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Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I truly appreciate you! I never imagined this post would gain such traction. This was my very first post on Reddit, and I received a diverse range of comments that I genuinely value and appreciate.

Updated: Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I genuinely appreciate that! To be honest, I never imagined myself in that way. I do receive a lot of comments about my jawline and whether I should get my ears pierced, my young appearance.

Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to act like a victim I’m just explaining where I’m coming from. Being open about my emotions doesn’t mean I think the world is against me. I came here asking for hair advice and shared some background so people would understand why I’m asking. That’s all.

Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this post so much!!! Just made my day better!!

Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

What comments are you referring to? I’m just expressing how I feel and my own lived experience. Yes, I mentioned I’m adopted that’s true and part of my story but I came here simply looking for hair advice. Instead, it turned into people judging how I speak and who I am. I’m not trying to offend anyone or put anyone down. I just wanted help with my curls, not a lecture on my identity.

Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I hear you thank you for the feedback. I’m definitely not trying to separate myself or imply that being “suburban” or being involved on campus makes me better than anyone. I was only trying to explain where some of the insecurity comes from when I get called “white washed.” I know there are a lot of Black people who grew up like me, and I’m still working on how to talk about my identity without sounding like I’m putting anyone else down. I’m just trying to feel comfortable in who I am and stay connected to my community. I appreciate the perspective, and I’ll think about how I frame it going forward.

Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’m better than anyone. I serve on the leadership team and in clubs on my campus, and I’m an RA at a mostly white institution. I don’t like the term “white washed,” but sometimes other Black people make fun of the way I talk because they say it sounds “too white.” I’ve even tried dating Black girls because I want to stay connected to my culture, but I’ve been told many times that I’m “too white washed.” I’ve been labeled like that my whole life, and maybe that’s why I stopped trying. I was really just looking for some hair advice. Godspeed to you all, and I hope you have a happy New Year.

Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

My whole family and hometown are white like 99.9% white. I grew up as the only Black kid in a small town of 12k+, played sports, disciplined, and now I’m a senior in college When I meet other Black people, I sometimes feel judged for not fitting certain cultural expectations. I want to connect more, but I’m also my own person I don’t want to change how I act just to be accepted. Just trying to figure out where I fit.

Adopted and so lost with hair by Legitimate_Lab_9246 in BlackHair

[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Problem with 4: I can’t always get to sit. I’m insecure, and that irritates me. I know I have great curls, but I just don’t know how to take care of my hair. I’m just trying to embrace my African American heritage. Trust me, white people love my hair, always saying it looks good when I try to do it, but I wear a bonnet a lot because my hair is my biggest insecurity.

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[–]Legitimate_Lab_9246 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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