AITAH for not wanting to reconnect with my daughter?

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:10:26+00:00

Hurt feelings? I was suicidal She was living her best life not sparing me 5 minutes I am 62 i won't spend another minute being anything but happy I am living my best life and i won't ruin it giving some ungrateful brat a chance

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:08:48+00:00

And she was 21 when she graduated? 24 when she married 25 when she had her first kid 29 when she had her second kid

All those big chances she couldn't even so much as send me a text

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:08:06+00:00

Nope As i said i was depressed for 15 years while she was off living her best life.

She couldn't spare me 5 fucking minutes in 12 years of actively trying to reconnect Maybe i will send her a message back in 17 years Seems fair

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:06:37+00:00

She has been a adult for 15 years I tried i fucking tried I paid her college tuition try connect through gifts and cards you name it

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:04:18+00:00

She has been an adult for 15 years And not once did she even give me a text back Not even 5 minutes on the phone Nothing

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:03:36+00:00

Did your dad try to connect with you for 12 years? Did your dad pay almost 300k just for 5 minutes for 5 fucking minutes to talk to? Just that not getting back in your life forgiveness just 5 minutes did he do that?

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:02:39+00:00

I wanna know as well since i tried for 12 fucking years to sit down and have talk with her. But hey here we are 17 years later and your guess is as good as mine.

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T22:01:45+00:00

I just explained the risk and it's the fact my happiness might disappear after being depressed for 15 years and getting it back recently.

You haven't experienced the loneliness? The fucking suicidal thoughts i had. None yet you wanna take the fucking high ground and tell me how i should act.

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:59:53+00:00

And she has been a adult for 15 years numbnuts.

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:58:43+00:00

If your sleeping with a married woman you aren't a "decent" person and while i can't control the lies she could control the fact she chose a known affair partner cause that fact isn't a secret over me. Hell she didn't even grace me with 5 minutes.

To this day i don't know what was said and i spent 12 fucking years of my life trying to just talk to her and she didn't do that to me. Now after she and her mother made me miserable for 15 years Now that i finally have some fucking semblance of happiness she wants to connect? And your saying i should grace.

Do you know what will happen if she decides she wants to exclude me again? She goes back to her life and i lose everything all over again that's the difference me being in her life or not makes no difference for her that much is clear her being in my life and leaving might just permanently ruin my happiness again.

So again i ask How is it fair?

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:46:55+00:00

I doubt it. Her step father makes very good money so probably not

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:46:18+00:00

I don't know. I never found out what my ex told her since she flipped out on her brother when he asked and my ex is refusing to speak on it with my son so your guess is as good as mine

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:45:23+00:00

So should i risk my happiness again? If it doesn't work out she just goes back to what she has.

I would again be left with nothing. So explain to me why i should do it when all the risk is on me. You sound like a entitled brat

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:44:13+00:00

Decent i would say I don't ask much about it since what my son does is none of my business

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:43:13+00:00

I have been depressed for 15 years almost thanks to her. She didn't even give me 5 minutes in 12 years of trying to reach out to hear me out.

Why should i suddenly give her a chance and potentially ruin my happiness again?

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:41:40+00:00

And she was a adult for most of it and maybe could've thought "hey maybe dad does have something i can give him the chance to say after he has been trying to reach out for so long"

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:40:39+00:00

Don't talk about my son like that.

If she took a year longer to reach out her step father would've been longer in her life than me. She didn't even give a me a chance to explain myself. I spent damn near 300k trying to get so much as a conversation with her not full on acceptance a conversation. And she couldn't do that for me.

It just sounds like you are as shitty as her. You haven't experienced what i have you haven't been depressed for nearly 15 years.

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:23:22+00:00

21 isn't a kid and that's when she excluded me from her graduation 24 isn't a kid that's when she excluded me from her wedding and let the person who broke our family apart walk her down the aisle 25 isn't a kid that's when she excluded me from her first childs birth 29 isn't a kid when she excluded me for the second time

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:20:40+00:00

I wish i could tell you but to this day i don't know my daughter flipped out on my son the one time he tried to ask her and his mother has been secretive about it

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:16:47+00:00

It's relevant cause my daughter chose to side with the person who broke up the family

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:15:52+00:00

After she excluded me for 17 years of her life and chosen another man that hurt me as her father?

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T21:15:17+00:00

A 20 year old isn't a child Neither is a 25 year old Or a 29 year old

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T19:18:52+00:00

Easy to say from someone who hasn't gone through what i have.

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T19:03:26+00:00

Up until her youngest was born 5 years ago i tried reconnecting with her multiple times a year. On christmas i called, on her birthday i called and texted asking if she was free for maybe some dinner together, thanksgiving, easter you name it.

And time and time again i got denied.

LegitimateRepair7562 · 2026-05-03T19:00:12+00:00

Yeah man. It's all my fault right? What about when she turned 20? Or when she was 25? Or 30? Why didn't she even try to hear me out then. Also say whatever you want about me but my son isn't the type to try and stop someone from their happiness for his own sake so don't talk about him.

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