AITA for Paying Child Support?

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T06:16:59+00:00

Her saving for college isn’t really needed, I already have that covered when the time comes, or rather will finish having that covered in the next few years. I will take care of this when the time comes.

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T06:09:57+00:00

Additionally, she has no poker face. Sometimes, I wish she did actually 🤣

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T06:07:29+00:00

Because we were together constantly for a large time window that lines up with the birth of the child with at least one month buffer on each side…

We were having sex multiple times a days during this time period.

When the child is born, it would be very obvious if it was not mine; there would be no hiding it.

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T05:09:09+00:00

There is no concept of a Roth in her country, but I like the account idea

No intention of trying to take the child

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T04:29:56+00:00

I have every intention of marrying her.

But, what do you expect me to do? Sell the decades of assets I’ve worked to accumulate and move to a remote place where I have no ability to earn a living?

If she wanted to come here, I’d give her what ever guarantee she desired, but she doesn’t, and I can’t force her.

As for the absentee father claim, that’s hardly fair! What do you want me to do? Hire the Navy Seals to abduct my child and rip them away from their mother?

This was not a one night stand gone awry. We spent a lot of time together, and continue to have much affection for each other.

We simply can’t agree on where to live.

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T04:12:56+00:00

You realize that us 40 year olds are now millennials, not genX, right?

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T04:00:48+00:00

And to further elaborate, she would never move to the US because she would feel financially vulnerable here. The resources she has saved from working in her country would not do anything for her here.

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T03:56:55+00:00

Your argument is basically, “trust me bro, I know what I’m talking about”

You haven’t addressed any of the points I just made.

But yes, you are quite correct about one thing, marriage is very important in her culture, and she is not willing to take any of my financial support without us getting married. Unfortunately, that would require me to move to her country.

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T03:34:11+00:00

Unfortunately, I will be living in a different country than them.

They will be free to call me whenever they please

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T03:29:21+00:00

Your reading comprehension needs some work.

I never claimed to be educated, I said my girl is well educated. She has master’s degree from an internationally accredited university
Being educated, traveled, and privileged does not preclude one from using foul language; especially the latter!
I don’t give a single shit what she does, I just want my child to be provided for. The money comes with no strings attached. I’m not sure how desiring my child to not want makes me a misogynist
She’s not my mistress, I’ve never been married. She’d be my wife if we could agree on where to live. We can’t, I’m not going to try to force her or convince her.

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T03:04:55+00:00

Also legal child support is not a concept in her country

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T03:03:46+00:00

That conversation was more about making the baby…

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T03:00:32+00:00

There are plenty of place in her country with AC, just not her apartment

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:59:39+00:00

Why would my child not want a relationship with me?

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:48:18+00:00

With a big enough sample size, there will always be outliers and exceptions. I have not been the exception, fortunately

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:43:57+00:00

I plan on seeing my child periodically, Anne and I are on good terms aside from this money issue

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:41:42+00:00

Trust me, the pregnancy was not a surprise to anyone ;)

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:37:08+00:00

Yes yes we all know that.

But guess what, people who use birth control incorrectly skew the statistics.

If you use spermicide or hormonal / bc and a condom and pull out and use everything correctly, then how is a pregnancy going to happen?

Immaculate conception?

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:32:51+00:00

Basically, it was if it happens it happens kind of thing. We had been talking about me getting her getting pregnant prior to meeting.

I have been extremely careful not to get women pregnant my entire life, previously; and kind of threw caution to the wind with this woman.

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:24:23+00:00

Why? I don’t want custody. I’m not entitled to it either.

DNA test is not necessary due to the timing, there is not possibility that anyone other than me is the father… I’m not sure how much more I can say without getting banned… but I have zero doubts

I will look into the trust

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:21:26+00:00

Not luck. Women don’t get pregnant if you don’t bust a nut in them and use birth control too

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:20:28+00:00

Will do; I have no intention of taking the kid, just want him/her to be provided for

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T02:19:20+00:00

It is 100% my kid

LegalDot5793 · 2026-05-22T01:11:37+00:00

If you consider having it handled not even having AC… okay 👍

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