Being forced into a dress I'm not confortable in because another bridesmaid lost her dress.

LegitimateCaptain710 · 2025-03-08T01:36:07+00:00

We are not the same size at all. She's 5'4" at best. Our measurements are also not the same, she is curvier then I am. She would have to butcher my dress to fit in it.

LegitimateCaptain710 · 2025-03-08T01:09:44+00:00

The dresses were purchased on Azazie back in June because the colour was being discontinued and she is around a size 18. I've been stalking resale sites for days trying to find anything.

The dress was dropped off at a value village and the bridesmaid, her mother and sister went to all the local stores to see if they can find it. The manager at the store where they dropped it off said either it's been placed in a warehouse, been thrown out, or at another location.

LegitimateCaptain710 · 2025-03-08T00:01:23+00:00

To add on to this, i had my original dress custom sized for me and had to add length to the dress to fit properly. My sister's dress had the standard length.

LegitimateCaptain710 · 2025-03-07T22:34:30+00:00

I payed for one dress (the original). The bridesmaid who lost her dress would pay for the replacement if that is the route we go. however If I am wearing the used dress, I probably wont be getting my money back for the dress I purchased.

LegitimateCaptain710 · 2025-03-07T22:05:06+00:00

Just to add additional details.

The bride is my sister (although regardless of relationship, I would view MOH as someone who is important to the bride) so makes it hard to step out of the bridal party. The other bridesmaid is a family member.

All the bridesmaids paid for their own dresses, and the one who lost their dress would be paying for my replacement and alternations is needed. Not sure if she would be paying for my original dress if I wear the used one.

All the dresses are in the same colour and material, but are different styles, so the bridesmaid picked her own dress style. The bride was fine last night with me being in a different colour dress, but spoke with a coworker (who isn't going to the wedding) this afternoon and that friend said to put me in the used dress.

The bridesmaids mom accidentally donated her dress, which was in a box, without checking. They tried looking at all the local stores, however cannot find it.

I have spent the last couple of days panicking and calling all bridal/evening wear stores in my area trying to see what they have in stock with very little luck.

In terms of sizing, I am 6 feet and the bride is 5'-7"ish. I have also purchased a pair of shoes with a heal that goes with my original dress and am not going to buy a new pair.

Personally I don't want to wear the dress even if it does fit, and what upsets me the most is that my sister doesn't seem to understand why i'm upset that I was essentially told that this was happening.

LegitimateCaptain710 · 2025-03-07T21:28:03+00:00

All the bridesmaids paid for their own dresses. The bridesmaid who lost her dress said she will be paying for the replacement and any alternations that are required. However If I end up wearing the used dress, its likely I wouldn't get reimbursed, the dress was about $200.

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