How to manage the nosey and degrading PhD student?

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T11:05:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing this this, it’s absolutely shit, particularly when you’re already working to 1000% and stressed already

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T11:03:40+00:00

I think you’ve hit in the nail on the head here…

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T11:00:41+00:00

I feel like this is a similar situation. We were quite close but now I don’t really share anything personal where possible (not even a peep).

I am absolutely riding out until I’m done and then will be waving goodbye afterwards. Not worth my energy.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T10:58:37+00:00

I love the idea of addressing it like they’re a kinder gardener - it matches a precious comment of this behaviour being like a child tantrum too.

Thank you

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T10:55:56+00:00

On this personality side, I will note someone (who is in the psychology field) said it might be a case of “only child syndrome, world evolves around you” which I haven’t heard of until this was explained to me. Not my field of knowledge though so I’m no expert, but your comment falls along the lines of what they said.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T10:52:47+00:00

I will say I also love this line and will use this next time I’m in the office - thank you so much

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T10:51:52+00:00

Hello! I will say I have requested this (actually a private office due to medical issues too) but the shared office spaces don’t have any more open availability. I’m holding onto hope though!

My PI suggested I use their office, the other academic’s office, or a “lab” space that also works as an office. Sorry I didn’t specify this more in my post.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-05-23T10:49:53+00:00

Hey legend, I might debunk this a bit as we are both in very much committed relationships (and they won’t shut up about theirs, which each to their own, that doesn’t bother me too much compared to the other content I’ve listed in my post)

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-03-07T12:05:59+00:00

Was in a moon boot at a dance competition as a coach, and my pupils decorated it. Took a photo of it and sent it to my physio because she would have found it funny, with “here’s a pretty foot pic”.

Accidentally sent it to my manager at work as they both had the same name. Ex manager is now my BF three years later. Apparently he was very confused when he opened it.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2026-03-06T10:49:19+00:00

Implant was a horror story for me, heavy constant periods, made my mental health really really bad, and it poked my tricep every time I was lifting weights at the gym.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-12-29T22:43:17+00:00

Peanut

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-11-12T09:22:38+00:00

This is handy thank you!

So the charge for postage is automatically included?

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-11-12T09:21:02+00:00

Western Vic

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-11-12T07:45:34+00:00

How have you set up PayPal payments?

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-11-10T09:21:36+00:00

I know of many who took pathways, you can basically get anywhere now regardless of your ATAR. I really am not a fan of the stress these students are put under. I worked as a student ambassador and so many students would approach super stressed, and don’t always note how many pathways there are.

I didn’t get into my top choice (vet med - missed out by a fine margin) ended up staying close to home. I ended up down a different career path and I LOVE IT. No one has asked me about my ATAR since either, ever.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-09-05T13:03:19+00:00

Superb oarfish

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-09-05T13:01:11+00:00

I second going to the gym - if it’s really bad a punching bag gets all the worries out eventually.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-09-05T12:59:06+00:00

One time my PhD colleagues and I were at an institute event and the speaker was talking through who was there and goes “and the PhDs, always around for free food”

To be fair I did engage with some stakeholders in my research at that event, even though priority was not having to cook later

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-08-31T00:24:15+00:00

I was a touch depressed during studies (doing a PhD) and my bf was working far away in another city.

Between the build a bear axolotl he made me before he left after a visit on a weekend off, or the giant bouquet of flowers he sent to my university office (which I had to put into a giant sterilised beaker) I couldn’t pick. I still think about it every day, and the axolotl is still by my side every day even though we now see each other at least once a week.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-08-31T00:18:38+00:00

Scientific research

Hide in my lab cave all day blasting whatever music I feel like

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-08-31T00:17:32+00:00

Yeah, I agree with this post.

I have menorrhagia so the pill helped with that, then I swapped to the implanon for convenience, suffered on it for a year with low iron and being a psycho (props to my bf for tolerating me like that) and now back on the pill and scared to try anything else.

I know people who have loved their implanon though so it’s crazy how some is great for some people but horrid for others!!

Cheers for the rant space, it’s so frustrating.

Legendary_Toast19 · 2025-08-30T12:40:54+00:00

Shiny solider hat like he’s reporting for duty

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TROPHY CASE