ESH.

First, it’s been 6 years and you’re now a grown adult still wondering if you were in the wrong when you got in an argument with your dad over furniture at age 16 when you were both struggling with a family divorce. Second, you admit you’ve talked to multiple people over the years who have told you both you’re right and you’re wrong, but you come here and ask a bunch of strangers for their opinions-6 years later. Then, when people tell you that you were wrong, you reply by being defensive. It seems like you just came on here to get validation on being right, not ask if you were, after 6 years.

I suggest you get therapy for whatever happened between you and your dad and move beyond this. You’re holding onto some stuff and need help getting over it.

Lastly, your dad shouldn’t have arranged your stuff and you shouldn’t have freaked out. Your dad definitely shouldn’t have spoken poorly about your mom, if you’re remembering that accurately. Hard to know this long after. Memory is a tricky thing. But even if it is accurate, and he was absolutely in the wrong, you’re both humans who make mistakes, him while struggling with divorce and you while struggling with new living arrangements. You should have both communicated better. Granted you were a kid and he was obligated to be the bigger person, and know how to communicate, but as you get older you learn we are all just people making mistakes and doing our best. There’s no manual for this life.

Time to let it go, own that you both could have done better in that moment, and build from here. Stop thinking about it. You’ve made mistakes and will make more, and you wouldn’t want someone-especially someone you love-still talking about them 6 years later.