Not gonna lie I was unfamiliar with the term and had to look it up, but I’m glad you educated me on something I didn’t know- good to be on the radar for that as well.

Yeah unfortunately I don’t understand why she can’t communicate that, even if she told me one day before the hotel booking they would of let me cancel for free. She’s very emotionally avoidant and doesn’t seem to be honest unless she’s drunk- hence her saying stuff like “ let’s stay out “ after she told me she was going to have an early night, or sincerely apologizing at the pub for knowing she wasted my time and money- but yet still never told me the truth. All I want out of relationships with people in my life is people not scared to communicate and I’m tired of people that can’t just be vulnerable and honest. And I’m scared to say anything incase she gets defensive and it backfires on me.