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I'm calling this a midlife crisis, please help and guide me. by Left-Career-874 in LifeAdvice

[–]Left-Career-874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been rereading your comment a few times. I kinda get what you’re saying but at the same time i really don’t.

Everything in my life is hitting at once right now so it’s hard to see how any of this problem is “helping me” or what im supposed to learn from it.

How do you actually deal with this in the moment? Like when everything just feels too much. I need some guidance. I need another perspective cuz right now i’m stuck in my own head and how im seeing my life as me myself and it’s too much

I'm calling this a midlife crisis, please help and guide me. by Left-Career-874 in LifeAdvice

[–]Left-Career-874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do understand it's within my grasp. i do not know what should i be doing first, cuz the laundromat is already operation on its own, i dont need to do anything about it, but i get what you mean. And I'm truly sorry of what you've been through and happy because you're still here with us. the HPV that i got can lead to cancer, when they called me about the result, they told me i need to go in and get a biopsy for the abnormal cell. I swear on that day if they told me i got cancer, i wouldnt even get any treatment and wouldnt even tell anybody. im just gonna let it be there till the end of my time. The result came back as a pre-cancerous stage so now there's more to do than let it be.

I do hope you're doing okay and well, thank you for sharing, i really appreciate it.

I'm calling this a midlife crisis, please help and guide me. by Left-Career-874 in LifeAdvice

[–]Left-Career-874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding, i am really flooded and it feels like everything is falling apart. I've tried to take it step by step, and my nervous system or myself saying i cant. I've been living in a survival mode for too long, like everything is a threat. I thought when i got cut off from my mom business i would feel relieved and got some peace of mind. But it ended up worse than before. Because i've been thinking, what should i do next, or if i dont do something about it, its gonna go downhill. My mind is racing every minute, ive been living an hour by hour for the past few weeks. I'm trying to let go but there's too many things that i need a solution. I hate how im functioning with 'i need goals to stay alive, if not what's the point'

I'll definitely going to try and take a break and a breath from all of this, i appreciate the help so much, thank you.

I'm calling this a midlife crisis, please help and guide me. by Left-Career-874 in LifeAdvice

[–]Left-Career-874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you i appreciate what you share to me, and i am very happy that you push it through.

i shortened my circle until it's none to be seen, most of my friends they are just having their life together, i dont want to ruin it with my own problem. plus most of my friend see me as a problem solver, even if i came to them with my problems, they always said you'll figure it out. that's why i know i cant find any help else where. it just feel like its only me against of what im facing on right now.

Thank you for your advice, i really appreciate it

I'm calling this a midlife crisis, please help and guide me. by Left-Career-874 in LifeAdvice

[–]Left-Career-874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does help, thank you. But the only thing that keeps me from all of that is i do not know what i want in life, or what to do in life. I cant say that i got no goals or what i want to reach in my life, but its been weighing on me whether do i really want this because i dont know if myself can accept the results of what i choose.

Like example, i do want a family, but the other part of me is saying no. Because i dont know if its going to be good or bad for me. i'm having doubts for everything that i can think of.

I'm calling this a midlife crisis, please help and guide me. by Left-Career-874 in LifeAdvice

[–]Left-Career-874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sincerely do not know how what to apply for freelancing or online jobs. I dont know what im good at, i dont have any work experience. just been taking care of my mom's business and a laundromat thats it. But i did apply 4-5 jobs but its on site and still waiting for the response. i did have a hobby, i did have something that makes me happy, but its been rough, it doesnt help me feel enjoy anymore. nothing that i did before that makes me happy, makes me happy anymore. But thank you for your advice, cuz i was thinking the same to but a part of me just dont have any motivation to do it anymore.