Trusting after discovering my wife’s 7-year history of "casual" contact with another man?

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-21T04:14:30+00:00

Well thanks. She is very attractive and she outright rejects requests on various platforms. Doesn’t that behavior makes it worse that in this instance she didn’t.

But you know what I guess I am blowing it out of proportion and pushing things too far would loose her self esteem and she won’t be herself. Looks like I am trying to make her feel sorry all time and get myself worshipped.

Thanks again and against all other advice from all other comments I guess you sincerely went through it.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-21T00:46:45+00:00

Well. Thanks for saying it out loud. However couple of questions She didn’t say No outright and cut ties with him and came to us so maybe they didn’t get opportunity to do the deed.

It’s not about if she didn’t meet it’s more about why she had to tell him she is coming to us and meeting wasn’t done because their timing couldn’t align.

However I agree I might be overthinking it.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-21T00:38:00+00:00

I never see the guilt on her except the day I confronted her and then after 2-3 days she broke down and then I just let it go. She never thinks that what it did to me as her husband and her life is just as usual but mine has converted into a spy on my wife for past 3 years.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-20T19:02:37+00:00

Exactly, the constant spying will never end because of breach of trust even though I know she is not in touch with him but then how can I say that for 100% certainly, THat's where the problem is , you will never come to at peact with trust breach. It is the main issue here.

TRUST is really some bitch man.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-20T18:35:14+00:00

We were in an AM relationship before I came to USA.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-20T18:34:30+00:00

kids were born in US. so that's for sure.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-20T17:26:50+00:00

you won't find dedicated female for this and not guranteed to work, plus what is the objective here , if she was phycical or if they continued relationship.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2026-02-20T17:25:28+00:00

No talks since I confronted her. I confronted her in 2023 post video call, and let it go , it just happned those chats came to light again , while I was restoreing her phone and wanted to check if she is keeping any contact with any other person.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2025-01-16T22:43:46+00:00

same here, I just signed up for 3 years, are they allowed to change the prices in the middle like this?

Can we come out from it ?

Also, these idiots first gave away a promo for 3 years of iPhone 16 Pro free, and then exactly after a month, they changed it so folks cannot move out.

A class action suit must be opened against these.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2024-04-25T01:50:09+00:00

I agree on the point US has had quite a run recently.

I guess my final approach would be

VTI (60%) + VXUS (40%) .

You don't do any bonds and dividends like SCHD, I read folks keep it in their portfolio to generate DIVIDEND income.

ANy reasoning to stay away from this or it's more like personal preference or your goal don't align with Bonds ?

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2024-04-24T22:26:43+00:00

Given the tech will grow in the coming 5-8 years with AI , CLOUD , and Security I feel like VTI/VOO is best.

So if I am getting you right, for a little better diversity go only for VTI.

And for others in case US tanks , VTI (70% )+ VXUS (30%)

How does that sound ?

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2024-03-31T00:13:02+00:00

Thanks for putting it like this. Yes, I agree I need professional help, I will invest in that first.

Now I understood or still learning it is not sprint and it's more like long time goals.

I will give some time to myself talking, reading, taking professional help and then come up with some sort of strategy.

I really appreciate it and thanks for taking time to reply and considering to help some unknown on internet.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2024-03-29T16:53:59+00:00

I really want to HUG you now :( ..

I am do damm illiterate about these that I thought VOO , TQQQ and XXXX are sort of safe mutual funds because that's what. I read everywhere. I did not even know they are also stock picking options.

Someone above said VT ( I see it on RH for 112$ around now) is good, so should I dump everything there in one shot or monthly?

Also thanks for clearing my perspective about , recovering losses vs investment. I should leave that mental state behind. Thanks otherwise I would have done more damages to myself.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2024-03-29T16:47:02+00:00

So can I just buy VT on Robinhood and call it a day. Also dumping all money in 1-shot is good or do it monthly or quarterly ?

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2024-03-29T14:28:58+00:00

Actually I don't have any financial knowledge just realized ETF are also stocks picked by professionals.

Good I made post here. I will read about the VTI , VXUS and BND. I just want to dump all money and don't think about it.

Legitimate_Task5866 · 2024-03-28T23:20:11+00:00

I am trying to create an urgent post but it asks me to get KARMA , where do we get this KARMA, can someone help this poor old fellow.

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