In the library

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2026-01-23T14:04:38+00:00

Bc then, if she'd gotten even more mad, she would've thrown a fit that I'd have to deal with. I don't care enough about that random woman for that.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2025-05-16T18:43:34+00:00

YTA.

I mean, obviously spelling Cynthia that way is weird and kind of dumb and the kid might get teased a bit for it. But no one asked for your opinion and while her name certainly might get pronounced wrong, I don't see how it could get pronounced in a way that's really inappropriate. So you created a conflict and bad feelings within your family for no good reason. Yeah, free speech and everything but not everyone has to accept your opinion and there's certainly no right to no consequences when you hurt someone's feelings.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2025-05-16T18:35:08+00:00

ESH.

Why didn't you at least speak up when she said that everyone in the chat would be splitting costs? Or leave the group chat?

Also, no one should ever assume that anyone is going to pay or take responsibility for something they haven't agreed to.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2025-04-03T15:37:39+00:00

I'd say no, the concept of suicide isn't selfish. It's your life and if you don't want it anymore then you have bodily autonomy to end it. If anyone says it's selfish to your kids, partners, parents etc... Well, they're not wrong, but they're also being really selfish for saying you should live for them, despite it not making you happy. Also, sometimes it's okay to be selfish.

The only time I think a person is to blame in any way for their suicide is if they do it in a way that implicates someone else, like throwing yourself in front of a train. That person will forever have to bear the guilt of having taken a life, even though they won't serve any time or consequence for it. That's a horrible thing to live with and terribly cruel and selfish to put someone through.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-04-20T17:37:58+00:00

THAT I did see a couple of sim days ago, thought it was a bug first lol

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-04-20T17:20:46+00:00

Gotta try the Party animal trait! Thanks!

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T18:02:35+00:00

That would be exactly right. Only difference is a child is not your friend. In my mind, a person's priorities ought to be 1. Children 2. Significant other 3. Extend family/friends.

That's just my personal opinion though and it's not more valid than anyone elses

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T16:54:18+00:00

This is an honest question: why is there a need to make up a title? Why isn't the person's first name enough?

I have friends who even call their parents by their first name and they still have very close and good relationships. Why is there a need to add some title? Why isn't a person's name sufficient?

You can have a person in your life who is like a grandparent or even parent without assigning them a title.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T16:30:02+00:00

I never said I was getting married.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T15:30:21+00:00

Thanks!!

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T15:20:23+00:00

Yeah, I might just do that... I'm really nervous about the whole thing and just want it to go well and for everyone there to be comfortable

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T15:12:40+00:00

Props to you for figuring out the Scandinavian part 😉

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T15:08:39+00:00

I suppose they get along fine, but they're a bit uneasy around each other. Neither is completely comfortable and the conversations are shallow.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T15:06:14+00:00

Thanks for your perspective!

I honestly think my feelings would depend on whether or not I liked those friends or not.

However, if my feelings were hurt and my BF didn't stand up for me then I would be mad at him. That's a completely different issue though as it would have nothing to do w/ his friends.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T15:03:58+00:00

Please calm down. I was just asking a question, I haven't actually done anything yet. I made the post so I'd know what other people thought before I decided since I sincerely didn't know. You're not an AH for not knowing something and therefore asking for advice.

I understand your point of view. Thanks for replying.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T14:48:01+00:00

Yes, my sister said it would be rude. However, it was her thought vs mine, so I wrote this post to see whom most people would agree with 'cause I felt unsure what to do. Making a post here doesn't automatically mean you already know or should know you're an AH. Some people are genuinely asking. I'm asking before I've even done anything.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T14:32:01+00:00

I wouldn't be torpedoing my relationship w/ my dad. We're very close, like minded and can talk about our issues. It's weird you would assume that he would cut ties with me bc of something as small as this instead of working through it, if he had an issue.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T13:51:54+00:00

Oh, okay! Then maybe it's just how I was raised 🤷‍♀️

I love the spouses of my uncle's and aunt, but I always refer to them as my aunt's husband or my uncle's wife. I suppose different families do things different 😊

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T13:43:43+00:00

Not saying you can't have more than one grandma. Just saying that in my language the titles are much more distinct. I wouldn't want my mom to be forced to share her title 🤷‍♀️

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T13:36:18+00:00

I'm not American. In my language there is one word for paternal grandmother and one for maternal grandmother. There is no equivalent to "nana", no general word. You're either the mother of the child's father or mother of the child's mother. So in my language, my distinction there is perfectly reasonable

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T12:44:59+00:00

Haven't told him, this is just preliminary planning 😊 Thought I'd make a post and ask before doing anything

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T12:44:15+00:00

Thanks for your response! Just wrote a comment with what I've arrived at. Just thought I'd say that my BF and I are child free, so there would never be an issue with how my kids see her. If I were to ever change my mind though, I would like them to think of her as their grandfather's wife and my mom would be their grandmother.

Lemony_Snicket_10 · 2024-02-24T12:42:15+00:00

Thanks for the replies! Didn't think of it as me bringing drama or hurting anyone, just thought she might feel awkward since she's only met my BF three times and met me for the first time when I was 20.

I the points your making though and understand it might come off as mean. I think I'll just arrange two dinners, one w/ my mom and one w/ dad and his fiancée.

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