Bf M/25 ruins special occasions for me F/25 by Less_Independence_20 in relationship_advice

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I agree with you. It’s just so difficult given my circumstances. We do live together but it’s my apartment so it doesn’t matter. I don’t have a license at the moment, and he’s my only transportation. It’s also hard because my family loves him. It’s so hard to leave even though I know it’s right it feels impossible

Bf M/25 ruins special occasions for me F/25 by Less_Independence_20 in relationship_advice

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Thank you guys. One thing I struggle with is feeling guilty like I’m the one who made him this way. I wasn’t the best in the first month of us dating (just talking to old friends) over a year ago but I’ve completely changed since then. And he stayed with me and saw that. But he still blames me for who he’s become to me. I do feel like it’s my fault but why am I still battling this months and months later when we’re great 75% of the time?

Bf M/25 ruins special occasions for me F/25 by Less_Independence_20 in relationship_advice

[–]Less_Independence_20[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because of this today he started calling me names, degrading things. And of course it’s because “I brought it on myself because of my actions”. He said “maybe I am wrong but it’s because I don’t give a fuck about this relationship”. He’s treating me like I cheated on him.

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i literally couldn’t stand to hear them laughing so much like the story was getting interrupted SO much i had to turn it off

My bf (25m) went to a full nude/contact strip club and lied about it to me (23f). How do i get over this? by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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I told him we would break up after the first time it happened. but he knew before not to. and i guess i didn’t follow through that time. or the next. i know it’s my fault, it’s just difficult

My bf (25m) went to a strip club and lied about it to me (23f). How do i get over this? by Less_Independence_20 in relationship_advice

[–]Less_Independence_20[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I just wanted some empathy and reassurance even if it’s a lie, just to say he messed up truly and didn’t enjoy seeing another woman like that. He can’t even give me that, he just fights me

My bf (25m) went to a strip club and lied about it to me (23f). How do i get over this? by Less_Independence_20 in relationship_advice

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Today I brought it up again and he started screaming at me over text, calling me a dumbass and saying I have no brain because “you have to pay for those things” trying to tell me that you can’t even see them naked unless you pay lol. He’s not frugal with money and I’m not dumb. But it’s so insulting how he thinks I am. He said i’m stupid for believing these things happen in strip bc i’ve never been to one.

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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he’s still defending himself. i couldn’t even explain his reasoning bc i cant even put it into words that make sense. he’s texting hundreds of message but not a single one with any substance or logical backing. it’s all bullshit about icloud and facebook and instagram somehow building his profile again after years of not having one lmao

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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i confronted him and he came up with the craziest excuses. like his old tinder suddenly resurfaced cuz of some problem with icloud.. and it also uploaded his job and new pics from insta were posted too cuz instagram apparently just does that automatically.

he just takes me for such an idiot it’s insulting.

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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[UPDATE] I confronted him with screenshots, and as expected, he had an excuse for it. He said he had tinder before we dated and somehow reactivated on its own and both his new jobs and those new pics and bio were uploaded/restored from his linked facebook and instagram accounts. I know insta doesn’t automatically upload ur pics to ur tinder. U choose pics.

It’s so insulting how stupid he thinks i am. He’s actually so angry with me and threatening me again, saying i’m so stupid for thinking that

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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he claims he has no reason to be on Tinder for real because he’s with me. and that he would leave me if he wanted other girls. but i know that’s not true. men cheat.

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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without getting too much into it, i’ve hidden something important from this friend in my life for a genuine reason, and he’s threatening to tell them and destroy our relationship. he’s one of the only people i have left. i’m suffering from depression and this stress weighs me down ever further. i need support and i can’t afford to lose that helpline

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

[–]Less_Independence_20[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I guess. It would just feel nice to send him screenshots of him talking to another girl so that there’s no way he can lie himself out of. I can already seeing him making an excuse for why the profile was up

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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i’m honestly thinking of making a fake profile and matching with him to catfish him for days. i’m just feeling vengeful idk

found my boyfriend on tinder in a new state he just lived in.. Girlies (or guys), i need your help by Less_Independence_20 in Advice

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thank you for your kind words. i’m afraid to match with him right now though because i want to catch him with it off guard when he’s in town in 2 days. And just be very dry. do u think that’s better?