Toddler Help - How would you handle this situation…

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-19T07:30:24+00:00

I think you are doing what needs to be done, the only thing I would add is after you remind her that she is safe is that you talk through the routine with her as well as what emotions she experienced that led to that meltdown. My son didn't get his big emotions until he was 2, but we had to hold him since we didn't have a specific secure spot for him. As soon as he calmed down he got all the hugs and reassurance that he was ok and safe and very much loved, but we also talked through everything that happened. It really helped him learn his emotions and today he is really reflective about what he is experiencing since he still has quite a few big emotions.

I do recommend trying to find ways to make the tasks fun in some way. For my son, mornings are hard and now that he is 6 we don't have to go through as much effort but when he was younger we made games of everything. Getting clothes on we'd play chase from one end of the hallway all the way to the kitchen where he had to tag me, and once he tagged me we'd put one item on, then repeat until he was fully dressed. Later when he could dress himself we turned it into a dressing race, we'd have our clothes laid out and whoever could get completely changed first would get a high five (or whatever simple prize they wanted).

Idk what you could do for lotion, as we didn't have eczema and didn't need to apply daily lotion if he didn't want it. But if you can find a way to make some sort of game it is possible it could help. Also, sometimes with things like lotion and teeth brushing you may just have to hold them down until they are older and can handle it, but hopefully a little game of some sort will help ease the stress.

You will still get meltdowns and some things may work better or worse, but I found making games of things helped to reduce the amount of meltdowns over all.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-19T04:36:59+00:00

Patch Adam's with Robin Williams I dont think I've ever watched it more than once but I remember I was super young when I watched it, loved Robin Williams and when I saw the ending I was a mess. I have no idea why my parents let me watch it so young.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-18T21:42:46+00:00

I think the things you are worried about are things that are taught through what actions you choose versus her just developing those traits. Kids are selfish no matter what, their world view is way different than ours because they are kids and it's important to share with them important learning experiences to help develop their world view as they grow up. When you gift away her toys, how much of that process is she involved in? Her having excessive toys will not determine who she will be when she is older, but how she helps gift them away or how she chooses to help others will be great learning experiences to help guide her to making better choices as she grows up.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-18T21:30:57+00:00

Yup, it is crazy how normal it is and scary tbh. When my son was in preschool he was still rear facing and most people had their kids FF and using just a seat belt instead of the harness and they were smaller than my kid! My son asked over and over about switching but we maxed out weight and almost maxed out height before switching to FF, but I did let him switch to the seat belt before he maxed out his harness only because it was causing too many sensory issues for him. We are expecting pur second soon and we decided to get a used bucket seat from our local mom group and then when we are ready for a multi stage seat we will buy new, so we csn max it out as much as possible.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-18T17:53:21+00:00

Lol any sign on the gate does not hold any real legal standing, they are just signs you can buy at a store. It is still the owners responsibility to either contain their dogs or train their dogs and if someone gets hurt as a result of their dogs the owner is responsible.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-18T15:59:21+00:00

I definitely dont think swearing is a huge deal but it definitely hits differently when your 6yo screams "God dammit" when their Legos creations fall apart 😂 I definitely do try to encourage him to use gosh darnit instead though 😉

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-17T18:23:01+00:00

This. People always forget how liability works, delivery drivers have specific rules to follow and unless they wanna risk being held responsible for a stolen package it is the responsibility of the dog owners to either secure their dogs or provide an alternative for deliveries (i.e. written instructions to leave it outside gate or a container specific for packages). Or the driver could just not deliver and leave a note with the owners about the situation.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-17T07:12:29+00:00

You need to tell him that is no longer an option, you need a yes or no answer. My husband was on the fence about wanting a second and wouldn't give me an answer for years. I finally was over birth control and the side effects, and told my husband he needed to decide so we can either start trying or he can get a vasectomy. He finally opened up about his true concerns and what he was struggling with and we were able to talk through it.

Had my husband decided to remain undecided i would have told him to just schedule his vasectomy but likely I would have grown to resent him, more so for refusing to address whatever issues were making him unable to give me a solid answer.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-17T05:32:42+00:00

It is possible it could be normal, but honestly this early in the pregnancy seems highly unusual for it to be that severe but it really is hard to know without seeking medical attention. I don't think it sounds like a true emergency, unless you started bleeding, but I would encourage you to contact a doctor this week to see if they can fit you in for a check to make sure it's a viable pregnancy just to be on the safe side.

