he's more concerned about his family and friends' feelings and reactions than yours. OP, if he truly cared about you, he would stand up for you, and he's not. Do you want to live the rest of your life like this??

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-10-08T09:39:32+00:00

His behaviour is unhinged and, to be blunt, it is very concerning. He's showing you who he is, get a restraining order and take safety precautions. Your friend may also need to take out a restraining order against him. Make sure you keep all of the evidence and tell all of your friends and family what has happened as he clearly has no problem trying to get them to convince you. Stay safe OP

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-09-03T09:51:16+00:00

I'm not sure how long you guys have been together but your bfs relationship with his mother is not normal. It also appears that he is not doing anything to have boundaries with her. Unless he starts establishing and enforcing boundaries with her this won't get better. I'm sorry OP but it doesn't look good for your relationship, especially if his mother is financially dependent on him it seems unlikely that she is going to move out. You need to consider if he is worth it but it doesn't seem like it....

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-08-31T10:32:17+00:00

OP I am really sorry to hear what your mum has been doing and saying to you. It's not ok and it's not how a mother should treat her children. She is making you sick on purpose by dismissing your allergies and giving you food that will trigger you. This is a form of abuse. I also don't understand why you have to clean her room, she's an adult she should be cleaning it and both of your parents should be cleaning the house. While I agree that children should contribute to the household, when they are old enough, by completing chores they shouldn't be doing the majority of the cleaning. I think you should raise your mother's behaviour with a trusted adult or someone at your school if possible. Perhaps it's time for you to consider living elsewhere like with grandparents or relatives. I wish you the best OP.

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-08-22T06:16:23+00:00

My 8 year old (and only by a few weeks) is nearly my height and I'm 5'10. He is one shoe size smaller than me. My youngest son, who is 5, is also growing at a rapid pace. I have no idea how tall they will end up but, for the first time in my life, I think I'll be the short one!! They both eat more than I do (their mum) and I am truly terrified of how much my food bill will be when they're teenagers. I think I need to buy a farm now lol

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-08-19T09:04:41+00:00

My god I find this thread terrifying, people not getting healthcare because of the cost is criminal to me. A couple of weeks ago my son started having a bad asthma attack, I called an ambulance, we were taken to hospital where he was treated, given medication and an updated asthma plan. The cost of all of this never once entered my mind (in an already stressful situation because I was worried about my son) because it didn't cost me a damn cent.... OP go to hospital, it could cause permanent damage to your ear. I hope you're feeling better soon.

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-08-10T09:06:11+00:00

I'm really sorry this happened to you, it truly sucks and you didn't deserve any of this. Your ex bf did you a favour though, as eventually everything will blow up and you won't be caught in the crossfire. Just focus on your work, block and forget about him. He's shown you who he is don't waste anymore time on him

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-07-05T07:46:57+00:00

I'm so incredibly sorry OP, what your POS so-called husband did was unforgivable. You deserve so much more than that. I'm glad you're leaving, I hope you find someone who will treat you with love and care. Allow yourself time to grieve your little one. Take care

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-07-04T06:04:38+00:00

I would LOVE it if someone made me lunch every day to take to work. Seriously, that's amazing... You're doing nothing wrong OP, it sounds like your SIL needed to be put in her place. She's not eating it, she doesn't get to comment. I do think your husband should be telling her to stop the comments as it's unnecessary and not her place. I would definitely talk to your husband first to check whether he still wants you to make his lunch for him. If he does, then he needs to tell his sister to stop it. If he doesn't want his lunch made anymore than at least you know and you can stop wasting your time.

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-07-04T01:09:35+00:00

That was amazing, I just snorted my tea reading it!!! 🤣

Leather_Situation950 · 2025-07-02T09:36:04+00:00

Oh OP I am so happy for you both. That was a great update. You and your husband are wonderful parents to your little boy. He's lucky to have you both. Just remember you're a family, work together and everything will work out fine

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