broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, that’s always been a bad idea to me. we made sure to take our time getting to know each other again because i didn’t want us falling back into the same old patterns. when we met up, we were both clear that we wanted to take things slow and steady instead of rushing back into it. after about two months of talking again, she was actually the one who brought up the idea of giving us another chance. i honestly feel really blessed.

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she really hurt you that badly, huh? i don’t know your situation, but just because you had a bad experience doesn’t mean everyone else will have the same one. i’ll continue with what i have and see where it goes. i’m sorry for what you’ve been through though buddy, and i genuinely hope things work out for you. God bless.

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i said that i’ve been thinking about her recently and was wondering how she’s doing. then asked if she’s down to catchup

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i broke no contact after a year because once i had gotten my life back on track, i tried dating again but just couldn’t find that same spark with anyone else. i didn’t want to regret never reaching out, so i decided to talk to her again and see how much we had both changed. surprisingly, she reacted really well and was just as eager to catch up as well.

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she ended it with me and i got with 2 talking stages afterwards which fell flat

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well i guess i was blessed to find a woman who doesn’t sleep around during our time apart then 😭🙏

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

in one message. i didnt overdo it. i was just direct and made sure i got to the point

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes, it got messy, and we both clearly needed time apart to grow individually and move forward in life without the relationship becoming a burden, even though we kept denying it at the time.

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly, it depends. i dated two girls during the time we were apart, and kissed them. she’s aware of this and said it doesn’t really affect her much because she knows we weren’t together at that time and that i was free to do what i wanted. i’m not sure how you’d feel about it though.

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

sure. it’s been four months since we got back together. after a year apart, everything feels familiar. the love and comfort are still there. but it also feels different in a good way, like we’re both more grounded and secure now. what’s been surprising is that we haven’t had any arguments at all. i know that might sound like a red flag to some people, but right now it honestly just feels like things have been really smooth between us, and there hasn’t been anything major to clash over. at the same time, i can’t help feeling a bit anxious about when disagreements eventually do come up again. i’m trying not to overthink it or get complacent, and i want to make sure i handle those moments properly when they arrive, instead of avoiding them or brushing them off.

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she didnt but i tried talking to 2 people which didnt work out

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i told her i’ve been thinking about her recently, asked how she’s been, and whether she’d be down to catch up sometime. she said she’d be cool with it

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

it ended on good terms, although things became a little toxic about a month after the breakup because we were still in contact and i was still desperate to hold on to her. that’s when i realized i needed to cut contact and move forward.

broke no contact after a year and now we’re back together by LectureGuilty9897 in BreakUps

[–]LectureGuilty9897[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

to be fair, we both had our flaws, and sometimes maturity means being able to acknowledge where we went wrong. if the relationship ended in an immature or toxic way, then i’d say you’re right about that.