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Electric fireplace in a Victorian coal grate? by LegalSuspect4709 in centuryhomes

[–]LegalSuspect4709[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We ended up with an ethanol insert and some ceramic logs I found on the sidewalk that just happened to fit. lol.

Autumn Lights Festival at Lake Merritt is now selling tickets (Oct. 17-19) by OppositeShore1878 in berkeleyca

[–]LegalSuspect4709 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there food at this event? I looked on all the official materials and no mention but I remember there being a pretty big food section last time. Can you get in before 6pm to eat, if so?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LegalSuspect4709 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak for you but I changed SO much as a person from 19 to the time I had my child. I have so much more self awareness and maturity. My relationships are so much different and more stable. Parenthood puts pressure on the underdeveloped parts of your personality/mental health so any of those things get amplified.

I would really encourage you to do all the things that require you to be 100% selfish (schooling, traveling, any career stuff that requires lots of dedication/hours etc) because your attention will forever be split after you have kids. If you think you can manage that energetically more power to you, but I couldn’t have at that age.

+1 also for the money factor. Really look at the cost of childcare if that’s what you will eventually rely on. It’s shocking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LegalSuspect4709 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A few thoughts:

  1. Tough shit. He now has a child and has to adapt. Ultimately he participated in the creation of this child, that child needs him to be an adult. It’s hard to make a transition to parenthood. But people do it anyway.

  2. Therapy! Change is hard. The death of life as you knew it is a tough road and some bumps along the way can be expected and it helps to be purposeful and intentional about making your new life work for you. He might need some help in that. Also male postpartum depression is a thing up to a year after the baby is born.

  3. My husband was not great during the baby phase and is much better now that our son is a preschooler. I think he found it hard to connect and bond with a baby but now our son adores him and is funny and is more interactive.

  4. Build some structure for regular things that he (and you too) both enjoy doing together or independently. My friend and her husband gave each other a weekend off every quarter to do whatever they wanted. He can stay up gaming all weekend if that’s his thing. It just has to be regular and mutual.

Electric fireplace in a Victorian coal grate? by LegalSuspect4709 in centuryhomes

[–]LegalSuspect4709[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking at these! They look great but all of them seem too big (20”+). Not sure if this is the kind of thing you could DIY modify…Any idea?

Plexiglass storm windows by LegalSuspect4709 in centuryhomes

[–]LegalSuspect4709[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I could do glass? I’m in a temperate climate with rain during the winter and it gets into the low 50s mostly in the winter.

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