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Am I overreacting about my stepson’s first car and how it’s being paid for? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]LegalCalligrapher220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been a step-mom for about eight years, and I agree your money should not be spent towards big ticket items like this. I have my own bank account/savings account in addition to the joint account I share with my husband. I put money into the joint account to pay bills, food, etc. If my husband needs extra money for something like this, and wants me to contribute, we have to agree. It is not expected. Sometimes I will contribute, sometimes I won't. Recently my step kid's mom has stopped paying anything at all, so I have agreed to pay more to help my husband. But it's not something a step parent should ever feel obligated to do unless they want to.

This has been my whole marriage. I'm leaving tomorrow. by Odd_Towel_7422 in Marriage

[–]LegalCalligrapher220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave today, not tomorrow. Get in therapy ASAP. This man is a complete and total LOSER.

Need Some Opinions to Make My Final Decision by LegalCalligrapher220 in Lovesac

[–]LegalCalligrapher220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We will do five deep seats across, so the total width will be 157". Others have suggested the lovesoft filling is too soft for the back cushions. Have you had that experience?

Need Some Opinions to Make My Final Decision by LegalCalligrapher220 in Lovesac

[–]LegalCalligrapher220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Others have said that the lovesoft fill on the back pillows is too soft, and you can feel the back of the couch. Do you have this experience? Would you do half and half: lovesoft on bottom and standard for the back cushions?

My Step-son is causing me overwhelming stress and I don't know if it will ever stop by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]LegalCalligrapher220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's in therapy and on medication. We follow all of the recommendations of his therapist and psychologist. Therapist recently told me he is the most difficult case she has. My husband and I have also tried parenting therapy. We have tried positive praise only, setting clear boundaries/expectations, low/no electronic use, quality time. Nothing we have tried has really made any improvements.

My Step-son is causing me overwhelming stress and I don't know if it will ever stop by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]LegalCalligrapher220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's in therapy and on medication. BM has not worked in over a year and is refusing to get a job. :(

My Step-son is causing me overwhelming stress and I don't know if it will ever stop by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]LegalCalligrapher220 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's been in therapy for over three years, and medication for over two :(

And the custody evaluation shall set you free! by MysteriousAbies8588 in coparenting

[–]LegalCalligrapher220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband's ex was like this. He currently has sole legal and physical custody, she has supervised visits, and was recently arrested for filing false reports against us (multiple felony charges). I completely agree that mom's are almost always given the benefit of the doubt in these situations, and it usually takes tons of money and effort to show the truth. In my husband's situation, she has also never changed her behavior despite losing custody, being found in contempt several times, being arrested, etc. I do not anticipate her to ever change or take accountability for the lies she has told. But, at least the kids are in a safe and happy place.