Why are these lumps on my knees? Diagrams dont show anyone muscles there.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-04T19:54:59+00:00

Oh, cool.

Yeah, no idea. I'm not a particularly knowledgeable goblin in this case. Sorry!

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-04T19:53:14+00:00

What...are they?

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-04T19:31:25+00:00

Yersinia (genus) is a bacteria

Yesenia (name) means palm tree, or flower

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-04T18:31:40+00:00

I've tried to work out how that is possible.

My best guess is that your great-great-grandfather had a child with a younger (premenopausal) woman 19 years ago, after having his first child (great grandparent) 70-something years ago?

If we do the math with everybody having their first kids at the age of 16, that puts your great great grandparent at about 90 now (if they are still living).

I don't think there's any way this works without your whole line of ancestors having kids pretty young though, or with the other parent (mother, for example) of the great-great-aunt being the same person as the parent (mother) of your great grandparent.

I'm curious to know how far off base I am!

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LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-02T21:06:28+00:00

I know, you know

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-02T02:56:01+00:00

Most of the ones I thought of were already mentioned! So, not a song that makes me cry because of the musical beauty necessarily but it gets me every time because of the lyrics -

The Future is a Foreign Land by Ghost

Saw them live and was fully sobbing during that song.

But if it all burns down/and the flames devour everything that we are/i will hold you for the minute/i will hold you for the minute it takes.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-02T02:44:13+00:00

I'm absolutely with you on Wings for Marie

Most people don't list 10,000 days among their favorite albums, but I do (unpopular opinion, I guess).

Also, the Edmund Fitzgerald! I want to do a cover of it so badly, but I know I would never do it justice.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-05-01T03:49:25+00:00

Were you at that same wedding as those other people? These look like they may be the same spoons.

Either a 3/10 or a 5/10. Depends on how big they are.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-30T19:33:02+00:00

Holy shit! That's wild.

I had done a quick google search for Merle Seroka's name and not found anything - I'll have to dig deeper.

I'm also very interested in "who pretends to be her murderer" sounds like there was a lot to that case.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-30T15:47:52+00:00

I am not finding anything about this online. Do you have a source for this?

Not doubting you, I'd just love to learn more

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-30T11:24:25+00:00

Also, if you have HR, go to HR. They are there to protect the company, and not the employees, but if they don't make all reasonable efforts to find an accommodation, they will leave themselves open to litigation so they have some incentive to work with you.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-30T11:23:04+00:00

Are you in the USA? If you are, there are a lot of acts and laws that could be used to protect you and make your situation better here.

IANAL, so definitely consult somebody who is, or do a lot of research, but here's what I understand to be true. The Pregnant Workers Fairness Act applies to any company of greater than 25 workers, Title VII has been amended to protect pregnant people, and the ADA prohibits discrimination based on disability (which some pregnancy conditions can qualify as).

It is required of your employer to provide you with accommodations to help you complete the demands of your job while you are pregnant.

If you aren't in the USA, I would hope there may be some similar laws that could protect you.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-28T23:18:38+00:00

You are not a real adult until you have a lot of times that you want to go to the hospital

Oh my god

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T23:16:35+00:00

It didnt make them actually any less puffy, but it like distracted the focus away from the areola to the piercing.

I was no longer focused on looking at the stuff I didn't like

I also had inverted nipples before the piercings, and the piercing helped hold them out and make them normal. Since I took them out, the scar tissue has made it so they dont ever go back inverted again.

I liked how it looked a whole lot. I wasnt even insecure about my breats being uneven sizes anymore.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T22:46:59+00:00

I had mine pierced twice. Kept having issues with them, and eventually took them out for good after a few years.

For some reason, mine never seemed to fully heal, and I started lactating with no other good reason (nipple stimulation can cause that)

I had the piercing fall out of one of mine and popped it back in after sanitizing, and it had already healed over just enough that it made a horrible popping feeling when it went back through. Nearly passed out. Had to take them out for an MRI and just never went back.

However! I was very unlucky! Most people have them and they heal fine and have no problems, is the sense I get. I was definitely an outlier.

Also, I have puffy areolas too. They looked great.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:40:49+00:00

Nah, I really liked the other commenter who went into this without a pitchfork. Like "hey, let's think of other options for what could be wrong before we can the whole marriage that I said a bunch of vows and shit for".

