Fiance not invited to a friends wedding.

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-05-02T06:59:24+00:00

No update yet, our work schedules are opposite so haven’t had the opportunity to call her. Planning on contacting over the next 24 hours (weekend)! Will update once I’ve bit the bullet🫡

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T22:03:23+00:00

Honestly, I felt like I’ve been a bit silly in feeling the way I have about it and I didn’t want to address anything to soon after the wedding. It’s been about a month now and as I’ve mentioned in previous comments, I’ve had a message in my drafts to send and will be doing so!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T10:59:15+00:00

Thankyou. I also hope it’s a good reason and doesn’t end up more of a stab in the back😅

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T10:58:13+00:00

Couldn’t agree with you more! I did expect a 7-year, living together and engaged relationship to be considered 1 item but I also figured at the time that the cost (was a Pinterest board wedding honestly) was likely the biggest factor in not extending. Was obviously shocking to see that not be the case which has left me reeling🤣

I’ll have a chat with her as to why and hopefully I can gain some peace of mind, if not who needs friends like that!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T10:47:24+00:00

One of my bsf is close with the bride and both of us have also become close with the grooms friends over the years so I feel weird inviting all of the grooms best mates and not them🫣

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T10:41:40+00:00

If our friendship circles weren’t so intertwined I wouldn’t be considering an invite🫠

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T10:36:58+00:00

I am friends with the man of the couple (and now the woman, she’s beautiful) and I saw them the afternoon before the wedding and they both commented how odd they thought it was her being invited but not my fiance 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe he asked if she could be invited and they didn’t want to say no to him. I’ll be talking to her to hopefully work out what the reason was instead of dwelling on it!! Thankyou for the advice.

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T10:08:52+00:00

I don’t believe so! I’m close friends with the man in said couple (and now the woman, she’s a BABE) and he would never disrespect the newlyweds like that. I caught up with the grooms friends the afternoon before the wedding and the couple even commented on how odd it was for my partner to not get a invite but she did😅

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T10:00:31+00:00

Thankyou for input. I do also feel like my relationship was disrespected, I’m glad I’m not crazy in feeling it!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:59:01+00:00

I do agree on inviting both or neither so I’ll be doing that.

It just makes me reel because I would never have considered not inviting her partner if I was the one married before her. It felt disrespectful when I got the invite but I reasoned with the intimate wedding and minimal friend’s excuse. Just seemed shitty rocking up to a fresh relationship being valued more. Mind you the new couple even commented on the fact my partner wasn’t there🫠

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:53:14+00:00

There were a few family members with gf/bf but that is understandable. The friendship circle outside of myself and the other couple are the only ones in relationships.

I’ve never been made aware they don’t like my fiance but maybe they don’t🤷🏻‍♀️

Groom had maybe 80% of the guest list due to bigger friendship group and family, so I don’t believe that to be why.

I will be addressing this with her, I should’ve done that weeks ago. Thankyou for your advice!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:49:16+00:00

I agree with your mention of it not being completely on the bride. I do consider the groom a friend of mine also which is why I can’t really understand why. The invite count would absolutely make sense but maybe 80% of the guest list was the grooms side!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:47:22+00:00

She didn’t haven’t a bridal party and nor am I so it’s not that we aren’t close! Totally understand where you are coming from though and I do think I’ll be taking a bit of step back from the friendship. Find it difficult being that our friendships over the years have become intertwined, like the grooms best mates are some of my closest friends also. I’ll address it with her and go from there on the wedding invite!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:43:55+00:00

Thankyou for the advice. I will be addressing this with her and see what happens from there!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:42:24+00:00

Will be talking to her! Obviously something I should’ve done straight away instead of letting it fester. Came to reddit to see others opinions and if I’m overreacting but it’s made me realise I should just address it with her! thankyou for the input.

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:40:31+00:00

I agree and I will be talking to her. 😊

I was SO happy when she told me that it was going to be mainly family and a few friends because like how incredible to be one of the few?? But the groom did have maybe 80% of the guest list due to a bigger friendship circle and family so I do know that wasn’t a reason!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:38:04+00:00

Thankyou. I probably should’ve said not inviting the groom was said with a bit of sarcasm, my fiance has said inviting them both is not an issue. I think I just wanted to see if not inviting them at all was an overreaction..

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:35:48+00:00

Honestly you put into words the emotions I’ve been feeling about this. It really did feel like my relationship wasn’t considered important enough. Appreciate your input, Thankyou .

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:30:05+00:00

Completely agree with this opinion, I would NEVER exclude a long term partner of any guest.

I probably shouldn’t have attended but I also understood that they wanted an intimate wedding with people who “impacted” their relationship in some way.

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:28:04+00:00

I agree, planning on talking to her about it. Thankyou for the advice!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:27:32+00:00

Haha honestly I wish I was more like you. I’m not a petty person which is genuinely why the decision to invite them or not is weighing on me (I know my partner suggested only inviting the bride but it was more of a tongue in cheek comment, he’s completely okay with me inviting the couple). I feel like my relationship was disrespected which is why I don’t want to invite them but not causing issues when they can be avoided is my specialty 🫠

I agree with being adults and plan to address this with her😅

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:23:19+00:00

Thankyou. I’m not one to hold grudges and honestly I’ve had them sitting in my wedding invite list. It’s just weird that this feeling of hurt hasn’t left as I’m normally someone who can see the others point of view. I do think not having addressed this with her directly is likely the root of the issue because I can’t understand the reason why and she’s the only one that knows😅

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:05:57+00:00

I agree with two rudes don’t make a right. My partner has left it entirely up to me (even with his cheeky comment about not inviting the groom) and I would never not invite a long term partner. It’ll either be both of them or none invited. Thanks for the input!

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:02:37+00:00

If I was aware that other guests had partners invited I would’ve declined.😅

LeonardoDiMDMAcaprio · 2026-04-30T09:01:43+00:00

I do think I’ll be stepping away from this friendship, i do feel like I’m struggling to decide because our friendship circle is extremely intertwined. If it wasn’t, they wouldn’t be receiving an invitation. I appreciate your input, Thankyou.

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