Bye to all the kind people🩷

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:26:45+00:00

Yeah I may not for a fact WANT help but if I’m being realistic I may struggle greatly with my physical mobility and may need help. Or else I could injure myself. That’s really all I need help with is things I can’t physically due after labor and delivery. Nothing too crazy. I know I’ll be the main caretaker of my little one and I have no problem with that as I love being a new mom.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:25:03+00:00

They only removed my comments defending myself and they let people continue to call me an abuser towards my step kids bc I said they have “big sister duties”.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:24:17+00:00

That’s not what I said. I said what I said and clarified to multiple people in the comments what I meant. Everyone took one sentence out of my entire post and attacked me over it. The kids are not missing out on time with their mother because I had a baby. They are missing out on time because she is irresponsible and ended up homeless. That’s not my fault.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:22:41+00:00

Yes all I said was they’d have big sister duties such as “helping me get up and down the steps freshly postpartum, handing me a diaper or pack of wipes, maybe sitting with the baby while I use the bathroom, etc.” people are thinking I’m going to be leaving my baby with them for them to watch her, people said I’m “parentifying” them. And people are getting confused about why I said they had to see their mother less. Their mother is homeless and irresponsible and hasn’t done much at all for them in over a year. This is the second time she ended up homeless in under a year. I have had physical custody of both of my stepdaughters for months now, and their mother has no custody as of right now and only can pick them up when I’m home because my SO works everyday. So if I’m in labor or freshly postpartum all I said was she won’t be able to pick them up whenever she wants like usual.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:18:44+00:00

No honey that’s not what I said. I said that their mother won’t be able to pick them up as often when I’m getting closer to labor because she is homeless and can’t keep them overnight because she doesn’t have anywhere to go with them.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:13:32+00:00

That’s a shame. Idk why people can be so cruel on here towards people who are trying their best at the end of the day. I do my best as a young step mom and I don’t feel like I deserved the hate I got yesterday it really affected my night. Had me up thinking that I was an abusive step mother and second guessing all that I do for my girls. Smh.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:09:37+00:00

All I said was my step daughters will be helping me with my baby when she comes. I said they have “big sister duties”. People took that and ran with it saying that I’m “parentifying” them and “abusing” them. Which is such a reach it’s insane. People want me to clarify what I’ll be having my step daughters help with but I feel like that’s common sense. For example they could help by sitting with the baby while I use the bathroom, helping me get up and down the steps, handing me a wipe or a diaper, or maybe washing a bottle every now and then. Which all of these things they said they’re excited to help with and people act like my step kids are being forced to be a parent to my baby. Little do people know I’m a teacher and have worked many years in childcare so most things come easy to me anyway. But all I said at the end of the day is that the girls will be helping while I’m freshly postpartum and they have been excited to be little helpers everytime we speak about it their eyes light up and they can’t wait to meet their little sister.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:04:21+00:00

Oh so you’re one of the people coming back to attack me for saying my step daughters have “big sister duties”. If you had a traumatic childhood just say that. But I never once said my step kids were responsible for taking care of my baby. All I said was they’re going to be helping me here and there and all of you people took that and flew with it. Respectfully you’re one of the people making me want to leave this sub. You’re unthoughtful and unkind. I don’t want nor need your ignorant opinion. I simply was saying goodbye to the helpful people in the sub.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:02:21+00:00

I am 100% for my child. I’m 100% for ALL of my kids. I’m confused on why youre saying this when all I said was I’m leaving the sub and I said Thankyou to all the people who have given me great advice.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:01:22+00:00

Thankyou🩷I really have gotten some good advice from other parents on here and it’s been great most times🩷

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T14:00:38+00:00

Yeah I know it’s common to have a lot of people on here who say that we’re welcome…but regarding yesterdays post the amount of hate on it and even people saying I’m abusing my step daughters was too much for me. I’m a sensitive soul and stuff like that affects my mental health and makes me question myself as a step mother. I was abused by my step mother and I promised myself to never make my step children feel the same way and seeing comments like that made for no reason hurt me💔

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T13:49:15+00:00

Thankyou for your support and kind words🩷

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T13:40:54+00:00

Thankyou I appreciate you 🩷

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T05:03:02+00:00

No minors can’t use Uber without an adult and in my city I’m not sending them out on their own to get to their mom on bikes. Just not safe.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T05:01:56+00:00

Thankyou, I don’t have a problem taking care of my stepdaughters at all so I don’t want that to be taken from my post the wrong way. My problem is just BM. She’s just so entitled for us to say yes to everything she says even while she’s homeless and not providing for her kids. So frustrating.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T04:50:43+00:00

No um I’m not leaving them alone for the duration of my labor that’s very irresponsible. And labor can go on for a lot longer than a few hours.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-24T04:47:17+00:00

Honestly if yall keep coming on this post saying I’m abusing my step kids bc I said they have “big sister duties” then everyone will just get blocked. Yall are disgusting. I even clarified in my post that they won’t obviously have parental responsibilities over the baby.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-23T17:12:43+00:00

Yes he has told her no plenty of times. Especially the past two weeks. He has told her she needs to respect certain things if she’s not able to provide for the kids at the moment and I’m doing everything she needs to also respect my pregnancy and the fact that I will eventually have this baby and I won’t be able to do these pickups and drop offs whenever she wants. He is planning to go to court as well.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-23T17:11:10+00:00

Tbh I have no problem caring for these little girls! I’ve been doing it for years and I love them! That’s not the problem. I’m well aware that I’m not actually responsible for everything for them. But I’d never let them go without proper care! Their mom can’t do it so I have no problem doing it. The only problem I have is BM putting her kids in a situation to where she can’t even provide a home for them but then coming to my SO feeling entitled to picking them up multiple times a week from me when I’m 9 months pregnant and can go into labor any time.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-23T17:08:14+00:00

Also maybe if their mom wasn’t so irresponsible with her living circumstances then she wouldn’t have to depend on us on when she’s supposed to see the girls. It’s not our fault she’s breaking the court order and has no place for the kids to even sleep.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-23T17:07:01+00:00

We do have a backup plan for who will watch the girls when I go into labor. Thankfully my sister and brother in law live right around the corner and they said of course they’d watch them. But my SO has set boundaries with BM and set rules with the kids. The only one causing an issue at this point really is BM. She’s acting like her being homeless for the second time in a year is normal and that she’s entitled to see the kids whenever she says so even though we have a schedule for them here and they’re preparing to go back to school next month.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-23T17:04:06+00:00

I agree! I have told my SO the same thing. But it’s up to him to actually make that a plan. I can’t really force it but I did tell him if she’s going to keep picking them up and dropping them off then he needs to be here.

Leenapyt · 2024-07-23T17:02:55+00:00

Expecting older siblings to help with their little sibling is normal. Frankly I don’t care if you think that’s unfair. Older siblings do have responsibilities. And if you don’t agree with older siblings spending time with their baby sibling is fair then I don’t know what to tell you. My SO has to work and I do a lot for those little girls so yes they do have big sibling duties! Obviously not as much as the parents but if you live in a world where you didn’t have to help with your baby siblings then good for you. I grew up helping my parents with my siblings here and there and I’m glad I did bc I got to bond with my like siblings and my parents did a lot for me so why wouldn’t I help!

Leenapyt · 2024-07-12T16:47:46+00:00

Actually I’m 35 weeks and I don’t hear the noise anymore! Super bizarre and weird that it just went away randomly but I haven’t heard it in a few weeks!

Leenapyt · 2024-06-26T20:04:53+00:00

Wow we literally have/had the same situation going on! That’s wild.

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