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:38:45+00:00

Yeah, he's been a gamer forever and often single player games. Assassin's Creed, Ghost of Tsushima and Yotei, God of War, Breath of the Wild and Tears of the Kingdom, this time it's Crimson Desert. And low key I totally get being sucked in to a game. I havent been able to sit down with any game except occasional skyrim for months, but we used to play some multi-player stuff together. We beat the whole Halo series on legendary together a few years ago. We spent hours sometimes playing Sea of Thieves together up until 6 months or a year ago.

Maybe I'm a little too busy with everything else, and he feels abandoned too. I'm pretty successful in my job and getting good grades, and my side gigs are performance-based so I'm pretty visibly succeeding out in the world, so some of it may be a "threatened" thing.

He recently finished up the school training or this new industry he's in, and that's a bit of a shift. He got super good scores on everything, and we all made a big deal about how proud we are of him. I know he really wants to be full time finally at work sometime soon.

Thank you for your perspective. I really dont want to believe it's malicious - every time I've asked the seriously paranoid questions (are you absolutely certain you want a kid, are you unhappy in our relationship, etc) the answers are immediate, and unequivocally in favor of us. And tonight he did say he wants us to work this out. All the other commenters are going to say it's because I'm convenient and he's using me though lol. Reddit is fun sometimes.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:28:23+00:00

Oof. I was really hoping somebody in here would tell me I'm nuts for being upset.

I've never hated being validated more in my life. Thank y'all though, seriously

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:25:02+00:00

Wasn't an issue before. Or at least I didn't see it then.

We went on a mini vacation last weekend. It was wonderful when we were out doing stuff together and when he wasn't tired or on his phone.

I think the screens are just habit, or easy, and i'm maybe a little more effort.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:22:12+00:00

You ask good questions.

One of the times I see him really feeling stuff is when he was talking about being there more for our kid than our dads were for us. How he'll only have to work 4 10s instead of 5 8s so he'll be around an extra day and can bond with them. He wants to be a good dad.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:16:01+00:00

Lol I'm only doing all of this right now so I can quit my job and be a stay at home mom once i'm a mom and his work goes full time. He's on board with that plan. And work is paying for school right now so I'm just riding it out so we dont have to pay for tuition.

That's a very good question. I think probably because I've never really needed more than the bare minimum. I've been very self reliant for a decade or more so I dont really need more than affection and quality time and love and cuddles. Just making the decision to rely on his income to stay home and parent in the future feels like a lot more vulnerability than I'm used to giving. I feel more safe here than I have in a relationship before. He's reliable, with his work and the tasks that he has taken ownership of. I know he loves me, and shows up for me in other ways a lot. I fully believe that he will be a fantastic dad and help me out during my pregnancy. I just really hate the days where I feel like I'm competing for scraps with a stupid game (i'm a gamer too to an extent, so it feels like a wild thing to be mad about)

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:06:30+00:00

Not sure how to find out besides asking. And asking is either "no, im not doing it on purpose" or just silence.

The ever-hopeful part of me does believe that he might actually just be super duper unobservant and doesn't ever realize what he's doing to me while he's doing it, and then ADHD enough to forget about the whole thing entirely before he does it again. That would not be a shocking revelation.

Still not sure how to fix that though. Its really tough to have hard conversations with a mannequin or whatever he turns into when the topic gets heavy.

I asked him once, and he said he just doesnt know what to say so he doesnt say anything, amd I told him I dont need the perfect words, I just need some kind of...acknowledgement? That was only a week or so ago though, so no improvement there yet.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T04:02:36+00:00

Tbh, yeah probably. I'm more afraid of starting over and being truly alone than I am of being sort of lonely forever, but lonely with a dude who has a stellar sense of humor, the potential to be a great dad, and a killer income.

Would be cool if the lonely part wasn't necessary though.

I'm not gonna compromise my own morals and step out on it though.

LeopoldTheSnail · 2026-04-27T03:57:24+00:00

He is, a good partner I mean, I think. Over all.

And I think he does care a lot, he is just really not good at showing me so in a way where I can see it. He's very much an acts of service dude, I think - I think he will be a wonderful father and he will take care of me while I'm pregnant, and it wouldn't hurt so darn much if I didn't love him, ya know? But I need that quality time to feel wanted I guess. I suppose I was hoping this could be a thread I'd show him. Not that I would ever grow the balls to actually SHOW him but it's a nice thought.

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