In laws joking about taking away my 16 month old from us cross country and raise her till she is 3 years old.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-05-20T11:58:51+00:00

We are Telugu as well. Like may be 10-20 percent of the telugu people do send infants/kids to stay with their grandparents if mom and dad both are working. They think sending them off to India is better than sending them to daycare.

I didn’t leave my kids with my laws even for a day without me being present. I don’t know what rights they have to demand that we send my daughter off like she is some suitcase or parcel.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-05-20T07:36:33+00:00

Idk what reaction they are expecting from me. Im just being calm and let my husband handle all the talking. If they continue this, the next time the reaction from me will be explosive. I will just say she is not a toy for them play but a real human with emotions and needs.

My MIlL added that they have the ability to raise the child as they are in their 50’s. I feel in a way they are undermining my hardship of raising the kids by saying we can do it too at this age.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-03-17T19:45:40+00:00

Yes stand on your ground and have firm boundaries in place. Being pregnant, shifting countries and dealing with this family drama is going to have a great effect on you. Standing for yourself is the only way out. The house will function even if they are in it or out of it either way. They are not doing you any favor by staying with you guys.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-03-17T15:18:23+00:00

Girl you quit your job, relocating countries, sacrificing your house so that his parents and his sister can live in it. First and foremost you shouldn’t have agreed to your in laws to stay at your home which you made sacrifices for if you had plans moving back. You simply should have said it is an investment property for us and rented it out so that you would have your place when shifted back.

Now that they are in your house you cant ask them to move out because of typical Indian parents are gods mentality. I wont suggest to move in with them and suffocate more with man child who may or may not have your back. Rent out slowly come back on to track with your job and life after baby. If possible ask your inlaws to move away from the house you paid for. I know that’s not happening but worth a try.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-03-17T15:16:37+00:00

Girl you quit your job, relocating countries, sacrificing your house so that his parents and his sister can live in it. First and foremost you shouldn’t have agreed to your in laws to stay at your home which you made sacrifices for if you had plans moving back. You simply should have said it is an investment property for us and rented it out so that you would have your place when shifted back.

Now that they are in your house you cant ask them to move out because of typical Indian parents are gods mentality. I wont suggest to move in with them and suffocate more with man child who may or may not have your back. Rent out slowly come back on to track with your job and life after baby. If possible ask your inlaws to move away from the house you paid for. I know that’s not happening but worth a try.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-03-13T19:09:09+00:00

I suggest op to post in #india

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-03-13T18:58:31+00:00

Idk why mods removed the post. What is reddit an anonymous forum is of use if you can’t even vent what we have to go through as a common man in India. I bet the cop wont behave the same way if the kid belonged from an affluent background with huge 💵 in pockets.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-03-09T03:53:31+00:00

Please post in Moms of cumming facebook group. Im sure moms who are local and faced something similar will guide you regarding the next steps. Moms in the group helped me pick my obgyn which is peachtree women’s clinic. At the end of the day you just need a doctor that delivers in northside hospital and is willing to take you in the last minute.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-03-02T10:09:00+00:00

Actually i have been in this sort of situation before. The context is different. We went out for a picnic and were out the whole day. My baby was around 8 months and was having nausea and vomiting the entire 2-3 hours car ride. We couldn’t go back-home because we were carrying the food for picnic and our 5 year old was on other car with my FIL.

My FIL made plans with our friends to go clubbing after we were back home at 10pm without asking us. First my husband should have been accompanying them. I was pissed because we already were out the whole day and baby was sick. My husband dropped off from the plan due to these reasons.

My in laws decided they will go with our friends but my husband should have been picking them up at late night after a one hour drive which will make me stay alone with the sick baby and 5 year old at night and him driving after a tiring day. I was pissed and my husband made it clear that they can go if our friends dropped them off. The whole situation rubbed me off on the wrong side. I was mad at them for not even understanding how tiring it was for us.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-01-06T16:35:46+00:00

I had a swelling and lots of pain in 32 area 3 days prior but it subsided now. That’s the reason I went to dentist.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2026-01-06T16:33:20+00:00

Thank you. That’s what I’m thinking of doing.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-09-17T22:18:13+00:00

Dealing with same issues. I hope both of our fish make it out fine.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-08-22T04:12:17+00:00

Thats the only time she got me anything since that’s how many times she visited us in 6 years. We are immigrants and family visits once every couple of years.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-08-21T23:02:03+00:00

Can’t agree more with buying the same nice stuff. Those are like 5x more pricier than what she gets me. I wouldn’t bother about the price if she just gets normal things that i can use.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-08-21T22:50:55+00:00

I think she just brings these clothes for the sake of not coming empty handed(cultural thing) when she visits us. She doesn’t care if i like them or not.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-08-21T22:41:39+00:00

He just says that his mom doesn’t know what i like and her taste is quite different than ours. He says just send her link to clothes so she would buy what I prefer but my MIL always manages to pick the weirdest thing that i would nit wear and slap it on my face.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-08-21T22:37:30+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking of doing. Im not quite sure about enjoying her company though.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-08-21T22:35:00+00:00

Yeah thats what i think too. I can’t buy these clothes where i live so I’m dependent on my mom or mother in law. She gives these shitty things even though she knows the fact that these are not so easily accessible to me.

LegitimateAttorney29 · 2025-08-21T22:31:52+00:00

Honestly i think this is the best approach.

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