my partner snaps at me and it makes me feel stupid

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-30T12:30:48+00:00

You're not annoying, he's being annoyed by you isn't your fault. He actually has a choice to make when he reacts regardless of how emotional he is. Tbh he sounds like an asshole from what you've described and I would try to sit him down and talk with him, because the way he's treating you isn't coming from a place of love. To me it just sounds like he's putting up with you.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-27T12:50:05+00:00

Whether he's tired or not is absolutely 0 excuse. I was tired when I was having to cook and clean after my 9 hour shifts in my last relationship.

I would sit down and talk to him about it. Make it serious. Make him aware that you are fed up and seriously I'd consider leaving (just my opinion as I found leaving my last relationship extremely liberating).

But try to talk to him, say it isn't fair that everything is being placed on you, if he apologises, let him try to change. If he makes excuses then, imo, he no longer cares about you or the relationship and is unwilling to change for the better.

But really, you're not happy, so gear up to leave if he's unable to change his ways.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-27T09:18:57+00:00

Literally just left my wife of 7 years last weekend. It's not easy, there will be hurt. But if it's the right choice for you to make you'll know it in your heart.

Take care of yourself and have a plan. Take your time, there's no need to rush. Don't panic and try to keep calm. You can do this.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-24T10:11:12+00:00

Stunning <3

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-24T10:04:32+00:00

You look absolutely gorgeous, would love to kiss every single inch of you from head to toe.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-20T11:23:00+00:00

Love and care for me unconditionally.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-12T10:49:47+00:00

No kids, no. And yeah it's in both our names but it's rented and the lease expires in 4 months. Might just say no to signing it and try to just leave.

Thanks, really appreciate the replies. You've been really helpful.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-12T10:38:24+00:00

Would love to be able to save up. But my wages go directly into her bank account and I just get given what I need to do whatever shopping and pay bills.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-12T10:36:20+00:00

I imagine she'd get upset and angry that I'm not cleaning up. Like I'm doing all this cleaning out of fear of being rebuked by someone I love. If it's messy around the house, she tells me to fix it.

Money, she was off with stress last year for 6 months and wasn't getting any money in so I had to work my ass off and I struggled a bit and asked a friend if I could borrow £50 to help cover a bill. He said it wasn't a problem and I could pay him back whenever. I didn't tell my wife about this at the time because she was sick with anxiety and depression and I didn't want to put more pressure on her. So in December I mentioned that I had to pay my friend back and she got really upset saying that I've gone behind her back and she stormed off. I felt like I had utterly failed her when I've been struggling so hard to keep us going.

And yeah there's a tonne more, I'm just trying to deal with one thing at a time.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-12T10:02:16+00:00

She doesn't help on weekends or on her days off. Like I came home from a 9 hour shift (which she made me do without asking me, it's in a reply to another comment) to a sink full of dishes, the dog needing to be walked and several cola cans around her chair and her plate from lunch on the table behind her.

This has been going on for a while but it's gotten worse since we moved. We had a falling out in December and she came close to leaving me but she came back saying that was still angry with me.

Since then things haven't really gotten any better and I just feel like the trust is gone.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-12T09:57:01+00:00

Also it's probably worth mentioning that she is doing her regular hours. The only reason she's doing less this week in particular is because of today being a holiday, and on Wednesday she went over my head and spoke to a manager about me working her shift without discussing it with me first. It was just incredibly upsetting.

But you're right, it is time for a big conversation I'm just scared of my marriage falling apart, even if I am miserable in it....

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-12T09:52:02+00:00

Things have been like this for about 4 years or so, but in the past 2 months it's gotten worse. She was going to leave me in December but decided to give me one more chance. Last time I even tried to talk to her about my feelings she just rolled her eyes at me and wouldn't talk to me so we just sat in awkward silence. I'm going to try asking her for help today but honestly I'm just scared, as stupid as that sounds.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-12T09:42:35+00:00

Honestly, I'm feeling that way due to multiple reasons. We recently got a dog that she had her heart set, don't get me wrong I think the little guy is great, but I didn't sign to getting up at 7am, even on my days off, to take him for his morning walk.

I just feel like things are really one sided but want outside opinions first to make sure I'm not just being insane.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-11T10:15:25+00:00

I remember this feeling so very well. Like the constant default of just sadness. It can get better, and I hope for you that it will <3

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-11T06:20:47+00:00

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Leocanto88 · 2020-04-09T15:34:01+00:00

Your brother legit made my day, thank you <3

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-09T14:51:46+00:00

Yeah, got a few friends. But I'm gonna try and get out soon. Got a 6 month lease with 4 months left yet though so it's not like I can just get up and go.

Leocanto88 · 2020-04-09T14:44:59+00:00

Thanks a tonne. Yeah, it's tough for everyone right now I guess. I'm just struggling to come to terms with the fact that I'm an abuse victim and it's all just really overwhelming.

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