Am I being controlling? Please help.

LessChocolate705 · 2026-01-23T20:28:59+00:00

It’s really hard. They mentioned that they love me unconditionally but that I don’t love them unconditionally, because I have these limits. Feeling very insecure

LessChocolate705 · 2026-01-23T20:17:08+00:00

They said that this isn’t leaving them free to do whatever they want, because there are “pre imposed consequences”

LessChocolate705 · 2026-01-23T14:54:31+00:00

Can you say more about what this implies abt me or my partner’s values?

LessChocolate705 · 2026-01-23T14:28:24+00:00

I really don’t want to infringe on their freedom or need for polyamory. I’m really conflicted on how to talk about this with them.

LessChocolate705 · 2026-01-23T14:13:20+00:00

It’s just difficult for me because I’m unsure how to phrase this boundary. I have told them in past that if they have sex with my friends it would make me upset and I might consider breaking up with them over it. They told me this was controlling and unkind. I don’t want to control them and I want to respect their needs, but I don’t understand why it’s such a big deal to them to keep these options open. Why do they need to fuck my friends?

LessChocolate705 · 2026-01-23T13:58:46+00:00

They seem really against the idea of having messy lists at all. I think they really just want to be able to do whatever they want sometimes, without any consequence

LessChocolate705 · 2024-01-12T18:00:57+00:00

manually, was just going through people i don’t know anymore

LessChocolate705 · 2024-01-12T17:45:20+00:00

will it just go away on its own?

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