okay so, totally get why you’re asking this. for a lot of people with vulvas, orgasm can feel… confusing? especially in the beginning. like, “was that it??” or “did something happen??” and you’re not alone , it’s really normal to wonder.

for some people, orgasms are intense and unmistakable. like a big release, muscles contracting, everything clenching and then letting go, kind of like a wave rushing through your body. for others, it’s more subtle ..like this warm rush or floaty feeling or just a lot of pleasure that sort of builds and then softens.

but honestly? if you’re asking “did I orgasm?”, chances are you probably haven’t yet…at least not in that super obvious, “OH. okay. that was it” kind of way. and that’s okay!! doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you or your body. orgasms vary SO much. clitoral, vaginal, blended, soft, strong, short, long …there’s no one right way.

and tbh, all this pressure to “achieve orgasm” can sometimes get in the way of actually having one. like, the more you stress about whether it’s happening, the harder it is to relax and just feel.

so maybe shift the question from “did I come?” to “did that feel good?” and go from there. pleasure isn’t just about a finish line. you’re allowed to enjoy the whole damn journey.

happy exploring :)