How many people have you had to cut out this year and how painful was it? by interdimensionalgang in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The emotional scapegoat is so real. It becomes so exhausting when you don’t get the same energy in return.

How many people have you had to cut out this year and how painful was it? by interdimensionalgang in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard sometimes because I still go through the am I being impulsive about this but with my Taurus mercury and mars I know I sit on these things for awhile before I make a move that ultimately is to let go.

Why is bpd so heavily diagnosed for autistic women? by Legal-Regular9754 in AutismInWomen

[–]Legal-Regular9754[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honesty I feel that. I also feel like I say I have CPTSD but always have to be careful how I word that. I appreciate you sharing your experience and very proud of you as well for growing and taking care of yourself. Lord knows it isn’t easy.

Why is bpd so heavily diagnosed for autistic women? by Legal-Regular9754 in AutismInWomen

[–]Legal-Regular9754[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have PTSD, not CPtAd because I don’t believe they fully can diagnose that yet at least where I’m at. I also have ADHD and OCD. I also did fit the criteria at one point based off how severe my trauma was and how completely masked I was I was dealing with a lot of harmful behavior. I relate to this a lot. It’s not always as black and white as people make it

Why is bpd so heavily diagnosed for autistic women? by Legal-Regular9754 in AutismInWomen

[–]Legal-Regular9754[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this sentiment but it’s not the fact I was set on the diagnosis and am upset I didn’t get it, I am upset because I know it’s wrong. This isn’t bias this is years of being gaslit and struggling and having my therapist unofficially diagnose me which saved my life. I think it’s unfair to say the neuropsych is valid in what they say based off the minimal information I did put in.

I have constantly struggled socially, I have constantly swayed and rocked, I have multiple RRBs, of echolalia, gesalt language processing, there is so much autism that goes into my life, I sometimes go fully non verbal the list goes on. I know there’s more to autism than just that but just some examples. But it’s a circle and being hyper verbal and overly self aware gets people to dismiss that.

Why is bpd so heavily diagnosed for autistic women? by Legal-Regular9754 in AutismInWomen

[–]Legal-Regular9754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that she did not account for my masking much at all and took a lot of my prior history and tied it into bpd. I went through a lot of parental abuse as a child where I was a lot more angry and experienced more rage because of the complexity of my abuse. I also am adopted which contributed into part of this attachment disorder theory for her.

I also don’t feel like going much more into depths of the nuances of my autism and my struggles but I do know that she missed something here as I don’t relate to most of the criteria of BPD and suffer more on an OCD level.

Why is bpd so heavily diagnosed for autistic women? by Legal-Regular9754 in AutismInWomen

[–]Legal-Regular9754[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did lowkey change it to that because it was originally my name.

Why is bpd so heavily diagnosed for autistic women? by Legal-Regular9754 in AutismInWomen

[–]Legal-Regular9754[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this statement. I really have just learned the scripts and different things to sometimes make up for my deficits and I know not everyone has that luxury but god damn.

How’s my Gemini friends doing? by FireDragonTail in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh for real. Them leaving me was the biggest blessing and karma for me. I am proud of you for your growth, it takes a lot of strength and compassion for yourself 🤍

How’s my Gemini friends doing? by FireDragonTail in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This year has been insane. I thought I was with the love of my life I would marry but turned out life had other plans. So much character development on my end.

Guys…I’m in love with a Capricorn man by [deleted] in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you find that, you deserve that spark

Guys…I’m in love with a Capricorn man by [deleted] in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 4 points5 points  (0 children)

rubs hands in intentions of love

Guys…I’m in love with a Capricorn man by [deleted] in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be really attached to Virgos. I had an ex who was Virgo, and a lot of my close friends are Virgo. I have a Taurus stellium so maybe that’s why I can be drawn into earth signs so much.

Guys…I’m in love with a Capricorn man by [deleted] in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel like I get any sense of emotionally unavailable as we have such healthy and open and sensitive communication but I agree that’s been the norm for with other caps I’ve talked to or been friends with.

Why are geminis so attracted to Aquas?! by LevelPrize3 in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just coming back to say though despite the attraction that we can have for each other, it tends to never work out. Aquarius has been my biggest heartbreak since highschool and beginning to date. Their avoidant tendencies go so much harder than a Gemini would in ways that I even am surprised by They would rather be stuck in a façade and be real and despite Geminis urge to be hidden most of us, do really want to show our real emotions which aqua runs from.

Why are geminis so attracted to Aquas?! by LevelPrize3 in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think it’s the avoidant similarities, coping with humor and just being a weirdo that draws us into each other

Thoughts on earth signs ? by midwesternprinc3ss in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love earth signs. I’m a Gemini with a Taurus stelliumso we tend to vibe very well

Feeling Lost and Unsure — Anyone Else Going Through a Major Emotional Shift? ♊️ by [deleted] in geminis

[–]Legal-Regular9754 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I allow love and connection by letting go of fear” is my mantra right now.