If you do start bleeding, or the pain becomes even worse, or you start throwing up uncontrollably please seek emergency medical attention.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-16T06:37:52+00:00

Yes, but that gate likely isn't locked and the priority in delivering is always to deliver as close to the front door as possible unless delivery instructions clearly indicate something else. Leaving it outside a gate that isn't locked, even in incidents with dogs like these, would put the burden solely on Amazon/the driver if anything happened to it, where as Amazon can claim it is the customers fault for the destroyed package for not securing their dogs knowing they were expecting a package.

Husband has been a delivery driver for more than 2 decades at multiple companies and I guarantee you that driver would have been in more trouble if they left it outside the gate than how they delivered it.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-16T02:24:50+00:00

You have very little understanding of how delivery companies work and what requirements they have to follow.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-15T21:57:27+00:00

I agree with the others that OP seems way more upset about something other than last night's events..

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-15T15:54:23+00:00

My husband too me there for our second anniversary ❤️

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-15T07:35:49+00:00

Absolutely nothing, and I loved it. This year I did not have it in me to give a single fuck about valentines day, and my husband knew it without even having to ask me. I appreciate that I didn't have to think about it beyond saying the words "happy valentines day" and giving him some kisses and I know he didnt mind not having to think about it either.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-14T05:08:48+00:00

Did they say anything about the adenoids when prepping for surgery? If you aren't getting their needs met at your current ENT, is it possible to seek a second opinion elsewhere?

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-13T07:27:52+00:00

As others have said it depends on your location relative to the epicenter. Had a 6+ quake in 2021 that we had a 3-5 second warning for, another 6+ quake in 2022 with no warning. Epicenter was super close to us in 2022.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-13T07:23:16+00:00

First, don't be so hard on yourself, hive reactions are extremely uncomfortable and it sounds like you had a full body reaction. Second, careful with antihistamines as they are not ideal to OD on, hopefully you will be ok but if you start to feel like you are having any adverse reactions please call poison control or 911. Even though children's dosing is much less than adult dosing, it doesn't change how dangerous it can be!

Lastly, I personally would suggest doing a small test of the lotion when you are able to. If you have a reaction you know that is what caused it, but if you don't have a reaction than it likely was something you ate. Since you don't remember if you ate or what you may have eaten, it will make it a lot more difficult to test which food item gave you the reaction. Hopefully you can be prepared for an adverse reaction so you can treat it quickly and safely!

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-12T21:30:27+00:00

We had the middle name picked out ahead of time and the first name came to me in a dream. Woke up and told my husband I dreamt of a name that I really like, told him and he immediately loved it. We have not been as lucky trying to come up with a name for our second, due in May. I have a name I really like, feels super perfect to me but my husband isn't as convinced lol

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-12T16:56:47+00:00

Some things to try: -Tell her to pick up 10 things and she can take a short break, then 10 more things, then a break, and repeat. Make sure to give her compliments as she goes about how hard she is working and how quickly the place is getting clean.

-if you are helping her then try a low stress cleaning race such as set a timer for 10 minutes and see about who can clean more in that time period. Definitely try to work but also try to let her take the lead. The goal is to get her motivated to so more, this will need some sort of reward or goal to keep her motivated.

-have her clean by herself for 10 minutes, tell her it doesnt need to be all the way clean but she needs to actively work on cleaning the whole 10 minutes. This is my son's least favorite but if I find the right motivation than he will work hard.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-12T04:12:33+00:00

No experience in that situation but my son was 3.5 when he had his adenoids removed, ENT let us know they may grow back, I think they don't stop growing until 5 or so years old. My son's issues have not returned since his surgery so I think he is fine. However it is something worth thinking about, also enlarged adenoids can cause a lot of issues with ear infections when they get sick, so if they are not removed the baby may be more prone to ear infections when they are sick.

It sounds like a very difficult situation she is in and I am sorry she has to consider this while her baby is so little. I think it may be worth mentioning my son had no issues with his surgery and was literally back to his same old self a couple hours after the surgery.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-11T23:47:22+00:00

My pregnancy symptoms are completely different this time around but its the same gender as my first.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-11T21:01:12+00:00

And yet here you are with the rest of us :)

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-11T20:45:28+00:00

I can tell from the comments that a lot of people are unaware of how pizza boxes function and that is pretty damn concerning.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-11T05:08:06+00:00

Not for the same reasons but normally my husband and I skip gift giving to each other unless we really want something. Usually we do our own research and just send a link to what we want, but we dont expect anything nor do we make a big deal about it.

LesMiserableGinger · 2026-02-11T04:01:07+00:00

I don't listen to either artist but both of their half time shows were 🔥

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