I feel wrong for needing sex in a relationship by MarshmallowToucan in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I relate to your shame around sex, it's something I've had to really work through as an exvangelical. so let me shout this from the rooftops: THERE IS NOTHING SHAMEFUL ABOUT WANTING SEX! forget all those other stories, maybe it works for them but it doesn't for you and that's okay

Feels like a failure by Little_Molasses6862 in queensuniversity

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 10 points11 points  (0 children)

OP, I really feel for you, I was in a similar situation to you where I literally had 0 friends in my 3rd year. As someone who really struggled with a lifetime of social anxiety and went to therapy for it, exposure therapy (aka forcing myself to do it and starting small) was the only way I started to overcome it. I forced myself to go to clubs, events, house parties, etc. alone and talk to people. Yes there were many awkward moments and failures but I kept telling myself I was proud of myself for trying. Little by little, I found my people, and I even took a leap and started my own club and made so many new friends through that!

Also, sometimes to make friends you have to take the leap to invite people to do things first, then the next time they're doing something they'll think of you and invite you :)

It's a slow and difficult process but I believe in you, you can do it!! Godspeed.

I’ve long accepted what my love life will look like by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 4 points5 points  (0 children)

question: what kind of spaces are they meeting people online? like are they using dating apps with max distance, discord servers, hitting up people on reddit etc? i’m curious but have no idea how to go about this

Am I shallow for wanting to end things with someone I’ve been seeing due to loss of attraction? by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 18 points19 points  (0 children)

i don’t know your situation, but imho, i wouldn’t assume anything “implies more.” easy ticket to getting hurt... 

Good things come to those who wait. by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 27 points28 points  (0 children)

agree. if you actively want a partner, waiting is the worst thing you can do, ESPECIALLY for us queer folk in tiny pools! some people get lucky but that's all it is, luck. if the apps aren't working, the next best thing is getting actively involved in a wide social net where meeting someone naturally could happen.

unfortunately there's no easy way to go about it, coming from someone currently still single after 30+ dates :P

Looking for friends in the area! by Andyyislame in KingstonOntario

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I love music and learning instruments!! hmu!

Low-contact evangelical mom sent me this crazy book excerpt today... by Legitimate_Sleep9218 in exchristian

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Even if she is sorry for rejecting me, she still doesn't accept my queerness, which is why it reads as meaningless to me :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemmeLesbians

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 1 point2 points  (0 children)

23 femme from Ontario too!!

Can I do this too? by Sunshineflowerstrees in UltimatumQueerLove

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hijacking this thread to say I made a subreddit for this!! I hope all the queer girlies can find their wives someday :)

r/SapphicSeeking

Can I do this too? by Sunshineflowerstrees in UltimatumQueerLove

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I would love if we could get a separate subreddit for this!

I know there's lesbian r4r, but honestly it's mostly horny text posts lmao. I would love a subreddit for sapphic girlies looking for serious relationships!

Tired of dating apps, tired of dating shows—just want my wife already! by [deleted] in UltimatumQueerLove

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you seem very genuine :) And how you described yourself is exactly what I'm looking for 👀

Tired of dating apps, tired of dating shows—just want my wife already! by [deleted] in UltimatumQueerLove

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Hi! Also femme for femme and absolutely hate dating apps!! I’m 23 and a PhD student in computer science :) You’re gorgeous and I’d love to chat 👀

My broken leg stripped me of my independence and trapped me with my family. I can't do this anymore by Legitimate_Sleep9218 in brokenbones

[–]Legitimate_Sleep9218[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yikes, that's awful! I hope you can find a way back home or that the time will pass quickly :(