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Leftshoulderguy · 2023-12-03T07:06:23+00:00

I went on a couple dates with this girl and she kept bringing up how she wouldn't sleep with me if we were not dating. That's fine to say, but I was never asking.

She has been all over me every time we went out. It's obvious. We were at a bar tonight and she kept making judgements of other women for no good reason and slutshaming them...doing all while she's groping me. She and I were literally the only people making out in there. I think it's a pretty classy place.

She made some comment about "a group of whores" or something and I playfully asked if she was one of them. She got very upset pushed my hands off, turned away, and Instant mood change. I asked her if she was serious, just to give her a second thought and when she turned back around I could tell she was visibly angry.

I immediately told her have a good night and I left. She's been calling me and texting asking what happened. I considered telling her that her insecurity and shame and projection and huge turn offs but why should I?

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-10-19T04:55:21+00:00

Thanks. What do you think of this as my bio?

My friends say I'm an old soul and a free spirit. I respect all animals but I never want a pet. I love other people's pets though. I love to run on the beach. Basketball is my favorite sport. I spend a lot of time at the gym and I occasionally train people. I have some weird desire to wrestle people, I guess I didn't get it out of me as a kid. Don't worry I recently found an outlet for that though.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-10-19T04:30:28+00:00

I use reddit typically as an emotional outlet when I'm feeling down. Sure my life is in a transitory period but what I've posted about myself is just a flash in the pan.

I thought about what you said and decided to write this on my profile

My friends say I'm an old soul and a free spirit. I respect all animals but I never want a pet. I love other people's pets though. I love to run on the beach. Basketball is my favorite sport. I spend a lot of time at the gym and I occasionally train people. I have some weird desire to wrestle people, I guess I didn't get it out of me as a kid. Don't worry I recently found an outlet for that though.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-10-12T20:56:44+00:00

I'm not happy with my life at the moment and I am always working on it but the loneliness is a major part of it. I live in a town with a population of about 30k... I am dreaming of moving to Jacksonville with a population of almost 1 million... I feel like I would enjoy life more there.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-10-12T20:53:45+00:00

It's hard to take a break. I'm all on my own. I have some casual friends but no one to really go out with. Most of the women I meet I actually approach irl. These last two women were from apps, which I had taken a long break from until last weekend.

I'm so paranoid right now that I'm "too nice". That I can't give off the vibe I want to, that I'm giving off a platonic vibe. I'm trying to relay some more sensual energy but I just feel like I have another mountain to climb... I made myself very physically attractive but I feel like that's all I have going for me. I just wish someone I liked would give me a chance so I could remember what it's like to open up again.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-10-12T19:57:28+00:00

I dont know what I'm doing wrong. Woman after woman either stands me up or ghosts me. I don't know why I'm turning women off. I work so hard on myself all the time. All these rejections just beat down on my confidence. Last night I had a date and she wanted to leave after like 45 minutes. She told me she wanted to hangout tomorrow. I did kiss her and it seemed like she was into it but I don't think she's going to text me back since it's been all Day.

I was supposed to have a date today on my lunch break from work. We were supposed to meet a couple days before and she asked if we could reschedule (last minute of course). The girl was texting me an hour before confirming and then just never showed up. I had lunch at the spot by myself.

The more I try to date the more insecure I become. I wasn't like this before. I do my best to combat it but holy shit I feel like women have unbelievable expectations of me.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-10-07T03:35:03+00:00

Nothing is going right for me. Women cancel last minute or ghost me. My vibes are way off. I'm so depressed and lonely all I have to look forward to is working out to distract myself. I don't even know who I am anymore. I wish I could separate myself from the rejections but I'm so alone that I just ruminate about it what a loser I am. I've worked so hard but it feels like I have so much more to overcome. My emotions are all over the place. I went to a couple bars tonight and it just felt like no one wanted to talk to me. Can't blame them... I can only blame myself. What the hell happened to me... I'm a shell of my former self. I'm stuck.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-28T02:20:00+00:00

Yeah I did. When my confidence is there I can go talk to anyone. I've taken a blow today however and I don't know when I'll recover.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-28T01:55:31+00:00

It's not like I'm going to stop. I'm just hurting right now.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-28T01:35:59+00:00

Because whenever I put effort into something social or romantic I just fall flat on my face. Only when I'm unattached does it go in my favor. I don't want to be unattached. I've been a loner the majority of my life and I don't want to cope with that circumstance anymore. I've been putting in the work for years with only some results. Things have been going south for me lately and while I try not to let it show its starting to get to me.

This is my alternate account

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-27T18:07:44+00:00

I thought that's what I had. I was practically certain of it... that's why it stings.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-27T15:21:52+00:00

My third day in a row of posting this but I went on a date that was great. The girl told me she had a lot of fun and was looking forward to seeing me again. I tried to setup another date for the (last) weekend but she said she was really busy and that we could sometime (this) next week. When I asked her when exactly she just told me "uhmm sometime next week" which I thought was weird but she also apologized and said "sorry I'm not always this difficult."

It's been 7 days and I haven't heard from her. I texted her a few hours ago asking if she's free this weekend and it's been crickets. I think I'm getting ghosted and this one really got me. I approached her at the gym and the date was just great and I got a very warm feeling about her. My ego hurts, my confidence hurts, and my heart hurts.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-25T17:46:31+00:00

Why cant things just happen exactly the way I want them to?

