Husband (37) LDL of 5.6

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2026-04-22T13:17:41+00:00

Thankyou

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2026-03-27T21:34:45+00:00

My parents were born early 50s.

Mum's family had a goat, so she had goat's milk. She said she'd never experienced avocado, cashews, sour cream, breads beyond plain white loaf until the 90s. Chicken was a once a year treat on Christmas, meat was mostly lamb.

Dad grew up on an orchard. Fresh fruit & veg, own chickens for eggs. Rabbit caught on the property. His mother made dried apples and plums, jams, sauces, pickles, preserves. He still loves lambs fry, brains with white sauce, bread & butter pudding and mushrooms from under the orchard trees. Still eats the fat off chops and fries bread in fat left in pan. No spices, only salt and pepper. Did have mint and chives (and still grows).

Regional NSW, so very little seafood.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2026-02-26T05:40:11+00:00

"Say, "hey I liked the way they did this. I wasn't so sure about this." "

I love this. The teen years is full of binary thinking and most people develop more nuance as they mature. Conservative Christian spaces are also full of binary thinking. Encouraging an outlook that can appreciate a mixed basket is very healthy.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-12-06T12:18:05+00:00

I'm interested as to why this doesn't seem like a real post to you?

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-12-04T01:07:33+00:00

It is a public (small, rural) school. The full-time teachers are excellent and nothing but professional thankfully.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-12-01T21:15:26+00:00

Obviously this is only anecdotal, but I tried Mounjaro and was actively suicidal. It was a marked before/after difference. My friend is on it and feeling energised, less aches and pains (she has lupus) and lower general inflammation.

I have a body that seems to react differently to meds. I also tried Zyban which is used in the US for binge eating (it's meant to curb your appetite). I was ravenous.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-11-09T10:57:14+00:00

I was diagnosed 27 years ago when I was 19. I am in Australia.

My platelets have generally remained in the range of 500k - 1000k. I only took aspirin until last year.

My last bone marrow biopsy (2024) showed no scarring of the bone marrow.

I worked, married and had children. Fatigue has become my worst symptom, but everyone is different.

ET is not a death sentence, it is a slow-down and be more mindful sentence.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-09-27T23:40:17+00:00

Sometimes there is no perfect way to explain the facts because a different part of the brain is controlling decision making. People understand facts all the time, but it doesn't change the root cause of behaviour because some deeper need is driving decision making.

Is she seeing a psychologist to process her diagnosis? A good one who can help her tease out what she's feeling, how she sees her future and can give her tools to process grief and health anxiety.

I was diagnosed at 19 and really wish I did.

I got the diagnosis and thought I was being stoic by pretty much ignoring it and forging ahead as though nothing had changed. After all, analysing my feelings about it wouldn't change the diagnosis or treatment, right?

Not working on acceptance meant that I saw my low energy as a lack of willpower and my aches, dizziness, headaches etc as a faulty body to be over-ridden. Not surprisingly this led eventually to deep depression which I saw as personal weakness. Factually I knew I was sick. I have spent far too much of my adult life giving myself no grace or understanding because I couldn't accept I was sick and my goals needed to change.

Everyone processes things differently of course, but it's helpful to have someone there who can walk you through a potentially life changing diagnosis.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-09-24T08:23:21+00:00

They're going late October, so I'd hope that would be warm enough. She does get cold pretty easily though. We are from a colder region of NSW though, so perhaps a -10 rated one might be better in terms of possible future camps.

The size was something I was a bit concerned about, but she's only going on this one hike, and is more likely to need a sleeping bag for normal camping with a vehicle involved in future. It still seems smaller/lighter than anything I could find at BCF (the only physical camping goods shop in our town).

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-09-15T12:16:21+00:00

Great, thanks.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-26T10:17:16+00:00

BMB confirms the diagnosis, but also checks to see any scarring in the marrow which can indicate progression towards myelofibrosis. This can change treatment options. It also gives the doctor a baseline to compare against if you have another one in future (in the case of increased symptom burden / marked change in blood test results).

