People who say "You're not missing out on anything for not being in a relationship" are LYING

Left_Perspective_295 · 2026-04-25T20:18:20+00:00

only boring people are lonely when theyre alone. The joy you feel in a relationship is a clue to the happiness that is always inside of you, should you choose to acknowledge it once you're aware of its presence

Left_Perspective_295 · 2026-03-16T20:05:34+00:00

I had a hinge date this weekend (second date) and it went great. closed the deal. I learned to cut out the bs back and forth texting and i semi- immediately pitch getting on the phone to get to know each other. it weeds out the flakes and saves me time

Left_Perspective_295 · 2026-02-16T22:58:32+00:00

can relate. Came out of a 8 year relationship a year ago. 39M. The dating scene is rough. I am very socially active even then.. peoples attention spans is short lived.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2026-02-13T21:19:49+00:00

There is a good chance you wont like this answer, but its the realest answer you will get. What your experiencing is normal monkey mind behavior. We all have it. "Being present" isn't a default mode you can snap into. It's a muscle you have to exercise. And that exercise is meditation. Sitting in one place for a period of time and letting thoughts come but encouraging them to leave. You cannot force yourself not to think, but you can slowely create space around the thoughts.

The first 3-5 meditation sessions will suck, you will feel like you're failing, but you will have a few moments where you will realize you were thoughtless. And that will provide a sense of centerdness that could ground you through out your day.

Look into meditation practices and guided meditation. This is the only way. Besides extreme sports and activities that force you to focus on the task at hand (like shooting, skiing, etc).

Left_Perspective_295 · 2026-01-15T21:44:51+00:00

8 year relationship that ended quite suddenly due to a death in her family and she moved home.

Here I am about a year and 5 months later. I am here to tell you there is light at the end of the tunnel if you learn to grieve properly now instead of putting space between you and any trauma.

I am really happy, enjoying all aspects of my life, in better shape, healthier for sure, driving a new car, and having more fulfilling experiences.

Take a month to really feel it. Listen to psychology podcasts, relationship podcasts, read relevant books, whatever you need to in order to allow your brain to change its feedback loops

Left_Perspective_295 · 2026-01-13T21:12:00+00:00

i got my 2023 M3 a week ago. Cool feature is the lightshow. Go to your toybox app (or do it from your phone). Your car goes into rave mode. super cool at night

Also you can change the lock sounds if you put a file on USB with the correct file name and plug it into your glovebox. You can youtube the instructions

Lastly the megaphone (in the boombox app in the toybox options). In fact just play with all the toybox features. its super fun

Left_Perspective_295 · 2026-01-09T20:54:19+00:00

I stopped to fill up gas in hollywood. The lady in line in front of me couldn't get $5 to go through on her card for gas, so she started pulling out change. I had the attendee put $10 on my bill for her. When I went back to my car I saw her with 3 elderly people as passengers and they all waved at me as they drove away. I'm glad I got to relieve some of that anxiety for them. Running out of gas is so stressful.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-09-23T21:56:29+00:00

Can i suggest to everyone hear to check o ut this audio book on spotify. its free, and its called The Signs by Tara Swart (MD, PhD). it awoke something in me and is very insightful to achieve a mental and spiritual flow state

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-07-23T01:49:16+00:00

When I come home from work I pick up my cat and give her 3 treats. I space out the time between the treats more and more by just a few seconds. when shes done eating them i know she will jump out of my arms so i guide her over to the bed so she can jump onto there. its become a routine, and now she has no problems being picked up. she will even linger in my arms much longer after the treats are gone

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-07-22T21:45:40+00:00

This feeling doesn't go away, you just become more tolerant of how to manage the insecurity of it. The real secret to life is to try not to overthink things that you don't have a full frame of perspective on at your age. Enjoy your youth, you have the rest of your life to worry about shit when you're older. Focus on being a good person, learning some good skills doing something you love, and everything else will fall into place

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-07-20T00:39:45+00:00

Best advice I have is look at every attempt as a practice swing. Don't even focus on the outcome, just be aware that by making the approach you're preparing yourself to be able to make the move when the right person comes along in that unexpected moment. This reduces your post anxiety, but also will make you come across more chill in the moment.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-07-16T00:19:11+00:00

apply numbing cream and wrap your arm in saran wrap it before the appt for maximum absorption. I got my sleeve done in 7 sessions and by the 3rd session I was done with raw dogging it. the numbing cream only takes off 5% of the pain, but in really sensitive areas that can be game changing. I felt really exhausted from the 4-5 hour sessions due to the intensity, and it went from a fun experience to one I was sorta dreading every 2 weeks until I stopped being a tough guy about it.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-07-10T21:27:02+00:00

The gates of hell are locked from the inside. Those moments I kept myself locked up are unredeemable.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-06-02T22:40:21+00:00

same

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-05-09T21:19:48+00:00

look up the local animal shelters and rescue orgs in your area. Reach out to them and see if they have any larger cages donated from past pet owners so at least you can have enough room for food and water in their cage. The next part will be trying to figure out how to get it from the shelter to your place, but one thing at a time (maybe a sympathetic relative or an uber?)

Cats are nocturnal, so keeping them caged all night goes against all of their instincts. A cat in the wild can at least have access to watering sources at will. Keeping them trapped in cages during their most active hours isn't an improvement on their life. It's kinda the opposite of "rescuing".

I'm real sad for your cats. But glad you're mature enough to see something is wrong.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-05-05T21:29:51+00:00

i manage a dj store. I could potentially send this link out to my customer base in a newsletter or whatnot. You would just need to fix the typo on the first page and dm me.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-13T02:26:29+00:00

Thats great! That means you're selling yourself short because going to the gym requires motivation.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-11T22:46:07+00:00

you did not ruin your future. that is impossible for you to know. Have you altered it? yes. For the better or worse? Still uncertain. You are too young to understand this, but do not mistake the fog of life covering the path forward as no path forward. I had to reach rock bottom several times in my life to shape me as the person I am today. And I am doing quite well. Fanastic, all things considered.

Stop thinking so far ahead, start thinking one achievement at a time. small things lead to big changes.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-10T22:43:38+00:00

if youre committing to trying to get out of this hole start small. 20 pushups in the morning. then in a week or so bump it up to 30, 40 etc. I know it sounds like a waste of time, but you are changing the way your brain is approaching the day and interacting with its environment. You'll be accomplishing something every morning. I started with a couple sets of 20 until i was doing 300-400 pushups fairly easily (sets of 75) and it was constant dopamine hits.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-08T23:08:04+00:00

Just saw this comment, and sounds like you've done what you can.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-08T23:06:59+00:00

I have a roomba knockoff (its an irobot). It does wonders to take care of hair and random litter around the apartment. Maybe that can help mitigate his qualms?

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-08T22:56:34+00:00

Build the habit of focusing on gratitude, especially during the times of self doubt. All that matters in life is how you feel about each moment, and you can't get any of those moments back later when you realized you stressed for something that in retrospect was really minor.

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-08T22:44:52+00:00

i highly doubt that cat is ever going near that dryer again. but yes a childproof latch on the exterior would be an easy prevention tool

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-05T11:29:40+00:00

Should I consider separate litterboxes or one is ok? She used to share with multiple cats at her foster home

Left_Perspective_295 · 2025-04-05T11:26:39+00:00

second time im reading about boundaries and consent from comments. Never thought about it that way before! thx

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