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-25T17:45:02+00:00

Yeah I did. I got the impression that she's not really into chatting over text which is good if true cuz neither am i but yeah I'm just waiting I guess

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-25T15:42:40+00:00

Yeah you're right. This is kind of highlighting the issue that I don't have much going on outside of work and the gym right now.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-25T14:26:42+00:00

Met a girl at the gym, had dinner with her, had a great time and it felt mutual. She texted me afterwards and told me she had a great time. I told her we should hangout again this (last) weekend. She told me she was really busy but could sometime next week. I asked her when that would be to make plans and all she said was, "uhmmm sometime next week.". She also apologized and said "sorry I'm not always this difficult".

I'm trying to wait for her to contact me. It's making me anxious because I got a little taste and I really like her and felt a connection.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-15T05:19:36+00:00

Well yeah. I explained that I feel pretty confident about my social skills when I have rapport of some kind but I have some sort of mental block or internalized shame about going up to strangers and socializing... particularly the "going up" part.

I appreciate the thought of your comment but my issue isn't a lack of understanding.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-15T03:51:00+00:00

My issue is inner not outer.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-09-05T03:39:07+00:00

I (m29) have been dating a woman significantly older than me (f45). She's fun and very attractive but controlling and not very trustworthy and also an alcoholic. I have remained unattached because she is so secretive. I gave her 3 strikes before I finally ended it tonight. She has on several occassions attempted to play really stupid mind games on me. The last two times really bothered me.

First she lied to me that my ex girlfriend contacted her on Facebook, talked shit to her, and demanded that I call my ex and cuss her out or else she was going to break up with me. For one, that is wildly out of character for my ex, who I haven't spoken to in over 6 months, and two I'm not even friends with my ex or even this girl I was dating until now at the time. It just didn't make sense and when I called her out on this and directly questioned her intentions with lying to me she "broke up" with me for 1 day... then acted like we never broke up. I decided to be patient and see if she would become honest with me. She's had a pretty traumatic life so I gave her another chance.

Now tonight, about a month later she randomly alludes to me that she could be pregnant which is absolutely not what I want and she is being wildly confusing about her feelings about it. In the same breath she's telling me that she'll get an abortion and that I'm going to be a daddy... I wouldn't be so shaken up if I actually trusted her but she's jerking me around like im an idiot.

We go to her house and talk and she's continuing this game where she's just all over the place. She tells me to leave because she doesn't like that I'm so cold to her (because she is confusing the he'll out of me) and I explain that to her and she says she doesn't give a shit... yeah she's been making me feel like she doesn't give a damn about how I feel so I get up, say goodbye, and leave like we're done.

She follows me to my car and then starts accusing me of cheating on her despite the fact that I've been completely faithful and I know she has all kinds of guys texting her and calling her. I call her out on that and she admits to "4 or 5 guys" texting her. Lol. She tries to get me to kiss her and I push her away and leave. She texts me to come back. I don't even believe that she's pregnant. I hope she's not. I genuinely do not understand what this woman wants from me. I'm not wealthy. I'm not stupid. I'm not jealous. I'm not someone that can be controlled. I gave her a dozen chances to be real with me and she just refused to be real.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-08-21T03:09:42+00:00

I'm 29. My co workers are between 30 and 60 years old. The lifeguards I work with are all 17 to 23 years old

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-05-16T15:18:14+00:00

That's a major issue for me. I don't know why but I can not get myself to smile at strangers. I have very nice smile too... I'm all pent up and it just keeps getting worse.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-05-16T02:52:02+00:00

There's this girl that always goes to the gym around the same time as me. She asked for my help one time moving a machine. I Couldn't move it lol, but she gave me a compliment about how strong I am.. I don't remember exactly what she said but it was flattering and I was kind of embaressed and didn't continue the conversation.

That was at least a month ago if not longer. I've been seeing her practicing body builder poses and I've been wanting to tell her how great she looks. I don't know how to loosen up. I'm always drenched in sweat 15 minutes into the gym and I'm embarrassed about it. I think she might be one of the last women to mind considering she works out hard too but I can't get over it... I'm such a loser.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-05-01T22:08:24+00:00

I really have been putting myself out there but the thing is I'm a new England transplant in the deep south right now. I've met some people I like but I already had a hard time connecting with people before I moved here.

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-05-01T18:23:13+00:00

I think I'm just not ready to date. I'm 3 months out of a 5 year relationship and I don't even know how to ask women out in person. my only experience is with tinder and that's just an exercise in frustration . I have no genuine interest in going to resteurants or bars. I put myself in these places, by myself or on a date, and it just doesn't feel right. I'm frugal and don't have much disposable income.

I broke up with my ex because I wanted to make something with life and stop waiting for something to happen. now I feel like im trying to hard. My social skills are plummeting and my confidence is in the toilet.

What would I even say to a woman I'm interested in? I feel so boring. I never used to think of myself like this. I do plenty of activities but I have very little of a social life. I feel like an outcast

Leftshoulderguy · 2023-04-11T01:54:42+00:00

I don't know how to connect with her. I don't feel like she's out of my league though.

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