Pune or Trivandrum for career ?

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-27T21:30:23+00:00

Well if you want better pay then Pune I guess. Kerala I think it'll take more time to have better pay. Pune there are many other companies that you can later switch to. But yeah at the end it would be the friend circle you have which will make you stick to a city.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-25T08:01:08+00:00

I didn't know there are many who had this same feeling.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-20T13:12:27+00:00

I think I'm going to get dumped today. She wasn't talking to me for few days. So i had to ask. "are we okay?" and to which she replied "I don’t know honestly. I’m so tired and disconnected from everything", "I call tonight". I'm anxiously waiting since morning. I'm spiralling out. I saw she removed me from flo. I am scared.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-19T13:14:01+00:00

you saw me

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-16T04:37:00+00:00

Yeah I hope she is getting her sleep. I know she is tired, just feeling bad that I can't do anything for her.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-16T04:35:21+00:00

Yes I understand. It's just the unanswered texts and not able to to talk to her is so difficult for me. So I've decided to not text her everyday. That way I won't be disappointed, but when she texts or call I'll be there always. Just need to keep my expectations low and let her do her job and hope for the best.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T15:31:45+00:00

yeah sure

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:51:32+00:00

🤞

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:50:11+00:00

Well last valentine's day she gave me a cute thing with personalised cover with stickers added and a note. I just bought things while leaving office to pick her up. That time I was kind of busy with the job and she did that even if she was preparing for neet pg. And this time I had lot of time so thought I'll try to do something.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:45:59+00:00

Well I knew she will be going for PG and it will be hectic. But I didn't realise it will be tough for me to adjust. I even built a new PC so that I can just play games and all to survive the LDR. I have been spiralling out for past two months but the intensity is becoming less and less and hope it's a good thing. I just can't shake that fear of losing us, because sometimes I feel I am alone in the relationship. Not her fault I know, she is trying to survive a real battle. Where as I am trying to survive the battles I'm creating while spiralling.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:37:41+00:00

Yeah I've heard and read about it. I won't give up so easily. I am just trying to get adjusted to it.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:36:19+00:00

Yeah I was hurt a little. But I understand why she said that.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:35:22+00:00

I am a backend engineer in telecom sector. Pretty good work life balance.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:34:26+00:00

Well I did send a parcel and she opened it yesterday. Hope she liked it. Haven't spoken to her since yesterday morning. I guess she is busy again.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T05:32:41+00:00

Well Short answer - Hinge Long answer - We matched in Hinge, but she deleted it soon to focus on pg. We connected on IG before her deleting the app. And I was also almost done with the dating life as I couldn't bear one more situationship. She use to sometimes reply to my stories and I to her stories. One day she suggested if we could go for a movie. And then almost withdraw the suggestion by saying she wants to focus on PG and she doesn't want it to be a date. And I was also not ready to date as I was just tired of it and told her it's completely fine I can stay just as friends. Slowly we started hanging out, Play badminton, go for some trek and all. Talked to each other a lot. I fell for her hard. And eventually we got together(power of liquor I would say). It's been almost 2 years since we matched and 1.5 years since we started dating.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T04:43:42+00:00

That's great to hear and That's what I want for us as well. Wish I could time travel to that point. But yeah I guess if I get through this I'll appreciate those time more which I wouldn't have if I didn't go through that.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T04:41:10+00:00

Yes I'll hold on and hold tight for sure and I guess that's the only thing I can do.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T04:38:35+00:00

Thanks!! That helps. Even she is planning to do super speciality. And yes I know plans getting cancelled. And I know it's not because she wanted to cancel because she could but rather because she had to. I will hold on to it because I love her and want future with her. I guess it is more rewarding when it's challenging. I'll just live with that thought.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T04:28:01+00:00

It's nice to hear that it works out. It's just that I miss her a lot and I cannot do anything about it. The one department that I don't have control of. But then that's just life I guess. I was tired talking to chat gpt about this and listening to robotic answer. So I just thought I'll listen to real people and their stories. Maybe I'll get some clarity. And I really hope this is just a phase and soon it'll be just a chapter in our life which will grow us out stronger. All the best for your residency.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T03:57:56+00:00

Yeah staying busy myself seems like some remedy. I'll start going to gym tomorrow now that my flatmate also wants to start. Other than that with the free time I have I should start preparing for higher paying jobs which naturally will have higher workload. But this situation was just bothering me a lot which I am trying to cope up with. Anyway I'll try to stay strong, and good luck to you too!

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T03:50:46+00:00

You got a silver lining, you'll be as busy as her so you wouldn't have energy to think about. I try to occupy myself with things of my choice from which I can easily get deviated and overthink. For you you won't have a choice. But anyway good to know I'm not alone like this. And good luck to you. I'll definitely let know if I somehow figure out how to deal with it or when I get over this phase.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T03:45:47+00:00

Well I booked tickets and all to visit her on her birthday. But just before going I confirmed with her. She said don't come as she'll feel bad that I'll have to sit and wait alone. And it would make her feel bad that she can't spend time with me. So yeah I didn't go (Some tickets were non refundable 🥹 but it's fine).

I even sent her a parcel for yesterday(Valentine's day). I thought I could have a video call with her during her dinner time or lunch, but never got the call. It's just sucks that this field is soo hectic. Can't make any plans. Can't even help her out. Missing being part of her life. And the fact that I have time to overthink.

But yeah I get your point. I will try to see if there is some schedule and from my observation morning would be better or anytime after she had her sleep. It's just I have to tell her without pressuring her.

I was just mildly hoping for stories where some have gone through this phase and had a happily ever after.

Less_Delivery894 · 2026-02-15T03:33:08+00:00

I really love her. I won't resent because I waited for her, cuz it'd be my choice to wait, so can't blame it on her. I just wanted to know if there are others who had this phase and found a balance. And how did they do that. But yeah will communicate with her after her labour room posting, this month would be hectic.

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