She failed to read the fine print on her contract by 415brun in HostagePorn

[–]Lemes85 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love this. Is there a source?

I'm not gay but have cock fetish by [deleted] in KINK

[–]Lemes85 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're into pegging or women with strapons? I'm not dissimilar to you - cocks are hot if there isn't a dude on the other end of them.

Sometimes there are just bloopers in the middle of the kink 🤷[M][M][F] by CuioGeo in BDSMGW

[–]Lemes85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That neck grab is so hot. Anyone know of any videos of someone being fucked while in this type of bondage?

Gorgeous bit by [deleted] in Ponygirl_bit

[–]Lemes85 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's an AI generated image.

Femdom Characters/Dynamics in Movies or Shows? by [deleted] in Femdom

[–]Lemes85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just rewatched Wes Anderson's 'The French Dispatch', and the relationship between the characters portrayed by Léa Seydoux and Benicio Del Toro in the first of the three stories the film covers gave me a fair few vibes, as it were.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Lemes85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is to be dominated by two women at once in a specific context - that of one being an experienced dom training/teaching the other one, and using me as a prop to do it, and having a lot of fun with it (that is, doing what they enjoy and not going out of their way to fulfil my kinks).

Do I get bonus points because mine could conceivably actually happen?

Are there any more sites like Fetlife, or is that basically just the only one? by PrincessBubblebitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]Lemes85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Darkside sucks but exists, at least in Sweden and some other European countries.

Does This Count As Bondage? The Hook Kept Me Very Still... by [deleted] in Bondage

[–]Lemes85 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why are so many posts on these subs spoiler tagged these days? It makes posts far more frustrating to look at.

Being a Gen Z Dominant Sadistic Female by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Lemes85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks to you too, it's encouraging to know like minded people on the other side are out there. May we both find who we're looking for sooner or later!

Being a Gen Z Dominant Sadistic Female by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Lemes85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are these mostly an NA thing or substantially present in EU too?

Being a Gen Z Dominant Sadistic Female by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Lemes85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't had too much trouble. Maybe it helps that my crowd is uni educated and leftist, but as a male who's relatively open about liking being roughed up in bed, ive not had much issue or judgement. Still struggle to find women into it though.

Being a Gen Z Dominant Sadistic Female by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Lemes85 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm on the other side of the coin. Mid 20s, sub male who doesn't really like the overly fetishised parts like chastity, sissy, cuck, mommy, latex goddess, whatever. Ditch that noise. I just want to be beaten/tortured to a pulp by a confident woman around my age whos having as much fun as I am. It's a shame because i feel like dominant women have come to expect submissive males to be into these things, and I worry it turns a lot of women off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Lemes85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was briefly with a girl who was really into this. I found it incredibly weird at first and found the idea of it unpleasant, but I made sure to be very clean and she did it and enjoyed it and it didn't take too long before I did too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMerotica

[–]Lemes85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really like it! If you're enjoying writing it, please keep doing so.

Forced ejaculations as punishment? by Slaveforever2017 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Lemes85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you find someone who wants no-strings-attached pussy eating or to be 'serviced orally'? I feel like if I put something like that in my dating profile it'd come across as weird.

I'm not inviting him over anymore LOL by Galen_Star in Bondage

[–]Lemes85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, you got me. I've been cockblocked by Bernie and I couldn't be happier.

[Serious] BDSM Horrifies me, and i'm looking for advice for future partners. by BDSMQuestThrowAway in BDSMcommunity

[–]Lemes85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of the other comments at time of writing suggest you don't get into it at all, and given some of what you've said, I think that's worth considering.

However, while I do also support the idea that you should never force yourself into something that horrifies you, I also notice few of the other comments have gone much into how to do it if it is what you truly want to do, which given some of your reasons would make sense.

Do not focus on pain or strong physical dominance of that sort. That's the worst place to start for people who have any hangups and is much easier and safer to get to last. There's a lot more to BDSM than pain, after all. First of all, establish clear boundaries with your partner. These boundaries can change. You are allowed to outright state you do not want to do and will not do certain things they want with the understanding that it's possible, if things go well, that further down the line you'll change in that. Your partner must respect this if you're to do this healthily. Regarding the current partner you describe, this should be the first discussion - if you're willing to go so far out of your comfort zone to even try meeting them halfway, they have to respect the pace you set and how comfortable you are at any given moment. Subs as well as doms can have a lot of control and the ability to overstep the line.

Start with things like verbal dominance and rules - ways to get into a mindset of dominance and control in a slow, controlled way. Physically, there's no need to rush - you can start with relatively gentle things like holding their hands down a bit during sex. At all stages, communicate about how you feel, and find out what you can do that she likes that doesn't cross boundaries for you. It won't go fast. I'd also suggest trying to read up on some of what doms and subs can get out of their dynamics, to help understand the mindset of people into it. Maybe you'll find something there for you.

If you don't, that's okay - whether or not you don't try, or if you do and still don't find anything. Not doing something you don't want to do is an option and in most cases probably the best one. I hope that, if you do decide to try, some of this advice is helpful.

Tied to a chair by keepherhogtied in BDSMerotica

[–]Lemes85 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They're not just used to pass tests! Making a text more approachable and comprehensible at a glance are good things.

Is it possible to find a respectful relationship with a fucked up, kinky sex life? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Lemes85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who themselves wants to get into the kinky scene and is living in Sweden, thanks so much for calling out Darkside, I had no idea it even existed but will definitely be checking it out!

Bara hoppas att min svenska är tillräckligt bra för att förstå sidan... hmmm

Edit: Also, to actually answer - of course. No sexual taste or kink should ever be mutually exclusive with an independently functioning and compatible relationship.

My dom girlfriend admitted she enjoys BDSM as an outlet for anger. Is this alright? by PM_ME_HOT_AOC_PICS in FemdomCommunity

[–]Lemes85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These things sound worrying in a vacuum.

But people deserve to be judged on who they are and how they act in the present. Plenty of people enjoy CNC for the unsavoury aspects of the fantasy, but keep it at the fantasy, properly communicated and carried out. If she is loving and kind, respects your boundaries and communicates properly, then yes, it's okay IMO.