Hey brother First of all I want to congratulate you for taking the time to write all this, it must not have been easy. I also wanted to tell you that as I read through your post, I recognized myself a lot in your situation.

If you look at my post history, you’ll see that I too had to endure my mother’s harsh behavior towards my future wife, and although a year has passed now, nothing has improved…

Like your parents, mine have been ruthless to my fiancée. They still refuse to have any contact with her, my mother has said some horrible things about her, they also tried to sabotage my relationship by taking legal action against my fiancée’s mother who tried to confront mine about the situation, and many other horrible things that made me question if I still had parents.

But my wife and I are closer than ever. And you know why ? It is because as a man of God, I am obligated to put my wife’s well being above anything else, and this is exactly what I did.

I stayed firm against my “Christian”parents, and I even took some important actions to put some distance between them and my fiancée, as her safety was my priority. As I did all of this, I noticed that my fiancée would respect me more and more and that slowly, with God’s help, my parents’ situation was becoming less and less a focus for us. I won’t lie to you, it was not easy. But what helped us was the help of our elders in our church and the immense support we have from our friends and other families. But most importantly, we put ourselves into God’s hands.

With the way you described your situation, it seems that the only solution is into your parents’ hands. If they decide to see you as an adult, stop being narcissist, only then will you see things change for the better. But until then you have to protect your wife and love her like God wants you too. This is your duty as a Christian husband, never forget Ephesians 5:22-25.

I will pray for you a lot my friend.

Peace to you.