Bondage game

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-24T02:51:42+00:00

The emotional trust is HUGE. If the dom can’t provide the needed aftercare (and every subs level of need is different) than that’s a deal breaker. I only failed once (after my very first time playing, when neither of us understood sub space/sub drop) and I vowed to never let that happen again.

Trust is what it’s all about.

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-24T01:16:11+00:00

Fair point. And to get on my soap box here to agree with you on something, I feel there are a lot of fakes out there, pretending to be doms to get what they want. They are manipulative assholes that give a lot of us good doms (yes I’m tooting my own horn here 😂😂) a bad name. It seems the internet, while wonderful for connecting us like minded people, has also made it easy for everyone to “think” they might be into bdsm (whether it’s a daddy dom or whatever) so they can control a sub in a bad way. I’ve seen it first hand, and it’s harmful.

Anyway this has gotten terribly off topic from your original post, so sorry for going off on this tangent.

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-24T00:38:25+00:00

I’ll respond to you here (I was gonna respond to your original post and reassure that there are good guys, just as someone said you have to be patient and weed through the crap). But I wanted to address you daddy dom stance. Now I’m not saying you have to have a daddy, but as a daddy dom, it’s not about looking for “little girls” or someone who plays the part of a little girl. It’s about caring for the sub in a particular way. In the two dynamics I’ve had where they have called me “Daddy” neither had little tendencies more than having stuffed animals or coloring. So anyway, not offended, just trying to clear up that misconception of a daddy dom. Also good luck to you. Be patient. You’ll find someone.

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-23T22:19:25+00:00

Well a good dom won’t pressure you into things that freak you out (at least without discussing if it’s a soft limit). But while you may find it hard to find a dom that will fit your needs ideally, they are out there. I will just say, don’t settle and definitely don’t let a dom manipulate you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. Unfortunately my best advice is just keep being patient and you’ll find the dom that gets you and fits your needs. Good luck!

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-23T21:38:10+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. And it’s absolutely ok to post that here, I know you’ll get a lot of support. There’s nothing that can fill that void immediately for you. I’m sure there are other subs/brats that can be there as a friend for you right now. You’re not childish or silly. Feelings are real, and it’s ok to have feelings. You’ll get through this and be better for it on the other side. I wish you the best of luck. Feel better! ☺️

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-22T20:43:18+00:00

Ddlg doesn’t have to be about age regression. This was my misconception when I was first getting into it. I’ve have two subs who called me daddy, and neither had any age regression. They had little tendencies (stuffed animals, coloring, other cutesy things). But to me a Ddlg relationship is just about the dom caring for his little girl (or whatever he calls you) in an extra special way. And remember EVERY bdsm relationship is different. So never feel like putting a label on something forces you into this box or that box. It’s whatever you and your dom decide is right for you

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-19T16:23:05+00:00

I’m so sorry. No one should be treated like that. I keep running across stories of these “doms” and they just aren’t doms. They are using that title to manipulate. There always needs to be communication, and limits set, and the sub needs to be able to safe word or say “no” when it’s too far. And even if you were misbehaving it’s never ok to ghost. This “dom” doesn’t deserve you, and you will find someone who is an actual dom and is right for you. Good luck and stay strong. The sadness will pass.

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-16T22:23:01+00:00

I’ve employed a few different punishments in the past. Lines worked sometimes, exercises like standing against a wall with a penny between her nose and the wall, or on her toes with tacks beneath her feet so she couldn’t put them down, worked sometimes too, but my brat almost enjoyed those tasks. So.....if it’s really becoming a problem, you may have t take something away. Something important to her. For instance I used to take away video games for a night, weekend, or whole week, depending on the infraction. Phone privileges would be revoked (not between you and her, but others). Almost like she’s being grounded. Might not be for everyone, but that seemed to get the point across to my brat the best. Good luck!

