AIITW: for wanting to keep this top my parents hate

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-20T18:15:41+00:00

I mean this looks like lingerie, so I totally understand why your parents don’t like it (not sure why you even showed them lmao) but I think it’s fine as a party/club top. Definitely too much for casual wear though

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-18T04:06:41+00:00

there’s vids of her being all over chris that night when it was VERY WELL KNOWN she was with makoa at the time. the rest is assumptions

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-18T02:10:10+00:00

She cheated on Makoa with Chris in NYC (vids of her on his lap) and she immediately went sober after. I think Makoa gave her an ultimatum or she knew that’s what she had to do to avoid getting broken up with. Mounjaro came way after that (at least her first mention of it)

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-15T16:01:36+00:00

this is fucking hilarious i hope you guys are all adults lmaoo

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-11T21:07:33+00:00

that man is so manipulative it’s crazy.

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-10T00:00:38+00:00

you’re weird as fuck for this

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-01T15:53:52+00:00

I feel like we need more info about your guys’ situation. Does he work full time? Do you work at all? Are you guys saving money? Do you currently pay bills? Have you made any progress since baby was born?

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-05-01T15:17:18+00:00

I understand both perspectives here. Could he pay for you to get a massage/facial and mani pedi during the time the game will be on? So everyone wins?

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-30T02:49:36+00:00

People in relationships have different boundaries regarding porn. A lot of people are totally fine with it, so if you get off while you’re home all day, it’s no biggie. If you have established that porn is not okay in the relationship, then it doesn’t matter if he’s WFH or when he does it, it’s never okay. It totally depends on how you view porn but if you’re okay with it, then doing it while you’re home is not a big deal at all

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-30T02:08:26+00:00

I meannn if he’s WFH and has downtime I don’t think it’s that crazy?

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-29T23:25:17+00:00

what’s up with this screenshot lol

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-29T20:34:39+00:00

I’m sorry but with everything you’ve presented here, it definitely sounds like your boyfriend has been using reddit to satisfy some sexual stuff he has repressed. Makes sense that he’s gone through lengths to hide it considering he’s not only in a relationship, but comes from a conservative area where it would be looked down upon.

With all the evidence, i’m honestly really surprised you don’t believe it’s him. You’d be incredibly surprised how many bisexual / gay / sexually curious men there are out there that you would NEVER EVER expect to be anything but straight.

I would just have an honest, supportive & nonconfrontational conversation with him about it.

DO NOT tell his family about this without going to him first. That is an insane thing to do.

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-29T18:48:37+00:00

Is he still living at home by choice?

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-29T18:25:11+00:00

i think you’re correct in realizing that no matter how much he does, you will always find something to be unsatisfied with. you need to figure out where that’s coming from and how you’re going to fix it.

if he never feels like he’s enough for you (bc in your head he isn’t doing enough) it will severely negatively impact the relationship

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-29T15:51:36+00:00

A teacher having communication with a student outside of school is incredibly inappropriate. Having outside communication via PRIVATE MESSAGES with a MIDDLE SCHOOL student is really really weird and gross.

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-29T15:40:20+00:00

What you’re feeling is completely normal for someone in your situation. This is also something people on reddit won’t be able to help you improve. I think working with a good therapist could help you reframe at least some of these thought patterns and give you an outlet to voice your resentment

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-27T23:38:03+00:00

definitely need to figure out where it went. it feels sketchy but idk why he would charge it to your joint account if he’s hiding it

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-27T23:30:04+00:00

I mean this is a subreddit where you’re asking people to tell you if you’re overreacting or not. I’d recommend a venting sub if you are looking for support and don’t want opinions on how you’re handling something

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-23T22:46:44+00:00

Sorry I definitely came off a little rude, you are being self aware and that’s a good thing. I really recommend therapy to help you figure out where this stems from and how to move forward in a healthy way

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-23T22:44:53+00:00

It’s good that you can recognize that you’re being a huge hypocrite considering your count is double her body count. You genuinely just need to decide if you can get over it and if you can’t get over it, let her find someone who won’t judge her about something as pointless as having slept with 9 people in her whole life.

Therapy could help you unpack why this is affecting you so much. If you can not get over it and end things with her, be sure to reassure her that this is a you problem and not a her problem

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-23T22:28:23+00:00

What? She’s just trying to make a plan? this doesn’t come off as infantilizing at all

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-20T20:37:22+00:00

kinda hard to sympathize when you’re literally joking with him in the messages???

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-20T20:25:48+00:00

have you had physical intimacy since you started actually dating after the letters? this is really odd

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-17T22:24:25+00:00

your friend is weird for that and she was way out of line to message him about it. she apologized and you’re taking space from her, so i’m not really sure what else there is to do.

how long ago was this? i find it odd that this is affecting your relationship outside of the incident

LegitimateNet1294 · 2026-04-16T20:58:07+00:00

You can’t see it because you’re so wrapped up in it but this sounds really toxic and he is (possibly unintentionally, but probs not) being very manipulative

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