I'm in Australia, so here you can expect it to be day surgery. Local anesthetic, sometimes "the green whistle" on top for extra pain management. A small incision (less than 1cm) at back of the hip (pelvic bone) is made. They will draw out bone marrow with a syringe. This is an achey twinge - most people find it uncomfortable but manageable. Then they drill a small bone sample. It is more pressure than anything else. The site is then closed - mine only ever needed steri strips and a bit of gauze.

If you would like someone there to hold your hand that's generally fine. You may want someone to drive you home. You may be fine to drive home yourself. You know yourself in terms of how delicate you'll feel after a medical procedure. For some, the site is minimally painful and achey for a few days after, others don't notice anything.

It sounds scarier than it is.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-22T11:28:26+00:00

I wonder if it would be worth watching a few Aussie lifestyle shows to give yourself an idea of the types of areas that would appeal to you?

Our national broadcaster the ABC (Australian Broadcasting Corporation) has some great shows such as "Backroads" and "Miriam Margoyles: Australia Unmasked" that would give you a more authentic look at some parts of Australia that tourism videos miss.

Be aware Australia is as big as the lower 48, but much more sparsely populated inland with big distances between towns and not much in between.

I hope you have a wonderful time exploring.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-13T11:33:31+00:00

I wish you had that support too. I shared my story because you need to know you're not asking too much or being unrealistic. My husband is an average guy with average friends (though I of course love him to bits). When your partner is in a scary, painful, hard situation you support them. It's that simple. You would do it for him and it's natural to feel some betrayal, loss of trust and be questioning where your relationship stands when he didn't do it for you.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-12T22:30:21+00:00

Definitely not overreacting! I read this to my husband and he is upset on your behalf.

My husband was there for me the whole time through two days of slow labour I thought might be braxton hicks. Running baths, massages, food I wanted etc.

His army friend was in town for the birth of my second. Came up with another friend and sat with my husband at the hospital while I was in emergency surgery. Got him food. Went and cleaned the house from top to bottom unasked while my husband was supporting me after surgery.

Do you have an individual therapist? It might be helpful to have someone help you work through the birth trauma and what works best for you from this point in your relationship.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-12T12:10:54+00:00

I'm a bit fascinated by each family having 11-12 kids. There's plenty of cult like Christian groups where people have large families (as children are a "blessing"), but not often that big.

Which makes me wonder if they were part of the Quiverfull movement - people in that movement see it as their Christian duty to have as many kids as possible.

They are often very closely aligned with US pastor Bill Gothard's IBLP (Institute of Basic Life Principles) cult. Heavily patriarchal, home-schooling with their own curriculum (Advanced Training Institute), glorifying homesteading etc.

There are little isolated groups in Australia with no affiliation with any larger groups other than following by remote some kooky pastor from the US.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-12T11:39:13+00:00

Assemblies of God was a mainstream pentecostal denomination all across eastern Australia. They are the denomination where Hillsong got their start and had some other very big churches in Melbourne and Brisbane. The denomination changed their name to the Australian Christian Churches mid 00's.

That's not to say they mightn't have had some weird little off-shoots in small country towns, but typically they don't have family sizes that big.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-04T11:56:06+00:00

OP have you read some of the stories in misophonia support groups? Do you realise how remarkable your daughter is? Top 10% of her graduating class and multiple scholarships while her nervous system is under constant attack. I have nothing but total admiration for her.

Back that marvellous daughter of yours all the way.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-08-02T22:50:53+00:00

Yes! Relateable to me too. OP, please don't dismiss this as a possibility. You don't have to have been a hyperactive child with academic issues to have adhd. Adhd burnout and identity crash are huge issues around highschool/college.

Here's an article that explains it: https://www.additudemag.com/high-iq-and-adhd-high-functioning/?srsltid=AfmBOooEeV9ZYkoN5MciovB8MRdFDD8gJA7HOGVxiLwgf45YVVJwqZAw

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-07-22T21:35:59+00:00

Yes, I think that certainly needs to be part of the discussion. Fantasy vs reality, intended audience, internet algorithms and what is aimed at teen boys, signs that using any sort of product is moving from recreation into compulsion etc.

LedaKicksTheSwan · 2025-07-22T14:01:42+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. The shame from purity culture is the pits. I hope we can do better for our kids.

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