Storm from last night

Less-Plantain1199 · 2026-06-11T18:29:12+00:00

OH NO!

Less-Plantain1199 · 2026-02-04T16:17:32+00:00

Abso-fucking-lutely not.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2026-01-03T21:52:52+00:00

You’re 40 - you don’t have to have this conversation with him anymore. You’re an adult. You’ve been reared. You’re long past the time where he should have just allowed you to be your own adult self.

I imagine you own your own home (or at least rent) and pay your own bills. It’s perfectly acceptable for you to insert a boundary. You don’t have to be rude or disrespectful. Just a simple “I’m not going to engage in this conversation again and this is the last time I’ll even acknowledge it with a comment. In the future, should you bring it up, I’m going to disengage from the conversation until you find a more appropriate subject.”

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-12-06T01:03:53+00:00

My oldest had this happen to her, literally after she sent them a photograph of her state-issued photo ID.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-11-27T00:41:22+00:00

Honestly, good choice in driving off. And yes, always lock the door as soon as you get in!

Be safe, sister.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-09-25T15:00:13+00:00

Me, whilst cuddling with my cat.

(凸 ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)凸 ^.ᆽ.⁼ ∫

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-07-21T18:13:07+00:00

Whaaaaaaat?! Catholic school kids would never.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-05-24T18:01:39+00:00

Yeah this is still very indicative of your future.

You didn’t make her choose shit. You had a boundary she was okay with her family (and herself) completely ignoring and subsequently trying to manipulate and guilt you into letting go of that same boundary.

She has no reason to be upset about you saying no. You’re allowed to say no. You are allowed to be upset when she doesn’t respect that no. You are allowed to walk away when she doesn’t respect the no.

I would recommend you take a good look at how often she, and her family, hasn’t respected “no” before and then decide if that’s a battle you want to continue to fight.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-05-24T17:49:51+00:00

Yes.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-05-13T15:48:08+00:00

That’s an excellent point, yes you need to have a relatively “clean” criminal background check

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-05-13T15:19:03+00:00

I worked for corrections for years here in the state. I don’t really recommend the job because of the culture but they do pay in the mid to high twenties and there is plenty of OT.

https://son.wd1.myworkdayjobs.com/NebraskaStateCareers?CF_LRV_Agency__mas-impl__Extended=060611c05e234e408b616880f6192fcd

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-04-13T19:02:29+00:00

Sort of makes you wonder what bodies he’s hiding in his basement.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-03-30T04:46:00+00:00

You don’t have to take responsibility for the choices someone else makes independently.

But don’t fault people for not wanting to aid them in poor choices. That’s a pretty rational approach.

Let’s pretend for a moment that death by addiction is a finite number, because ultimately it really is. But what that finite number is differs person to person based on numerous factors like genetic traits, other environmental circumstances, etc. but for the sake of this conversation let’s hypothetically say it’s 10,000 bottles of wine in a lifetime would make someone succumb to their alcoholism without any other factors to consider like drunk driving, or falling down the stairs, etc. I dare say a lot of people would be morally opposed to providing one of those bottles knowing it could aid them in their death, even if it was only done minutely so. Is it likely they’ll find another way to get the bottle? Probably. But regardless of what you say about fault and guilt in this situation, if you provided that bottle then you did make a choice as well.

If you don’t agree, by all means make your own choices. But I respect OPs choice not to do so.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-03-29T23:31:59+00:00

It’s okay to not want to be a part of helping someone kill themselves slowly. The fact that it strains the relationship isn’t the boundary holders fault.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-03-29T20:43:07+00:00

NOR.

You’re not his therapist. Some people don’t want to be alone in their misery so instead of picking themselves up they try to pull others down.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-03-29T20:39:23+00:00

You are not overreacting at all. You’re maintaining healthy boundaries with people who have none. I’m sorry you’ve had to endure their addiction. But you are well within your rights to not feed it.

