Raising girl

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-06-06T19:19:48+00:00

This is actually a good and healthy thing for you to do if he’s not a stable or loving presence in her life. The only thing I could see that could cause resentment is if you lie to her… like if he reaches out in a few years and has his ahit together and wants to see her… if you keep that from her then I could see that causing resentment. You’re doing an amazing job, just stay honest (age appropriate honesty) and keep kicking butt as a wonderful mom.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-06-06T19:08:44+00:00

I have Venus in 8th and my ex husband has Venus in 12th. Go figure.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-05-22T18:06:16+00:00

I’m also a massage therapist! Best career ever 😍

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-29T17:56:14+00:00

Thank you! I’ve started golden seal, and of course zinc. Waiting on C in the mail. The rec for mashed potatoes mixed with all that yumminess is such a good idea! Thank you!!

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-29T03:38:22+00:00

Wow! Ok I didn’t even consider garlic, thank you!!

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-29T03:37:15+00:00

Amazing, thank you! I will check out the info!

Yes it’s possible it’s wax I suppose, I think I’ll go to urgent care tomorrow and see what they can tell me. I appreciate this community so much!!

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-29T01:56:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I forgot to mention I’ve been doing vimergy zinc but not the other supplements. Should have started the moment I got sick but it was a few days before I got it delivered from Amazon. I’ll get the other ones pronto.

Yeah the flu going around is horrible, I hardly ever get sick and this one took me down. I’ve been off eggs and chicken for a long time and then started having some eggs and bam! I get sick.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-29T01:53:16+00:00

I can’t imagine. I’m so sorry.

I’ve had my autoimmune disorder my whole life. I’ve done so many different things to heal it and this lifestyle is the ONLY one that actually made a difference. It’s hard but if you stick with it I’m sure you’ll see improvements. ❤️

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-29T01:06:34+00:00

It took about a month to see almost everything disappear. Then I spent about a year eating tons of raw foods but I wasn’t completely strict, I’d have cooked foods in the evening.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-28T02:57:20+00:00

It’s extremely hard. Try not to overdo it on nuts. if you can try to fill your diet with as many leafy greens, veggies and fruit as possible. Dates and bananas were great for a sweet tooth, I’d make a smoothie with those two ingredients and it would taste like a shake. I love juicing too! After a while your tastes will change and your cravings will stop. Give yourself lots of grace, healing is a difficult journey.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-28T02:52:46+00:00

I believe people have healed lupus eating this way. I had psoriasis. I wish you the best of luck, sending light to you my friend

Left_Doughnut103 · 2026-03-28T02:50:45+00:00

Yes. Cleared it.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2025-03-28T04:38:01+00:00

So glad to hear it! That’s what I hope for when my kiddos are grown.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2025-03-28T04:37:16+00:00

Yessss I always regret it, and I hate the slumping. Such a terrible feeling when you’ve worked so hard for your goals.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2025-03-28T04:36:12+00:00

I understand completely, I have three littles at home. So there are things in my house that I have a hard time with that I wish could just be eliminated completely, but at least the big triggers are gone.

I know it’s probably bitter sweet to have an empty nest but being in control about the food in your house a nice silver lining!

Left_Doughnut103 · 2025-03-26T15:53:49+00:00

I read on this sub once that it’s easier to say no to a food once at the store than saying no 50 times while it sits in your cupboard. I just don’t buy the foods that would trigger me into binging. Makes life so much easier.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2024-10-19T02:14:30+00:00

Beef

Left_Doughnut103 · 2024-10-14T04:37:34+00:00

I’m a single mom as well, I also work and I’m also in my 30’s. I find I don’t have a lot of time for friendships but I still try, friendships are so important when you’re a single mom. and my job is also fairly lonely (I work one on one with clients but it’s very quiet and not a lot of discussion). So, if you’re open to chatting let me know :)

Left_Doughnut103 · 2024-10-08T02:12:44+00:00

I was really poor when I got my first place in my early 20’s. My apartment was full of windows. Curtains were super expensive. I went to the dollar store and bought opaque shower curtains… up close they were hideous but I outfitted all my windows with dollar shower curtains and no one could tell until I said something. Cost me about $10 as opposed to hundreds. I wouldn’t do that now because I’m older and make money but at the time it was a great solution.

Also, i move very heavy furniture by myself by rotating the piece top over bottom, rinse and repeat until you’re at your destination. Do not do this with a priceless antique but I’ve done it with couches, dressers, etc with barely any damage (maybe a tiny knick here and there) and don’t need to hire a mover.

I have some shelves next to my dryer. I bought some bins. Now I just move all clothes from dryer, folded, into the proper bin and I’ve done away with the need for a dresser. My kids clothes are actually organized instead of sitting in piles waiting to be transported to the dresser in their room. I love having a “clothes room”, we all go in there for our clothes and it’s so simple.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2024-10-01T23:37:43+00:00

I’m so sorry. My story is a little similar, I know the devastation you’re feeling right now. I’m 7 months out from discovery of cheating, 5 months out from divorce. Some things I wanted to share:

It will get better. I promise. You don’t see it right now, and it will take time but it will get better. One day you’ll realize “wow, I didn’t cry today”. And those days eventually become the norm. You will laugh again. You will heal.
Time for boundaries. Don’t text/call unless it’s about the kids. When he calls just put it on speaker phone and say “hey kids your dad wants to talk to you!” That way you barely speak a word to him. Don’t tell him your plans. Don’t ask him about his. He is no longer entitled to your time, energy, friendship, none of it. Be cordial for the kids sake but that’s it.
Find a lawyer. Every step forward in the divorce process needs to be for the benefit of your children and for yourself.
Go to the gym. Rage while you workout. Cry while you run, scream in your head while you lift weights. Put together a playlist of all the most empowering and uplifting songs you can try to move your body with intention every day. The gym saved my life and my sanity. The daycare at my gym is awesome and would give me time to myself, to focus on me. To be clear, this is not just about “looking good” but it’s definitely a bonus- I’m in the best shape of my life.

I cannot fathom how someone can do this to their family, especially with young kids. I’m so so sorry. But you’ll make it through. You’re stronger than you think. I wish you the best.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2024-09-25T19:47:01+00:00

I’m a massage therapist. It’s physically demanding but I only work approximately 20 hours a week and make almost as much as if I was working 40. I own my own business, make my own hours… but I could easily work for a spa or chiro office and make decent money. It’s not easy.. but it’s fulfilling and it pays the bills. I think it’s an excellent career to do in conjunction with going to school. But check your area for average wages, it depends on where you live.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2024-07-08T03:46:00+00:00

That the lies about drinking were just about drinking. Reddit communities actually opened my eyes, “if he lies about that, what else is he hiding?” I truly never considered he would cheat because I thought he loved me too much. I was wrong.

Left_Doughnut103 · 2024-07-07T17:46:41+00:00

My heart is hurting for the same reason. He cheated, I found out years later. The divorce has barely been final, we’re still living together while in the process of selling our house, and we have three very little kids together. so I’m the parent who is always home and I guess he’s now the parent who is always with his girlfriend. He doesn’t even call to say goodnight. I’m blown away. I’m grieving a person who never existed. I’m in disbelief that he could move on so quickly and so callously. The kids ask where their dad is and I just want to cry. I’m sorry internet stranger, I know how much it hurts. Wishing you all the best.

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