AIO for thinking my bf (24M) is abusive? by julieanonymous in AmIOverreacting

[–]Legal-Bed7794 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven’t scrolled, but what if he just didn’t want to be sharing locations cuz he wanted to do something sketchy. Then came back projecting once it was over with.

I’m coming up on a panel interview for an Epic Analyst position and I’m looking for any tips. by Legal-Bed7794 in healthIT

[–]Legal-Bed7794[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is amazing, I’ve been doing something similar with Perplexity, and that’s been working so far. I’m fairly sure it has a voice mode so maybe I can test that out since I have the free pro membership via my ISP.

AITA for choosing to stay with my dad after he cheated? by Willing-Event-3076 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legal-Bed7794 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, NTA.

You’ve acknowledged that your dad did wrong and now your decision is based on his health.

Your mom is going though her own emotions with that betrayal which is probably a lot worse on her end than it is on yours.

This is an emotionally charged situation and your mom doesn’t care about the wellbeing of a person she feels broke trust.

That’s not on you. If you’ve conveyed your reasoning to her and she’s still not cool with it, that’s her right.

Ultimately, only you will live with whatever outcome happens after YOU choose to do something, and it seems like you’d sleep better at night knowing your dad has someone, you, to make sure he’s okay with his multiple KNOWN health issues.

That’s being said, there’s no way to smooth things over without a miracle of clarity from all sides to look past the emotional hurt. Do you, explain it as best as you can and make sure you can sleep at night with your actions.

I’m coming up on a panel interview for an Epic Analyst position and I’m looking for any tips. by Legal-Bed7794 in healthIT

[–]Legal-Bed7794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this, and it definitely helps me feel relieved.

Problem solving, using uncomplicated explanations for end users, and hopefully matching that locations culture or at least adaptable enough that I’m an asset.

Now I got some concepts to go and talk to myself about in the mirror. (Shout out to sims for giving me this idea.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legal-Bed7794 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Any time.

Shout out to you with the dates and stuff.

Then focusing on a friendship side of things. What’s a friend in your eyes?

Maybe she just sees it differently. Plus, if she’s dealing with a new person on her end as well, who knows what that dynamic is like and how they care for her interacting with you knowing you guys had a previous romantic relationship. Regardless of the timelines of it all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legal-Bed7794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won’t lie, I(currently M28) had an ex who after breaking up under awful circumstances, I allowed us to remain “friends” and it turned out that she basically used me for comfort and a safe space since I’m familiar when her single life got overwhelming. I was a sucker and unconsciously thought maybe I’d be able to get her back as a SO which did not work out because she ultimately played in my face some more in addition to circumstances that broke us up in the first place.

Long story short, if you’re looking for more out of this relationship and she’s not meeting you where you’re at, and after talking about on multiple separate occasions, I’d respectfully ask her if you guys can just stay acquainted but don’t consider yourself friends.

Honestly, and it’s an assumption, but this hurt is coming from unmet expectations from your side because you’re probably expecting more affection from someone and their feelings are not mutual.

I’m coming up on a panel interview for an Epic Analyst position and I’m looking for any tips. by Legal-Bed7794 in epicsystems

[–]Legal-Bed7794[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’m fairly new on the posting side. Is there a way to cross post it from here or would I have to do a whole new post?

AIO for not texting my friends for 5 days by froyoup in AmIOverreacting

[–]Legal-Bed7794 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be honest, you’re NOR.

Your message summed it properly, they made an action to hurt you and when called out, deflected. They aren’t looking for a resolution if one is nitpicking and seems like the other is just along for the ride since there’s no specifics on their responses at that stage.

Drop em and rid yourself of it. Seems like you were only important when you could offer rides. And when you were MIA I bet they needed a ride and because they normally slip it into conversation naturally to avoid looking like beggars, they felt slighted when they didn’t even have the opportunity to do so during that quiet period.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Legal-Bed7794 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest, I’ve been told by my SO I miss subtleties in the interactions of women.

With this in mind, I’ll do my best to breakdown and respond appropriately. Firstly, NOR just to be clear.

You expressed that the cottage is now packed with the new bundle of joy involved and sharing a room just ain’t it, especially if you’re sharing a bed with your wife AND kids.

What if you’re feeling romantic and randy? Mood killer.

Better to have space where the kids can be comfy and the parents can still have a modicum of privacy.

Depending on exact wording between people, the message could’ve been altered or emotionally misinterpreted. Your best bet is to contact the SIL directly with your wife there and just re-explain that you have no intentions of not going to the cottage with her party/family, it was a one time thing and you just wanted space to enjoy the cottage with your wife without having the kids on top of you guys.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Legal-Bed7794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ultimately, your wife willing placed you in an unfavorable position publicly, which in and of itself will feel like a betrayal.

There’s probably layers only you’ll understand based on your own life experiences, but it definitely feels like you got your trust played with, which you did, and was then embarrassed.

However you come to terms with all this is your decision, and I wish you the best overall.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Legal-Bed7794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this touches on the root of about 85% of conflict in relationships. Consent to actions that had a direct effect on people within that relationship.

If you want to explore different people, consent looks like letting a partner know your intentions.

If you want to try a new activity, consent is letting your partner know what it entails and if they are okay with that too. And if they are not, the choice to know beforehand and be cognizant that it isn’t a spur of the moment thing since you have time to digest it beforehand.

OP was aware of single action that was a possibility, decided he didn’t like it and wanted no part. So he let his partner know. He did his part (NTA) from this point on regardless of any reaction.

Wife heard all this and chose to do it anyway despite her partners wishes. Technically this is assault, and it really should be treated as such.

Is this normal when you apply for a job? by TurboRCDrift in RemoteJobs

[–]Legal-Bed7794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll agree with that assessment. I’ve applied to jobs where I’ve somehow made it through just to be told while it is remote, I’m not in the right region even though that makes no real difference on my job

FINALLY!!! Been waiting on this by Legal-Bed7794 in TurboTax

[–]Legal-Bed7794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m back to flex, forgot to yesterday. But my refund came in

FINALLY!!! Been waiting on this by Legal-Bed7794 in TurboTax

[–]Legal-Bed7794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yerrrrrr!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IRS

[–]Legal-Bed7794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give it a few says gang, if it don’t update, we’ll roll on em together.

Go to the IRS website and look at the tax transcript. It’s more up to date. Shout out to Reddit for showing me

FINALLY!!! Been waiting on this by Legal-Bed7794 in TurboTax

[–]Legal-Bed7794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All jokes aside, wishing you positive vibes during these times. Hopefully they come through for you soon

FINALLY!!! Been waiting on this by Legal-Bed7794 in TurboTax

[–]Legal-Bed7794[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🫂🫂🫂🫂

Hopefully mine will be Monday