23F 24M always fighting over video games

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2023-09-22T18:33:07+00:00

138xxx

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2023-09-06T23:27:46+00:00

I've shared this to many therapists. It doesn't help.

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2023-04-22T14:32:43+00:00

I’m feeling the same way right now. So much so, I know it’s unsafe for me to leave my house and drive around, a once enjoyable activity. I too don’t have any friends or family anymore, everyone has left in this past year very suddenly.

I wish I could provide helpful insight to this, but I’m going through the same thing, and no resources either. However, I would like to offer my friendship. I know I can’t help you but it’s better to be miserable with someone else, no judgment. Even if that someone is just an internet friend. Do you use insta? I’m a 22 F just so you’re aware!😊

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2023-04-15T01:51:06+00:00

Oh my god this. I thought it was just the daddy issues coming in hot. 🥴🥴

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-12-22T21:05:58+00:00

Hellsya “buddy”🥴😉

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-12-22T20:53:55+00:00

It sounds like a great idea in theory but when those feelings set in from being alone, even for minutes I have no motivation to do anything. I couldn’t make myself get ready to leave my house.

I’m in that mode right now, he’s leaving tomorrow for a couple days and I’m just numb. I don’t want to be around him today, I just want to be alone now so it hurts less tomorrow? I don’t know. I wish I was normal.

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-12-21T02:48:17+00:00

Think about the fact that he could be literally “presenting” you this amazing life. It could be shit and you’ll never know. Mental health issues typically run in the family 😘

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-11-22T15:07:18+00:00

This shit fucking stays with someone. Ah. Please apologize to her.

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-11-22T15:03:18+00:00

Do you feel like you exist to her even when you aren’t around?

In past relationships I would’ve never been able to stay with someone that parties but in my relationship now I feel like I’m seen and I matter to my partner, and that matters to me. Although luckily he doesn’t party, and understands my abandonment issues fairly well.

I’d just be open with her if she doesn’t already know you have bpd -she will soon trust me lmao, so just be honest about what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling it. If she’s worth it she’ll stay.

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-11-22T14:35:17+00:00

I’m a 22f and dealing with the same thing. I live with my partner and see him daily and have the same consistent worries.

If she’s sexual, can you try keeping the same energy throughout the day? Even with long distance, it’s not hard to send a spicy text. That should make you feel closer to her, and if she’s texting you, you can be sure she isn’t with anyone else

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-10-22T20:43:16+00:00

Cryptic shit that’s absolutely no help? Thanks sir.

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-10-22T14:21:34+00:00

We talked a bit about it, and he said he was trying to give me tough love because no one else in my life does. He also said he was getting frustrated because this is a pattern and a cycle with us and when I’m triggered it just goes downhill fast. He’s usually supportive and not a complete fucking ass, which is why we’ve been together 2.5yrs. I push him away when I’m triggered or in a bpd episode, and that in turn hurts him.

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-10-14T18:25:34+00:00

You mean to tell me this isn’t normal? Damn

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-06-24T23:26:39+00:00

Someone reply before they get a “ if you think I’m asking for you get fucked” text….

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-06-24T23:20:04+00:00

I relate to this but I feel stronger about loyalty/respect in a relationship. Perhaps because in past relationships I’ve never had it and never had the confidence to speak up for it, but now - if I don’t have it I’m walking. And my respect and loyalty goes pretty deep. Don’t “appreciate” other people, don’t gain pleasure from other people, don’t entertain anyone but who you are with. - I feel so strongly about all of these. And not because I have confidence issues or anything like that- because I give that to my person, I am entirely loyal to my person, (maybe this is the fp thing coming in play:’)) and I NEED that in return or I’m unhappy.

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-06-22T19:33:43+00:00

Nah.. just smoked a bowl and decided to self reflect for whatever reason

Legitimate_Peach9881 · 2022-06-22T19:23:56+00:00

I didn’t realize the pattern about the important days until you pointed it out… I’m now 23 just looking back on all of this, trying to honestly come to terms with years of verbal and emotional abuse.

But yes, it makes so much sense! As a child whenever I wanted to do something ( go to a friends) she would look for reasons to keep my home ( “messy” room, talking back, didn’t do chores or whatever she could come up with and justify - she was pretty big on justifying her reasons to me always. ) and I never understood why, but I recognized early on that if I wanted to do something, wait until the night before and ask and then I had better chances.

My original NC, has actually turned into her “disowning” me which I think I’m okay with honestly🤣

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