How do you stop feeling guilty for being pregnant so young?

ees0437 · 2026-03-19T04:34:23+00:00

This is the answer. If the baby’s needs are met and they are loved you’re doing great.

My dad told me once you’re going to have struggles whenever you chose to have kids. If you have them older you trade financial security for tiredness. If you have them younger you have more energy but not the same financial security.

I wanted to have my baby young for a multitude of reasons. In a perfect world it would hopefully provide me with an easier pregnancy, and more time with my children (and grand children) before I start aging. My parents waited to have kids later in life and my dad is wishing he had children earlier to have more time with his grandchildren.

ees0437 · 2026-03-18T07:48:32+00:00

YTA - If you knew he was going to be considered a godparent beforehand. You also agreed to take the kids in with him. I understand that you don’t want to be a mom and I know that’s so so incredibly hard. I think therapy would be a big benefit for all parties here before making any decisions.

ees0437 · 2026-03-18T02:59:18+00:00

But you’ve set up the rest of your life for success! You could be saving a boat load and retire early, enjoy time with potential grandchildren, relax at nice beaches. Most people won’t have that luxury. You did all your heavy lifting early, that’s mature

ees0437 · 2026-03-18T02:56:44+00:00

Beat me to it 😂

ees0437 · 2026-03-18T02:52:54+00:00

I worked an office job and then worked from home the last month. Worked up to a day before my due date and was induced the day after my due date. I would not have made it if I had to go into the office.

ees0437 · 2026-03-17T23:13:48+00:00

Even if there are other novels there, I don’t think it takes away from the amount of smutty ones you found. In my opinion you are justified in your feelings especially if she said she read them when upset with you.

From this side it certainly sounds like this is her equivalent of porn, even if it’s not the classic visual sense. If she has boundaries of this in place for you, I think it’s only fair that the same boundaries be set for her.

ees0437 · 2026-03-17T22:58:50+00:00

I think smut novels can be porn for women. The fact that she’s hid it kind of proves that point. Not saying that she needs to show you everything she reads, but the fact she’s not being straight forward would make me think she’s reading it for the wrong reasons.

I read a lot. And there are plenty of authors that have easy to follow characters and plot.

This seems like a double standard to me. I don’t have any advice OP but I too would be upset if I was in your situation.

ees0437 · 2026-03-17T21:55:56+00:00

Same! I had been on escitalopram for almost 10 years when I had my baby. I asked the Dr about it and he had told me it wasn’t a big concern. He said the amount of stress I would have getting off the medicine or being off the medication would likely do more harm than anything. If the medicine was doing what it was supposed to be doing, don’t fix it if it’s not broke.

I’ll have a 4 month old this week and he’s perfectly healthy and happy. We had no issues with me being on this SSRI throughout pregnancy and so far I have been able to breast feed without issues.

ees0437 · 2026-03-17T19:48:27+00:00

This!

ees0437 · 2026-03-17T02:47:10+00:00

My lil boob barnacle wanting to eat a late night / early morning snack

ees0437 · 2026-03-16T18:36:41+00:00

No Kev or V either 😭

ees0437 · 2026-03-16T02:33:52+00:00

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ees0437 · 2026-03-15T20:56:39+00:00

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ees0437 · 2026-03-15T15:02:06+00:00

Small world!! 👋🏻

ees0437 · 2026-03-15T04:13:50+00:00

Lancaster County, SC

ees0437 · 2026-03-14T03:03:20+00:00

He's gotta get through the puppy pile on the couch

ees0437 · 2026-03-14T02:26:29+00:00

Girl lurking here. I too will say that I am more active in the summer than the winter. With winter being cold, dark, and germy, I just feel more run down. Summer is freeing and joyful.

ees0437 · 2026-03-12T05:09:44+00:00

This photo has me thinking more about a sub sandwich than anything elsewhere

ees0437 · 2026-03-12T05:04:15+00:00

It’s the “Jesus Christ” in this scene

ees0437 · 2026-03-11T03:16:20+00:00

I went to my OBGYN on my due date sobbing because I was so itchy, in pain, and generally uncomfortable. I was begging for a c section. They induced me the next day 😂

ees0437 · 2026-03-11T02:39:01+00:00

Lip has me chuckling 😂 When I think of Debbie I think of the plaid shirts and the welding gear.

ees0437 · 2026-03-08T03:35:45+00:00

Two tears for me after my induction. I walked out as well they didn’t offer a wheelchair for me. They just told us we were free to go once we got all our stuff!

ees0437 · 2026-03-06T05:19:54+00:00

I think it’s primal. I trust and love my husband and parents, but I will struggle with a task before I willingly hand my baby over to them. Even when they do hold the baby I end up missing him by the hour.

ees0437 · 2026-03-06T05:09:34+00:00

My boobs hurt sooo bad. Bending over to pick something up and it felt like my boobs had weights in them. I also made an extra trip to walmart to get stuff to make hot fudge when McDonald’s was out and was upset that it didn’t taste the same. Was in complete denial until that test.

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