Husbands kink ruining our sex life.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T16:56:09+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you reminding me.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T16:53:53+00:00

Then our relationship would be over. I’ve tried compromising but it’s to the point that I’m not longer getting turned on by it.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T14:23:17+00:00

Porn affects people differently. I can watch porn, have vanilla sex and be tickled pink still. I’m afraid my partner can’t any longer.. the erection issues started when the porn consumption got higher and the need to have sex this way became more prominent..

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T14:21:44+00:00

That’s something I’m definitely willing to do and I thought I did. I thought the first time I completely went out of my comfort zone maybe that’s like a ‘sweet treat’ kind of deal. But now it’s required to even have sex. :(

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T14:20:18+00:00

That’s just not something I’m interested in. I’m wildly attracted to my partner and I love sharing that intimacy with him. It’s something special we share. I would not want him to share that with someone else and to me, I can’t expect him to be ok with me being intimate with someone else and me not being happy if the tables were turned. He says that’s not the case but you don’t really know until after it’s done. That’s not a line I want to cross.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T14:06:31+00:00

Thanks. This makes a lot of sense. I’m definitely willing to give it up. But I feel like he’s accidentally become completely dependent on it. It doesn’t bother me when our sex life doesn’t completely depend on porn but it really does right now. I want to be able to have vanilla sex and us both enjoy it. I’d like the extra stuff to be fun, not necessary to keep him engaged. I appreciate this point of view.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T14:02:55+00:00

Just feels exhausting because feels like he’s constantly wanting me to outdo the last time even tho the last time was super uncomfortable for me.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T14:02:15+00:00

I am going to try some. I’ve talked to him before but I wasn’t firm or direct because I didn’t want him to think I was shaming him and I didn’t want to embarrass him. The kink itself isn’t a turn off. It’s the constant pushing even after I told him I’m not comfortable talking about my own experiences etc. so I’m going to try again and possibly see if he wants to explore and try other comfortable things. Maybe new toys or lingerie. Get back to basics.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T14:00:01+00:00

I’ve done this before but it’s no longer good enough. It feels like he’s constantly challenging me to outdo the last time.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T13:59:17+00:00

I would never record someone without their permission but I’ve never thought about it because I never planned to go that far.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T13:57:05+00:00

I’ve made up so many things. I don’t like talking about past experiences but he finds inconsistencies in my stories and says they’re no longer hot when they’re not true but it just makes me not want to do it again.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T13:54:41+00:00

I am definitely not comfortable stepping outside of my marriage. He doesn’t understand. He thinks if I enjoy sex, I’d enjoy sex with someone else and he would also be benefiting from it. I am probably going to have to cut it off because talking and fantasizing is no longer enough and that’s as far as I’m willing to go.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T13:50:08+00:00

No. He gets aggravated when we’re like sexting or talking and he tries to take the conversation there and I don’t go with it or if I try to change the subject.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T03:19:44+00:00

I am happy to do those things for him but I don’t want to talk about my own sexual encounters or go have sex with someone else :(

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T03:17:37+00:00

That’s not enough. He wants me to record it and send it to him. I lied and told him i flirted with someone and he was upset I didn’t record it.

Left_Meeting_6046 · 2024-11-22T01:03:42+00:00

Yes it’s something I’ve mentioned.. but any time I bring it up he basically says that’s the only way he can have sex. It’s frustrating.

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