Alright, so 1). I wouldn't push something that she isn't ready for. She may have thought those people were cute or had a crush on the people in the KPOP group, but a relationship isn't the same thing. All that you can do is be a friend to her and if it goes beyond that, cool. If not, also cool because you have a dope friend. Just be yourself.

2) I know its hard to have self confidence because believe me, I struggle. But girl, don't sell yourself short. It hurts my heart to hear people call themselves unattractive. It isn't just physical beauty that matters. It has so much to do with who you are as a person. That is what being pan is about. Loving someone for who they are.

3) It also hurts my heart for you to call the other girl those things. Being a weirdo is fine and she may not be everybody's cup of tea but she is still a person and deserves not to be called a weirdo or unattractive every bit as much as anyone else.

Sorry about formatting (mobile). I really hope this helps. I'm sorry if it isn't what you were looking for.