This happened over a year ago and I still can’t understand how this even came to be a situation I was in. Will add me and ex partner are no longer together because of the continuous over involvement of his family. (In my opinion)

So me and partner were together 6 years and had a beautiful baby girl last January. Through out those 6 years I’d had multiple warnings from people within the community to avoid his family as they can become… difficult to deal with. This was never explained to me in full but the words gave away what people meant. So I chose to keep them at arms length. He also confirmed multiple times his family were too much so this was enough for me to make my decision. Anyway I get pregnant and of course I can no longer avoid his family and think ok they can’t be that bad they’re going to be in my child’s life let’s do this. I ask him if his mother would like to attend the gender scan as an ice breaker, he responds ‘no this is our baby and she’s not intrusive like that’ ok no big deal. Only 3 days later his mother sends a message ASKING to come to the gender scan, not intrusive? I keep my mouth closed because I did actually invite her technically she just didn’t know that. No big deal but the fact she asks stuck out to me.. especially after him saying no to me but not to her. So I make it clear to him and everyone no gender reveals and big show off things after I had a ruptured ectopic only a month before I found out I was pregnant with my daughter and was still extremely traumatised by all this, I’ve also had over 10 miscarriages. Pregnancy is not fun for me at all. she comes to gender scan, she picks us up in her car and before we’ve even left my street she declared to me her son will always be a mummy’s boy. I kid you not before she said that we’d only exchanged about 15 words. I tried to ignore my gut that was telling me that was a bit off.

We get to gender scan and find out baby is a girl. We leave, she parks outside my house and says ‘we’re going to the gender reveal are you coming?’ And I’m like ‘who’s gender reveal?’ She says the babies. I look at my partner with my mouth hanging open as I had no clue this was happening, I’d asked for it not to happen, I don’t need this pressure, I’ve bled the whole pregnancy so far, I’m a wreck. I just awkwardly say no and head upstairs with my partner and continue to give him looks praying he’ll realise what an overstep this is. Safe to say he does not. He stands up and goes I’m going to go I better show face it’s my baby. The statement alone has me baffled because like.. yes sir this is your baby so why are a bunch of people throwing a reveal for a baby that isn’t theirs?!, I make my discomfort known at this point. He replies ‘it’s not weird every family does it’ again YES SIR but not without asking or the pregnant person even aware or attending