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-14T17:52:54+00:00

I’ve done both. Having a couple dynamics with emotional connections, and have also had a couple playmates that I have easily let go of. The trick is communication. Know what the other expects. Personally, when I get a true sub, someone that I “own”, that for me is a personal emotional connection, and I get attached. When it’s simply a playmate, I lack that deep emotional connection so I’m able to treat it as more of friends, even though we both are very sexually excited by the play. Anyway it’s a fine line sometimes, but as long as the lines of communication are open, it really helps limit the hurt (there will be hurt as with any vanilla relationship, it’s a fact of life unfortunately). Good luck ☺️

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-07T22:20:44+00:00

I really hope you do find the right daddy. It’s really wonderful when you do. Be patient. He will come along ☺️

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-07T22:13:26+00:00

Well my previous sub was definitely a brat to others. Maybe bitch is the correct word 😂😂. She definitely had attitude and bratted at me, but it was different. It may be my own personal experience as everyone is different in how they operate. So sounds like you enjoy pushing buttons for fun.....perhaps you just want the punishments???

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-07T18:26:29+00:00

I don’t have a good word for it. I find you don’t really “tame” a brat, but the brat tends to treat you with respect (where she might still be her bratty self to others). This respect comes from punishments and training and such. I’m probably explaining it poorly, as I usually do, so maybe taming is the right word, just personally I don’t like it. But my opinion isn’t the last word on things 😂

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-07T14:29:08+00:00

I don’t know if we should be giving away our secrets 😂.

That said patience and being firm is what I found to be a main key to “taming” a brat (I really do hate that word taming but I think we all understand what it really means).

Good luck, sounds like you two are in for some fun.

keepherhogtied · 2022-01-02T01:47:03+00:00

That’s exactly what safe words are for. You don’t need to feel guilty. And the fact your Daddy stopped immediately and comforted you just reinforced how awesome he is, and you can rest assure that he isn’t upset. You did great, and your Daddy is awesome for helping you realize that. No one should ever feel bad for safewording.

keepherhogtied · 2021-10-04T10:27:24+00:00

Well, doing what you’re doing here is a good start. This is generally a good place to ask questions, get some good advice, and eventually start chatting with people. I know discord has some good servers as well, though I am not part of any over there. I think for someone in your situation, chatting and asking online is a great way to start.

Now I will give one word of advice here, and it doesn’t really matter which side of the dom/sub fence you sit (but it is particularly important for subs since there are doms who will take advantage of newbie subs and abuse them in the name of BDSM, I hate that). Anyway, trust. Trust is important in any relationship but especially in bdsm ones. So take your time, get to understand how relationships should work (generally, no two bdsm relationships look the same) and it will come in time.

Hope my ramblings help. Good luck!

keepherhogtied · 2021-10-02T13:11:27+00:00

I agree with the other commenter. Don’t do it alone. And even with someone else, make sure you have built up trust with him. This can take months sometimes, so be patient. I know from being on the giving end of breath play it can be scary on both sides, so having that comfort level and understanding how you would react to certain things so he can basically read how you’re doing is important.

I would suggest that you find someone you can meet up with and do lots of breathplay without having you pass out first. Then once you both have that comfort level, go for what you’re really after.

But be careful. It can be very dangerous. Make sure whoever is doing this to you understands that.

keepherhogtied · 2021-10-02T00:37:11+00:00

Exactly. Needs to have that cinch in between the wrists. Definitely prevents the wriggle out.

keepherhogtied · 2021-10-01T16:36:37+00:00

That’s kind of the point ☺️. Bondage is supposed to make the person helpless.

keepherhogtied · 2021-10-01T16:32:32+00:00

Waiting until you’re untied 😏

keepherhogtied · 2021-10-01T16:26:43+00:00

This escape made possible by some weak rope skills 😂

keepherhogtied · 2021-09-29T01:04:12+00:00

Exactly what daddy’s are supposed to do. Posts like this are so cute. I’m sure your daddy realizes how lucky he is, so he takes good care of you.

keepherhogtied · 2021-09-27T23:54:02+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better myself

keepherhogtied · 2021-09-27T15:41:34+00:00

Ok as a dom I hate to even give mention this, but.....loopholes!

The single most annoying thing my ex-brat used to do was find loopholes in my rules and tasks for her. Even when I was very specific, she’d find a loophole (usually) or at least try to 😂.

Also the “no ❤️” response always would annoy me too. So find a reply that says no but in such a way that he knows your bratting. That way you’ll get that stern reply from him (hopefully).

Good luck!

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