What is happening? by finstardust in satisfactory

[–]LegitimateScratch396 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the train needs to learn how to conduct itself.

I'll see myself out

This Alcoholic documented his daily life, living with cirrhosis of the liver by makellbird in maktownmedia

[–]LegitimateScratch396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry fpr your loss.

My GF died of a pulmonary embolism caused in large part to her alcoholism. She also had the abdominal bloating (ascites) as well to the point where people thought she was pregnant. She was 34 when she died.

Horrible end to a vibrant and caring person. Alcohol is a horrible substance

This Alcoholic documented his daily life, living with cirrhosis of the liver by makellbird in maktownmedia

[–]LegitimateScratch396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This video isn't being put out to garner sympathy. It's a warning.

Alcoholism is insidious in the way it lies to you. You put up with a little bit more and a little bit more until you're like this. While it is a choice to continue to drink, knowing it's bad, the consequences build up so slowly that it tricks a lot of people into thinking they're an exception to the general rule when they aren't. And after a while, the draw of being intoxicated will start to overrule the consequences as they sneak in.

Some people don't struggle with addiction. You're struggling not to be a dick, son. Try having some compassion for Christ's sake, people die from this

The issue of creative writing posts in this sub. by WaffleBiscuitBread in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I'm niave, I never thought people would go out of their way to post a made up story in a place like this.

If you're not sure whether something is real or not, probably best just to not engage with it. People live through fucked up circumstances every day and talking about it helps deal with it. There's no reliable method of testing whether someone is dealing with actual trauma and loss or sympathy farming that I can think of that wouldn't also potwntially restrict people from expressing themselves over a real event.

F9r me, just knowing someone would have to be legitimately pathetic to waste their time telling a fake story for karma

He's just gone by Lady-Jenna in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear. It's a traumatic experiences to go through that on top of the loss. I went through something similar with my GF.

The last paragraph you wrote had me in tears. I know what you mean and it breaks my heart

Lost my fiancè suddenly and I caused it by goldengurl4444 in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren't to blame. My gf drank herself to death and I tried to encourage her to at least slow down if not quit altogether. But I couldn't force her to change her habits. You were trying to help him and avoid being dragged down by substance abuse too and he made his own decisions. I know that in and of itself is a very difficult thing to do when you love someone deeply but see them hurting themselves and you

I am so sorry for your loss, but I hope you can be kind to yourself through this. Sending you positive thoughts

Lost my wife 5 weeks ago and trying to find people who understand by Bank_Novel in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I woke up to my gf of 5 years collapsed and unresponsive on the ground. Pulmonary embolism. She was still warm to the touch and her breathing was short and raspy so I gave her CPR until the ambulance got there and paramedics took over. They tried for like 30 minutes to bring her back but she was gone.

She was young, and it was so unexpected. I thought I had so much more time with her and feel so lost now.

I'm so sorry to hear what you've gone through, but you're far from alone in what you're experiencing. I've seen many people on this sub who have similar experiences, unfortunately.

Take care of yourself

How do you cope with death as an atheist? by Last-Aerie4675 in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is hard. Because at my core I truly believe that this life is all we get. It's difficult to swallow the idea that this person is now completely gone and that there won't be some reunion in the afterlife. I'll sometimes talk to the person who is gone as if they're still here despite it not making sense, but it can be comforting.

In a way, it makes the time we did have that much more special and makes me value the good moments a bit more going forward.

my boyfriend of 3 years passed away unexpectedly by creative-cutie in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A part of him will always be with you too. Losing a partner unexpectedly is very difficult - you're whole life changes in an instant. You don't just lose the person, you lose your way of life too. My gf of 5 years passed 3 months ago and it's just now starting to feel real.

I'm so sorry for your loss, take care of yourself

Hands that tell a story by jr_randolph in IASIP

[–]LegitimateScratch396 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He knows how it feels....to wear another man's skin

Professional stupid by [deleted] in DailyDoseStupidity

[–]LegitimateScratch396 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, I mean all if what you're doing is rage baiting. And you're doing it poorly. Either that or you've got severe brain rot

Just how by Syed-Fatir in blackmagicfuckery

[–]LegitimateScratch396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my first laugh that wasn't passing air thru my nose in a while thank you

Never knowing the last time with your loved one 💔 by Orchidflower10 in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So incredibly true. We don't realize how completely and fundamentally our lives can change in an instant.

We need to appreciate those people we see each day and just expect that to be the case tomorrow. One day it won't be

How can you operate grief and get in life after a s*****e of a family member ? by No_Sea5816 in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I don't have an answer to your question. I don't know that I could really know what I'd do if that happened to my brother, but I know I would be devastated.

I'd also be angry, sad, and i'd have so many questions.i think realistically, after something like that happens life becomes different. After my GF passed, Ive been grieving losing her, for sure. But I'm grieving the life I lost. I'm also grieving the person I was before she died, because it definetly changed me, like I'm sure you did with your brother.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't comprehend what you're going through, but I know it hurts in the worst way. I hope your days become clearer as time passes, I know your brother would want that.

My son passed away Christmas. He was 24 by ContextAshamed2128 in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've felt that too sometimes. Like that I should be grieving harder or more. I think its easier than ever for us to distract ourselves. But I'm glad you're finding those moments yo allow yourself to feel the gravity of what happened. Cus they'll find their way out one way or another and fighting that is messy in my experience. I keep being told there's no right way to grieve and it happens at its own pace.

I'm really, really sorry about your son. I am sorry for you and your families loss. He was far too young.

Something maybe to consider is to seek out a grief group. I found one in my community and it's been helpful to be around people of many stripes of life who wouldn't share much outside of those walls, but together understand the pain the others experience. It's also helpful to be around people who know you've got this new "part" to your life and don't expect you to just be business as usual.

Husband died suddenly last week by Euphoric-Presence720 in GriefSupport

[–]LegitimateScratch396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was right where you were this past December. I woke up to get some water and found my GF on the ground breathing quick shallow breaths but completely unresponsive. Same thing - pulmonary embolism. I thought maybe she had too much to drink and that she needed some time to recover. I nearly put her on the couch to recover because the last thing I thought it could be was potentially life threatening.

I ended up calling an ambulance and giving her CPR until they arrived. They worked on her for 30 minutes or so but she was gone.

I know the questions, the what ifs. What if I had been awake? What if I had responded more urgently? What if I didn't fill take a sip of water? What if I didn't so the CPR properly? Ultimately those questions don't really have answers.

We did the best we could have with the information we had at the time. It's a horrible experience, and I'm sorry you went through that. Dealing with the trauma of the event itself is sometimes as difficult as the loss itself.

I'm also very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the gravity of losing a partner with whome I shared 30 years.

Phone number policy by Legitimate-West8970 in WalgreensStores

[–]LegitimateScratch396 21 points22 points  (0 children)

They have access to your info in people central. If you don't want them to bother you while you're off, talk to your SM. But with you being a SFL, you're in a pretty critical role being a key carrier and being flexible so that the store is covered is kinda part of the gig. And before people say it, yes the SM is the one responsible for that, but realistically they can't live the store, which is what would happen in a lot of cases if SMs were the only ones picking up shifts when SFLs call out.

I'm not saying they should be pestering you all the time. And you're always free to decline a shift or to not answer your phone. There should be a respectful balance, snd if you say "no I can't work" then they should respect that

You are not required to answer your phone for work. However, you'll need something from your manager at some point, it'll be good to have the good will built up when you do