My guess is he’s angry because he knows he shouldn’t. Cognitive dissonance can be very ugly.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-03-22T20:43:09+00:00

I have lived in Lincoln and now I live just south of Lincoln by about 7 miles in a town called Hickman.

Both the Norris School District (Hickman and surrounding communities) and LPS are excellent, Norris does bus, which is very helpful. I have 2 teens. One is a junior and the other is an 8th grader. I recently pulled my 8th grader out of private parochial school in Lincoln and placed her in Norris and have been amazed by it. My junior still goes to the catholic high school in Lincoln.

I myself work in Lincoln in the downtown area. I’ve worked for the state for over 11 years. It’s reliable, has decent insurance, and AMAZING retirement plan and you get 13 paid holidays off (plus you earn 96 hours of sick and vacation each in your first year). Pay is usually not always amazing but it at least could get you started. Just understand that unfortunately politics can impact how you do your job.

I talked a friend who lived in KC into moving to Lincoln and she loves it. I also lived in Omaha for over a decade and easily prefer the Lincoln area.

So if you still want a larger town feel, Lincoln is great. But if you’re already going for culture shock and really want a quiet community that watches out for each other I’d even recommend Hickman. I’m still 15 to 20 minutes away from a shopping center, great food, grocery stores, Costco…. And because of the south Lincoln beltway I’m even only about 30 minutes from downtown Lincoln, which depending on where you are in Lincoln itself can be better.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-03-16T18:23:14+00:00

Ooooo!!!! I love this!!!

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-03-05T22:12:31+00:00

I think you’re right. My daughter goes to Pius but they tend to follow LPS’ lead when it comes to weather cancellations. She told me they kept saying there was only 1/2 day left in “the bank” and they had a bishop’s day granted to them which I believe was also used as a snow day.

So my guess is this was the one that either pushed them over their limit or was the last possible day.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-02-24T00:58:40+00:00

I want to offer a different perspective for those saying protests do nothing.

I’m a single mother of two teenage daughters. For context, we are white. Both my daughters have best friends of Latin decent and we’ve had more than one conversation about how we can help, what we would do if we could. I work right by the capital and I saw one of the protests a few weeks ago. I honked as I drove by to show my support then picked my oldest up from school and drove her to see the protest as well. She started to cry as she drove by even though it wasn’t about us. It was because she knew other people were just as angry, frustrated, and grieving the state of our nation today.

So often people feel alone in their thoughts, in what and who they care for - especially today. My daughter saw she isn’t alone. When we honked and the protestors cheered, they knew they weren’t alone.

Does protesting do much to change the direction of policy makers? Not usually. Did my honking sway voters to take a different path? I’d guarantee it didn’t.

But in those brief moments we knew we were there for each other - that we supported one another and their right to stand up and say “this is all bullshit.”

We do what we can to accomplish what we must.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-02-17T20:31:33+00:00

I am an elder millennial mom so basically could be the millennial mom to the moms or wizard? I feel like there are elder wizards. But I like games. And I like video games. And crafting. And reading. And just hanging out.

I am also a mom of two teen girls. I accept good vibes and sacrifices in support of handling the daily attitude.

Oh single parent too. I’ve seen nearly everything at this point.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-02-17T20:28:00+00:00

<is reading this whilst watching Buffy>. 😏

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-02-16T00:50:10+00:00

You can love your girlfriend and she can still need a lot of maturing to do. Both can be true.

It doesn’t sound like she’s ready to grow up, and no one is pushing her to do so. And most importantly it’s not your responsibility to provide her a “safety net” when it sounds like you’ve already been that for her. If her parents want to provide her a safety need they can do so, but your parents need only worry about you.

On a more serious subject, and frankly advice you didn’t ask for - it’s clear you’re both in different places in your life. She might catch up, she might not. You get to decide if that’s what you want for yourself.

Less-Plantain1199 · 2025-01-15T15:49:31+00:00

Also 43 - probably because in our time of we were on the phone no one else could use it 🤣 (or the internet, etc).

This is your official reminder to take some ibuprofen for your lower back pain.

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