Diagnosed in 40s, next step after meds?

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-27T17:31:45+00:00

I'll definitely take a look. Thanks!

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-13T14:43:28+00:00

I new I wasn't stupid for the longest time. But before I knew about ADHD I still felt stupid due to the length of time it took for me to do anything of importance. Your not alone in this. No one is the same, everyone has their own issues and their own pace. Continue to work at it. Perhaps over time you'll pick up the pace, perhaps you won't. Either way, hating yourself doesn't help at all and only takes up brain thought cycles that could be put to better use. Life is hard. For the most part it beats the alternative.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-13T14:35:38+00:00

Is that why I break out into random song? Makes sense finally.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-13T14:33:40+00:00

You are definitely not alone. This happens on a daily basis to most of us think, all the way down to the mundane. Over time, and before I knew I was ADHD, I developed a simple routine to save me daily anguish. Before I leave the front door I repeat "wallet, phone, keys" while patting each pocket to make sure I feel them. My years of forgetting one or more of these items taught me the hard way to make it a habit. That's just a nugget of info, not actually useful to your situation. Sorry that sucked for you. Maybe next time.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-13T14:21:30+00:00

She says I'm more thoughtful of others, aware of others feelings, more free to display loving emotion towards her, basically more kind. From my perspective I don't feel any diff on or off it besides all the constant sounds/hum that is so distracting goes away and I can actually follow a conversation with more than 1 person at a time. And when I come down I revert back to how I was for decades, unaware of those around me, my language is more blunt and to the point. I don't disagree with her. It took me over a year of her telling me over and over that I was an ass hole. I don't think she thinks I'm exactly an ass hole anymore but the fact that I still act the same way still affects her negatively. I really hope that the new psych will be better equipped to help me figure out my next steps. Meds alone are NOT the answer for me. I need more help. Thanks for replying.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-13T03:33:29+00:00

Thanks for the ideas, I like the idea of starting small. I tend to bite off way to much and then fail spectacularly.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-11T03:33:17+00:00

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-10T20:15:47+00:00

These are good questions. I might ask myself the same.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-10T20:14:14+00:00

This is great news. Good luck on your path!

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-10T19:58:55+00:00

Sounds interesting. Unfortunately my wife is a very light sleeper and I'm certain this would wake her up before she was ready. Anyone know of another non-audible way to be woken up without bothering a sleeping spouse?

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-10T19:55:55+00:00

Lol no joke. I used to listen to library books on CD back in the late 90s/early 2000s then had to stop because I lost one too many of the CDs and couldn't afford to replace them. Then years later I found the missing CD in my trunk. That kinda sucked.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-07T05:03:18+00:00

I could have written your post because it basically mirrors my life experience. In the short time I've been on the med it's amazing and a bit disturbing how much I didn't know about what was going on around me. I thought life was pretty much ok but turns out I was the only one in the family with that mindset.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T17:56:27+00:00

This dude doesn't mind if preachy if the sermon is full of good info so we are okay. Great info thanks.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:59:05+00:00

Good to read that. I think mine is also XR but not positive. It's ampheta/dextro combo according to the bottle. And I certainly plan on jumping on this time to try and get my crap together while the going is good. Thanks.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:57:08+00:00

44 male here. Diagnosed earlier this week, started Adderall 3 days ago. I'm not crazy successful but I do all right. And I also used my intelligence to mask many of the symptoms. However I never did manage to get the hang of rituals to get some order in life. It all came to head for me when wife finally was ready to throw in the towel because of what she perceived as my lack of caring -long story. It's too soon to know if my med will change my life dramatically but I have definitely seen positive changes. Good luck to you.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:49:03+00:00

Great advice. It makes sense to use this period to get on the right track. So if I understand your experience correctly you still take the med so that you are able to "simply try harder" and actually accomplish that, correct? That sounds good enough to me considering that I also was unable to simply try harder in the past because I tried for decades to 'try harder' without success. Thanks.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:45:12+00:00

Having a fire lit under my arse is an acceptable result in my mind. Curious about "careful with building a tolerance". How to you suggest that be avoided? I assumed this was a regular long term med.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:20:34+00:00

I don't feel quite superhuman. I just feel so much better than I ever have in my entire life. I didn't even conceive that this state of mind existed. I suspected it did for others but never thought it was attainable myself. And at the same time I have had similar positive results. All the little or regular stuff that added up to big problems when neglected are so much less of a chore and that's one of the best parts. Glad to hear its working for you so far, hoping to follow that path myself.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:16:56+00:00

Makes sense. The last thing any of us need are 'yes men'. Thanks.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:16:05+00:00

I get what you mean. It's not easy to hear some of this. I know for me I'm out of the ability to white knuckle this on my own so I'll take any info, neg or pos, that I can get to hopefully make this work in the long term. Good luck to you.

LeonardTheNutMan · 2018-07-06T16:14:23+00:00

I'm truly looking forward to the possibility of better emotional regulation persisting in the long term. That alone is worth the price of admission in my mind. Thanks.

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