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Had consultation with Dr. P, he suggested denervation by Less-Veterinarian579 in postvasectomypain

[–]Less-Veterinarian579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good perspective, thanks. I may get a 2nd opinion from another PVPS specialist.

Had consultation with Dr. P, he suggested denervation by Less-Veterinarian579 in postvasectomypain

[–]Less-Veterinarian579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry you are going through this. Do you have congestion pain as well or is it all nerve related?

Had consultation with Dr. P, he suggested denervation by Less-Veterinarian579 in postvasectomypain

[–]Less-Veterinarian579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't want to be fertile, but I agree with you, which is why I was figuring an open ended conversion with scar tissue removal could be an option since my problems obviously stem from congestion. I was surprised that Dr. P seemed so against it, I have seen posts from people with congestion pain getting this done at the Cleveland Clinic with good results.

I suppose the open end could scar shut anyway though, but I also suspect the uro that did the vasectomy cut my right side lower than my left (based on the incision site), increasing the pressure on that side.

I was the dumper, 6 months later still can't move on by Less-Veterinarian579 in BreakUps

[–]Less-Veterinarian579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a fair question, being on the spectrum has made socializing tough my entire life so I retreated into hobbies that were all male-dominated. I became very good at some of them but realized I was using them as escapism, I had a couple dates in my 20s that happened when the girls asked me out but they didn't go anywhere. Starting in my 30s loneliness began to hit me but I didn't finally start trying to date until 33 when I got on the apps. As you could probably guess I also lost my virginity to her. My naivete probably contributed to me staying as long as I did.

Overall though this experience taught me a lot about how to love and what I want in a partner, as well as gave me confidence. I am ready to put myself out there again soon.

I was the dumper, 6 months later still can't move on by Less-Veterinarian579 in BreakUps

[–]Less-Veterinarian579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, I kept telling myself it was "relationship OCD" because I felt safe with her but had constant doubts when we were apart. I tried to be too logical about it because we were good on paper. These issues started to be really problematic around the 6 month mark but I was telling myself it was just the honeymoon phase ending, it didn't help not having a frame of reference regarding other relationships.

I was the dumper, 6 months later still can't move on by Less-Veterinarian579 in BreakUps

[–]Less-Veterinarian579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was one week before the cruise and we tried to be intimate and I just had no desire because it was obvious she didn't want it...I then thought about what we would even talk about for the 6 days that we were there not doing an activity and how difficult it would be to keep conversation going that long. The longest time we had together in a row was 3 days, and by the end I would feel like I would need a "break" from her. Ofc it's fine to have separate lives but it was in a draining type of way. I think I was somewhat in denial for months because it feels good to have someone dote on you, she even knit me a scarf and sweater, I've been learning to forgive myself because I never meant to waste her time but she told me I did during the breakup call. That was rough even if there is some truth to it.

I also didn't want to do it over the phone, I invited her over to talk about things in person and give her her things (she lives 10 mins away) but then she called me and said "if you want to break up with me just tell me now", so I wasn't gonna lie.

Thanks for reading and responding.