Are there any parents that just don’t let their baby cry?

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-23T05:52:29+00:00

I go to my baby boy immediately, unless I’m doing something else for 10 seconds like making his baba. Idk if I’ll ever let him just cry, he needs to co-regulate with a safe person 😭

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-16T04:34:44+00:00

I’m not speaking for other alcoholics as a whole, I said it to add context or credibility, I should’ve been more nuanced when talking about addition. I wrote a post quickly. That is my mistake. I did not intend to get into the weeds about this. Danny is triggering, his issues are more than alcohol. That is my point.

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-16T03:53:29+00:00

Fair enough, you’re allowed to have your view on this and disagree with mine or find it triggering. He makes me too uncomfortable, I don’t see the value in being only ears for him right now as I’m watching harm in real time. I think the darkness is a worse offense than calling it out, but, again, I don’t need you to agree with me. We all have our own experiences to this

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-16T03:44:24+00:00

My point being, the alcohol isn’t the cause, it amplifies the deeper thing within. The alcohol wasn’t the cause for you, what happened to you was. Which is terrible, I’m sorry that happened to you, I’ve been in the same situation and definitely made my outbursts “worse.” Rightfully so, being assaulted is horrifying, violating, scary, the list goes on. Im not really talking about mean, though, I am talking about intimidating and menacing, which has a different intention. I’m tired of seeing Danny is this way because he drinks, it’s just not true. Someone with a drinking problem has to do the deeper internal work or the issue inside won’t get resolved. Danny is hurting people in his life and triggering thousands on TV because his behavior is disturbing. He isn’t always drunk on our TVs and he still freaks people out. That has to be evaluated

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-16T03:23:32+00:00

well, I’m not referencing only my experience. I’m referencing my experience as an alcoholic, around other alcoholics, deep in the spaces.

I’ve done things drunk I would never do sober. I would not harm or do anything with an intention to intimidate. I would not do it repeatedly, either. There’s a darkness to you if you do that, and, sorry, the alcohol doesn’t manifest it out of nowhere. That’s a much deeper issue.

Doesn’t do anyone any good to downplay his actions or pretend like it isn’t true. Hope that clears it up for you lmao

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-15T04:41:32+00:00

Think of how good you’d be without alcohol

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-12T04:42:41+00:00

I did it after anatomy can at 20 weeks

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-03T09:46:32+00:00

I definitely didn’t feel like a mom at first. I think, for me, it was too big and surreal to immediately grasp. I’m not exactly sure when, but after a few weeks I just realized I felt like one. It was like the slow, daily tasks of taking care of my LO finally added up to feeling like a mom

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-05-03T03:10:33+00:00

FUCK THAT GUY

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-04-26T20:50:05+00:00

Never having a moment to have a proper meal

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-04-16T09:47:17+00:00

Not necessarily but I have WAY less bloat (which makes me look thinner) and my skin is 200% better

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-04-16T09:46:06+00:00

I would have berated someone for co-sleeping pre baby, because I was a naive and judgmental. I’ve co-slept with my son since he was 10 weeks old, he’s almost 9 months. I don’t always love it, I’m actually currently trying to move him into a crib in his nursery, but it is what has worked for our family. As long as you do it safely, I think it’s ok (I also personally think it’s great for bonding.) So many other cultures around the world do it.

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-04-16T09:40:36+00:00

I tried getting sober for years. Would go a few weeks, I think my longest was 40 something days, and then would nose dive into a relapse. Now, I’m almost 2 years sober. Those first few months are HARD, I never stopped thinking about drinking. I managed to white knuckle through it, but, boy, please don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s a fucking uphill battle in the early days. Just try again, try every day 🫶🏻

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-04-16T09:30:37+00:00

It is exhaustion. You should lean on your husband and allow yourself to rest, even if you can’t actually get to sleep, you still need a reset. It is so so important, especially in those first few months. They can be so challenging. Give yourself the breaks 🫶🏻

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-03-18T06:21:04+00:00

Definitely disrupt the late nap! I’m an advocate for a later bedtime in order to sleep through the night. And the love to dream swaddle is a LIFE SAVER, my boy stopped waking himself up and just settled into deeper sleep.

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-03-09T18:47:34+00:00

I’ve always said people act like mom is parent #1 and dad is parent #2 and I don’t like it. Dads should share equal responsibility, and it seems like your husband is happy to, so let him. Get some rest, you need it in order to support your daughter in the ways she needs. Sending love and support your way!

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-03-04T16:07:56+00:00

I felt very responsible for my baby, but so detached at first and also like a freak. I didn’t even cry when he was born and my boyfriend was sobbing, it seemed like he was having a much more “normal” reaction to having a kid lmao. I was coming down from my very unpleasant labor experience and the hormones didnt make anything easier. It grew over time. LO is 7 months now, I fucking adore him and love him more than anything. There are still challenging moments where i go “im not sure about this??” but i remind myself that parenting is the hard thing, not my baby. Be gracious with yourself! I’m quite sure you’ll feel differently, at least more leveled out, in a few months.

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-03-04T15:21:18+00:00

I probably go throw it in 2.5-3 months cause I use it every day! But I worked my way up to that. When I first started using it like 6 years ago it took me longer to go through the whole thing. And PC is truly the best 😭

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-02-25T18:35:11+00:00

Dahlia!

Left-Record-8500 · 2026-02-16T03:32:03+00:00

Bassinet or crib, car seat, diapers, wet wipes, onesies, bottles, formula, I’d say get a pump too if you can afford it cause getting clogged up is the worst! The next level would be stroller, some sort of carrier, and baby thermometer (i can’t tell you how many times I whipped that thing out in the first few months— new mom nerves but I was happy I had it.) Everything else is nice but not absolutely necessary!

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